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To tell couple off in park?

302 replies

TLOAS · 28/10/2025 11:38

Walking through the park this morning. It’s a lovely park with lots of woodland but big open grass area in the centre and home to lots of wildlife. The squirrels were running round this morning when I see one couple stopped with their dog who was pulling on the lead while looking at a squirrel. The couple, fully aware of this, lean down and upclip the lead and dog pelts at the squirrel.

I shout over, I say shout but it was a little windy and about 20ft away, and say why would you do that? They asked do what so I said “why would you purposely take the dog off the lead knowing it was going to chase the squirrel?” They shouted back some nonsense about it only being a squirrel and that their dog is only small and to mind my own business.

WIBU to tell them that the size of their dog doesn’t entitle them to purposely release it on a squirrel and terrorise wildlife?

OP posts:
Garamousalata · 28/10/2025 15:24

Grey squirrels are an invasive species, which threaten the existence of our own red squirrels.

Some people actively hunt and kill them, in an attempt to help our red squirrels survive.

Putting that issue aside, obviously the squirrel in question escaped, as if it hadn’t, the OP would have said. The squirrels on my local park are well used to being chased. In 20 years I’ve never seen one caught.

Catwench · 28/10/2025 15:24

I have this argument quite frequently in our local nature reserve about people’s dogs chasing the geese. I always get a mouthful and told the dog won’t hurt them. The geese don’t know that and I have seen dogs hurt them. Fed up of people thinking it’s acceptable for their dog to chase wildlife.

Happyjoe · 28/10/2025 15:26

Megifer · 28/10/2025 15:01

Ive rehabilitated more than a few greys when I used to have a huge disused aviary and word got out i was some strange bird/mouse/animal lady everyone brought injured wildlife too so hopefully ive made up a bit for that prick!!

No idea what i was doing like 🤣 would just sneakily go to the vet with the little things and he'd give me meds for them and we'd cross our fingers.

Had a couple come back to visit me and they'd take food out my hand 🥰

That's so lovely! Nature rehabbers such as yourself are worth your weight in gold. Deffo made up for the prick!! Glad had a vet on side - I bet you learned a lot as went on.

We helped a grey baby once, was climbing up people's legs (sign of desperation) in a park next to a very busy road. Waited around to see if mum was about for a couple of hours and then took it home at dusk, presuming mum been harmed and no sign of other babies. Heat source out in the garden in a cozy wooden box (it freaked indoors), food, animal milk and he/she stayed with us for a few weeks until big enough. He built a nest up in our tree before then going on to squirrel life elsewhere, but have a lovely photo of it sitting on partners head for memories. All creatures deserve a chance to live :-)

Woodenwonder · 28/10/2025 15:27

Ellerby · 28/10/2025 13:48

Cats are never kept on leads. Therefore cats kill tens of millions of birds in Britain every year. Because their owners let them. How is that different?

Cats aren't (usually) kept on leads as you've rightly stated. I think you've answered your own "whats the difference" question here. Cats and Dogs are different species, maybe start your own thread to discuss cats, if cats are your chosen subject.

Dogs are kept on leads to exert a level of control when they're being walked. Consciously taking a dog out of your control so it can frighten and potentially hurt something else whilst out on a walk with you is weird and distasteful behaviour. These people are weirdos.

Annanirvana · 28/10/2025 15:28

HornungTheHelpful · 28/10/2025 14:38

No, you're quite right, they don't. But we are not talking about sheep, are we? Or ground nesting birds. We're talking about squirrels. So the question is whether or not harm is caused to squirrels by being chased. And I would say that if there is no lasting harm caused by distress, if the squirrel is distressed (of which I am not convinced) then arguably it's not a massive problem.

I do often wonder how fragile people imagine wildlife is in order for it to be significantly impacted by evading domestic pets. While there is reams of scientific research on the damage cats do - largely through killing wildlife - there is very little scientific research on the impact of non-fatal dog behaviour on wildlife.

Again, I reiterate, that I do everything I consider reasonable in order to ensure that my dogs do not impact wild or domesticated animals - they will be on a lead long before we are close to any domesticated animals, I do not walk them in ground nesting bird areas in nesting season, and when I walk my Mum's weimaraner, which is capable of chasing and bringing down a deer, I keep him on a lead. But that doesn't mean that I give any credence to the idea that we will need to be setting up group therapy for squirrels that have survived being chased to a tree by a dog that was never close to catching them in the first place.

Thank you, thats a very interesting and detailed post. However, I would like to make a couple of points.
Speaking as a Scientist, how can we tell what squirrels, or any other animal experiences when they are pursued?
Also, many pet owners claim that their pet is harmless and seem to know, or think they know, what their pets are feeling or thinking?
There are plenty of reliable official statistics recording how many dog attacks on humans there are each year. (A and E figures are in the hundreds of thousands.)
Should we place dogs above livestock? Above wildlife? Humans?

TheignT · 28/10/2025 15:30

Hoppinggreen · 28/10/2025 11:49

Not a lot of fun for the squirrel though is it?

You don't know, it might be sitting in the tree having a laugh at the silly dog.

Woodenwonder · 28/10/2025 15:31

Happyjoe · 28/10/2025 14:51

A single person killing greys in his garden isn't going to bring back the reds. One of the main reasons red squirrels have few left was because of lack of habitat and food. We cut down all their trees... and they have a narrower diet than the greys.

Victorians too mass culled the Reds, thinking they were a pain.. like people think of the greys now. All your friend is doing is killing for the sake of it. I hope he does it humanely, as it is illegal to let them suffer. Utterly pointless thing to do.

Edited

He just sounds like a grim person. Like he likes killing things and pretending it's for some kind of greater good. What an oddball

Happyjoe · 28/10/2025 15:38

Had a couple come back to visit me and they'd take food out my hand

I missed this bit! That's just beautiful :-)

@Megifer

CherrieTomaties · 28/10/2025 15:38

Chiseltip · 28/10/2025 11:44

Well, they are committing the offence of allowing a dog to be dangerously out of control.

Dangerously out of control 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Squirrelinthelionenclosure · 28/10/2025 15:39

It sounds like they did it deliberately, when there was no need. But I once saw a squirrel in the lion enclosure at Knowsley Safari park and though two of them darted at it just like regular cats would when one runs by, and they can obviously climb most of a tree in one movement, it got away smoothly.

Megifer · 28/10/2025 15:42

Happyjoe · 28/10/2025 15:38

Had a couple come back to visit me and they'd take food out my hand

I missed this bit! That's just beautiful :-)

@Megifer

I know, I really miss them. Their fur is so soft and they really are sweet little things, i dont rehabilitate anymore sadly but i do pick up acorns I see when im out and about and scatter them around our garden 😊

LittleBitofBread · 28/10/2025 15:43

Catwench · 28/10/2025 15:24

I have this argument quite frequently in our local nature reserve about people’s dogs chasing the geese. I always get a mouthful and told the dog won’t hurt them. The geese don’t know that and I have seen dogs hurt them. Fed up of people thinking it’s acceptable for their dog to chase wildlife.

That's outrageous. Have you told the people who run the reserve?

Chiseltip · 28/10/2025 15:47

CherrieTomaties · 28/10/2025 15:38

Dangerously out of control 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Perhaps you should read the legislation before you comment 🙄

MaryBeardsShoes · 28/10/2025 15:54

Chiseltip · 28/10/2025 11:44

Well, they are committing the offence of allowing a dog to be dangerously out of control.

You are being ridiculous with this one.

Chiseltip · 28/10/2025 16:00

MaryBeardsShoes · 28/10/2025 15:54

You are being ridiculous with this one.

Perhaps you should read the legislation before embarrassing yourself any further.

MzHz · 28/10/2025 16:10

user2848502016 · 28/10/2025 11:47

There’s a massive difference between chasing a squirrel and actually catching and harming one.

I would think the couple knew their dog better than you do and know it was not actually going to catch the squirrel.

And Tbf, a squirrel is vicious! If a dog caught one, it wouldn’t be doing so twice.

YeOldeGreyhound · 28/10/2025 16:13

My own dog has caught 2 squirrels during her very long life, but she is a greyhound and was very fast. I figure that a squirrel that can not escape a dog was weak in some way. Survival of the fittest and all that.

But I never encouraged her, and if I saw a squirrel before she did, I would distract her and walk away from it.

AlphaApple · 28/10/2025 16:20

LeaderBee · 28/10/2025 15:14

The owners are not generally seen out and about walking their cat to take them off the lead and tell them off in the first place you muppet.

Exactly - cat owners just let their cats roam out of sight and out of control, shitting in gardens and parks, spreading disease, indiscriminately killing wildlife, running out in front of traffic, raiding bins etc. etc.

A dog chasing vermin does not bother me in the least.

AlphaApple · 28/10/2025 16:22

TheignT · 28/10/2025 15:30

You don't know, it might be sitting in the tree having a laugh at the silly dog.

Just today my dog managed to get a full 10 feet up a tree. Still didn't catch the squirrel.

JudgeBread · 28/10/2025 16:22

Tiredofwhataboutery · 28/10/2025 13:57

I think( whilst sad for the birds) having lots of cats is probably a good thing for keeping local vermin populations down. I suspect we’d be awash with rats / mice / squirrels (surpringly destructive in the loft) without a resident cat population.

So cat chasing and scaring/killing a squirrel - excellent, good vermin control
Dog chasing and scaring/killing a squirrel - naughty bad out of control dog

?????

Catwench · 28/10/2025 16:22

LittleBitofBread · 28/10/2025 15:43

That's outrageous. Have you told the people who run the reserve?

The council who own the land are not interested, it’s looked after by volunteers and they are fully aware of it however can’t stop it. Saturday my son was feeding the ducks and geese to have them chased off by 4 dogs. The response I had was “they are dogs, what am I supposed to do?” so I suggested putting them on a lead. I’ve had a cat killed by a dog on my drive 2ft from my front door and been bitten twice. Each time I’ve been told the dog is ok. Unfortunately it’s a subject I feel quite strongly about.

LittleBitofBread · 28/10/2025 16:27

Catwench · 28/10/2025 16:22

The council who own the land are not interested, it’s looked after by volunteers and they are fully aware of it however can’t stop it. Saturday my son was feeding the ducks and geese to have them chased off by 4 dogs. The response I had was “they are dogs, what am I supposed to do?” so I suggested putting them on a lead. I’ve had a cat killed by a dog on my drive 2ft from my front door and been bitten twice. Each time I’ve been told the dog is ok. Unfortunately it’s a subject I feel quite strongly about.

That's appalling. There must be laws/bylaws about dogs on leads? and if it's a designated nature reserve surely it must have to conform to certain rules.

waterplane · 28/10/2025 18:23

I love it when my dog chases squirrels, it’s like seeing nature in action, a real tonic for the soul. She’s doing daft urban squirrels a real service by sharpening their reflexes and helping boost their cardio. They may even get a nice dopamine kick from it when they sprint up a tree and realise they’ve just outsmarted my lab.

Have you ever seen those fat, lazy squirrels lounging around National Trust car parks, barely bothering to move out of the way and almost getting run over? They’ve become so slow and complacent, waddling about on a diet of junk food. My dog should really charge a fee for her services, she’s practically a personal trainer for the local 🐿🐿.

Catwalking · 28/10/2025 18:27

Grey squirrels are not indigenous (don’t belong in UK) & they steal apples off the trees in my garden🤬.
That said there are a huge amount of out of control dogs about nowadays. I think people should take lessons & become qualified before obtaining & owning any sized dog.

I suggest OP takes photos of the offending couple & dog & sends to local paper.

YeOldeGreyhound · 28/10/2025 18:37

Catwalking · 28/10/2025 18:27

Grey squirrels are not indigenous (don’t belong in UK) & they steal apples off the trees in my garden🤬.
That said there are a huge amount of out of control dogs about nowadays. I think people should take lessons & become qualified before obtaining & owning any sized dog.

I suggest OP takes photos of the offending couple & dog & sends to local paper.

I am going to start taking photos of parents who encourage their kids to run into flocks of birds that are on the ground. I see it all the time.