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To tell couple off in park?

302 replies

TLOAS · 28/10/2025 11:38

Walking through the park this morning. It’s a lovely park with lots of woodland but big open grass area in the centre and home to lots of wildlife. The squirrels were running round this morning when I see one couple stopped with their dog who was pulling on the lead while looking at a squirrel. The couple, fully aware of this, lean down and upclip the lead and dog pelts at the squirrel.

I shout over, I say shout but it was a little windy and about 20ft away, and say why would you do that? They asked do what so I said “why would you purposely take the dog off the lead knowing it was going to chase the squirrel?” They shouted back some nonsense about it only being a squirrel and that their dog is only small and to mind my own business.

WIBU to tell them that the size of their dog doesn’t entitle them to purposely release it on a squirrel and terrorise wildlife?

OP posts:
Jellybunny56 · 28/10/2025 13:45

DuchessofStaffordshire · 28/10/2025 13:42

We shoot (mostly rabbits) which we eat. We have a lab who picks them up for us. We don't go deliberately letting him off the lead to harass and chase wildlife.

Ah yes, this is much better. I imagine the rabbits are not at all alarmed, scared or chased away by the sound, and bullets, of your gun🙃

Rainbows41 · 28/10/2025 13:45

You need to get a life. Dogs literally chased other animals - it's what they do.

Mumteedum · 28/10/2025 13:46

I watched a man in a local park so the same with his lurcher/greyhound, and it killed it in front of my five year old.

Youraveragelass · 28/10/2025 13:47

Jellybunny56 · 28/10/2025 13:45

Ah yes, this is much better. I imagine the rabbits are not at all alarmed, scared or chased away by the sound, and bullets, of your gun🙃

I would take a bullet over being shaken and ripped to shreds by a terrier.

Cosyblankets · 28/10/2025 13:47

outerspacepotato · 28/10/2025 12:27

Dogs have to be on a 6 ft leads where I am unless in dog runs or certain dog parks. You're also supposed to prevent your dog from chasing other animals like squirrels. They're also licensed and have rabies tags to show they're vaxxed. That's the law.

Somehow, the dogs thrive.

If i lived there I would drive somewhere else to walk my dog off lead

Ellerby · 28/10/2025 13:48

Woodenwonder · 28/10/2025 13:42

I've never experienced a domestic cat being purposely set on a bird - what circles do you move in?? If you know cat owners who do this I'd suggest they are quite weird individuals and you should distance yourself.

Cats are never kept on leads. Therefore cats kill tens of millions of birds in Britain every year. Because their owners let them. How is that different?

Jellybunny56 · 28/10/2025 13:50

Youraveragelass · 28/10/2025 13:47

I would take a bullet over being shaken and ripped to shreds by a terrier.

Good for you, unless we go individually ask every single rabbit for their thoughts what you would prefer is irrelevant though.

A squirrel can outrun a dog quite easily, a bullet though? Not so much.

MissMoneyFairy · 28/10/2025 13:50

user2848502016 · 28/10/2025 11:47

There’s a massive difference between chasing a squirrel and actually catching and harming one.

I would think the couple knew their dog better than you do and know it was not actually going to catch the squirrel.

So what was the point then other to amuse the dog and frighten a small animal, seems pretty pointless and cruel.

Wordsmithery · 28/10/2025 13:51

I agree with OP. It's one thing to have a dog who is running around and then happens to sniff at a rabbit hole. It's quite another to encourage a dog by letting it off a lead when it's straining to chase something.
We've had a couple of situations locally where dogs have chased and killed swans. Owner unable (or didn't want) to do anything. You should be in control of your dog when in public. Simple as that.

HangingOver · 28/10/2025 13:52

Chiseltip · 28/10/2025 11:44

Well, they are committing the offence of allowing a dog to be dangerously out of control.

FFS

Cosyblankets · 28/10/2025 13:52

BelatrixLestrange · 28/10/2025 13:39

No, dogs should never be off lead in public spaces. End of. Take them to one of the secure spaces that exist for an off lead run around.

There's way more to exercising the dog that just running around. When i walk my dog there are some days he doesn't run. But he's off the lead using his brain while i play hunting games with him.

Ellerby · 28/10/2025 13:53

Wordsmithery · 28/10/2025 13:51

I agree with OP. It's one thing to have a dog who is running around and then happens to sniff at a rabbit hole. It's quite another to encourage a dog by letting it off a lead when it's straining to chase something.
We've had a couple of situations locally where dogs have chased and killed swans. Owner unable (or didn't want) to do anything. You should be in control of your dog when in public. Simple as that.

Why doesn't anybody ever say this about cats? Cats chase and kill literally tens of millions of birds in the UK every year. But a dog kills a swan, and it's terrible!

Megifer · 28/10/2025 13:53

Jellybunny56 · 28/10/2025 13:43

Just wondering where all the “omg no not scaring an animal” people would draw the line really, out of curiosity.

1 squirrel in a public park that runs up a tree and comes to no harm- OUTRAGE, Mumsnet thread, ring the police and prosecute IMMEDIATELY !!

500 chickens brutally murdered to stock your McDonalds with nuggets… I didn’t see that thread? Interesting to know the moral difference really, in your own justification.

I dont see anyone saying to ring the police?

Whats your justification for suggesting any and all animal cruelty is ok just because some people eat meat?

Seems a bit of a strange stance. Its preferable to not be outraged if someone stamped on a kitten for example because I eat chicken occasionally? Isn't that a little sociopathic?

I say this as an ex vegan btw. I never met a vegan who appeared to prefer someone support all animal cruelty rather than be a hypocrite, they all seemed happy that people cared in some way. Is this a new extreme type of veganism?

HangingOver · 28/10/2025 13:55

ChocolateCinderToffee · 28/10/2025 12:16

I knew some dog person would come out with ‘what about cats’ and here you are! I actively discourage my cat from hunting.

Sorry I know I'm childish but I can just picture you pointing sternly to a sign with a picture of a mouse on it and a cross through it whole DCat blinks politely 😁

Tiredofwhataboutery · 28/10/2025 13:57

JudgeBread · 28/10/2025 12:49

Just out of genuine curiosity, do you think outdoor cats should be banned and people forced to keep them indoors? Because I'd wager cats are responsible for far, far more small fluffy animals being dead or terrified than dogs and yet you never see the same amount of vitriol towards cats being loose as you do dogs being off lead.

I think( whilst sad for the birds) having lots of cats is probably a good thing for keeping local vermin populations down. I suspect we’d be awash with rats / mice / squirrels (surpringly destructive in the loft) without a resident cat population.

Jellybunny56 · 28/10/2025 13:57

Megifer · 28/10/2025 13:53

I dont see anyone saying to ring the police?

Whats your justification for suggesting any and all animal cruelty is ok just because some people eat meat?

Seems a bit of a strange stance. Its preferable to not be outraged if someone stamped on a kitten for example because I eat chicken occasionally? Isn't that a little sociopathic?

I say this as an ex vegan btw. I never met a vegan who appeared to prefer someone support all animal cruelty rather than be a hypocrite, they all seemed happy that people cared in some way. Is this a new extreme type of veganism?

Have a read back through the thread and you’ll see all the posts about this being illegal & to prosecute, hope that helps :)

Interesting though you haven’t actually responded to what I asked. Why is a dog chasing 1 squirrel up a tree not okay, but humans killing hundreds of animals every day okay?

You either care, or you don’t. Unless you’re suggesting that this 1 squirrel is worth more than the 500 chickens, the cows, pigs etc…

It’s not okay for a dog to chase a squirrel but as long as your nuggets are neatly packaged in a Birds Eye box you’ll turn a blind eye there😂

QuaintJadeFox · 28/10/2025 14:01

Made me laugh, dogs will always chase squirrels, it’s normal and natural. I’d have told you to mind your own business too! It’s part of life, chill out!!!

HangingOver · 28/10/2025 14:02

If it were a rat no one would give a shit

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 28/10/2025 14:04

Chiseltip · 28/10/2025 11:44

Well, they are committing the offence of allowing a dog to be dangerously out of control.

Yeah, let's call Constable Nutkin.

Happyjoe · 28/10/2025 14:04

Bravo OP!
I do voluntary gardening in the church behind my house and so many people think it's funny to allow their dogs to run in there, chasing the squirrels, birds and neighbourhood cats while they wait at the entrance. It's really not good for the wildlife..
I've had 2 lots of neighbours fall out with me because I asked them to put them on a lead, or at least come into the church grounds with their dogs so they can keep an eye on them as the dogs would go out of sight. The self-entitlement of people these days is quite frankly disgusting. Church has since put up a sign, asking owners to keep dogs on leads and it's helped somewhat.

As a previous dog owner and growing up with them, we just didn't really allow the dog off a lead, unless in a massive field somewhere or up on the South Downs where we lived. It's about being a responsible dog owner - if the dog wants to chase, take a ball.

Chiseltip · 28/10/2025 14:06

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 28/10/2025 14:04

Yeah, let's call Constable Nutkin.

Who?

Hellohelga · 28/10/2025 14:08

BluntPlumHam · 28/10/2025 12:59

It is to have a dog out of control in a public place.

Chasing a squirrel isn’t out of control.

HarrietHedgehog · 28/10/2025 14:10

Ideally, yes.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 28/10/2025 14:10

Happyjoe · 28/10/2025 14:04

Bravo OP!
I do voluntary gardening in the church behind my house and so many people think it's funny to allow their dogs to run in there, chasing the squirrels, birds and neighbourhood cats while they wait at the entrance. It's really not good for the wildlife..
I've had 2 lots of neighbours fall out with me because I asked them to put them on a lead, or at least come into the church grounds with their dogs so they can keep an eye on them as the dogs would go out of sight. The self-entitlement of people these days is quite frankly disgusting. Church has since put up a sign, asking owners to keep dogs on leads and it's helped somewhat.

As a previous dog owner and growing up with them, we just didn't really allow the dog off a lead, unless in a massive field somewhere or up on the South Downs where we lived. It's about being a responsible dog owner - if the dog wants to chase, take a ball.

I do voluntary gardening in the church behind my house and so many people think it's funny to allow their dogs to run in there, chasing the squirrels, birds and neighbourhood cats while they wait at the entrance. It's really not good for the wildlife..

You do realise what harm cats do to wildlife?

Megifer · 28/10/2025 14:12

Jellybunny56 · 28/10/2025 13:57

Have a read back through the thread and you’ll see all the posts about this being illegal & to prosecute, hope that helps :)

Interesting though you haven’t actually responded to what I asked. Why is a dog chasing 1 squirrel up a tree not okay, but humans killing hundreds of animals every day okay?

You either care, or you don’t. Unless you’re suggesting that this 1 squirrel is worth more than the 500 chickens, the cows, pigs etc…

It’s not okay for a dog to chase a squirrel but as long as your nuggets are neatly packaged in a Birds Eye box you’ll turn a blind eye there😂

Doesn't help really as ive not seen a single post saying, quote "ring the police and prosecute IMMEDIATELY !!"

Im happy to answer - because, like vegans, I do what I can and am willing to do to support various causes. Some im willing to do more for.

What I never did, as a vegan, was say to a meat eater that it was ridiculous them being upset about <whatever> form of animal cruelty because they ate meat.

Why didn't I (and the many other vegans i know/knew) say that?

Because we're not spiteful people who would rather see a meat eater not give a shit about any animal at all. That would be very counter productive and not particularly intelligent.

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