DH has a high paid job, I'm a SAHM and we have a 5y DS. I do absolutely everything for DC, have no support whatsoever as we live far away from both families due to DH's job.
I would love to work, but I feel like a single parent as well as the only source of attention my DS has. We have friends and I do my best to allow DS to socialise, but everybody has their lives.
DH works from home and sleeps until 9am. Finishes work around 6pm and has the evening for himself. I also think he is autistic. He has no interest in socialising with anyone. Only talks to me and to his mom. Never wants to go out with DS. Parenting for him is watching TV all day long while DS is on a tablet. Same when we are on holiday. He just doesn't have a lot of energy to do much.
He has a lot of energy to argue though. Endless arguments on a loop about the most trivial things. I ask to stop multiple times. I say it's not the right moment. He simply doesn't stop until I break. Then I have "anger problems".
Example: I'm hosting a halloween party Friday for the kids. He took 3 days off. I asked him to have DS for one day so I can clean and organise the house. I asked if he can take DS out to the barbers, etc. He said he will do whatever he wants (watching TV) and I don't have a say in that. He has been arguing about it for 24 hours.
I think this is extremely draining to our relationship. I feel I'm wasting my life in a relationship where I have to shut down anything I want if I want to live in peace.
My question is: Is it normal to argue so much and so long for trivial things? Is it too much to ask my partner to have a day out with DS?
He has a half sister who is autistic level 3 of support but doesn't accept there is anything wrong with him.
I am so miserable. What would you do in my position?