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Why do men cheat? Lily Allen & David Harbour edition

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ImplodingLoading · 25/10/2025 22:16

Why the fuck do men (and women, don't get me wrong) cheat?

David Harbour and Lily Allen had a seemingly good marriage, and he cheated with a younger colleague.

Why do people cheat, especially when they have a good thing going?

Edited to add. I meant Edition!

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BlushingBrightly · 27/12/2025 15:16

SpottyAardvark · 01/11/2025 20:37

Men & women cheat in approximately equal numbers. It takes two to tango & all that.

Oh please do link to the statistics on this 🙄

xAwaywiththefairiesx · 27/12/2025 15:24

People cheat because they are cheats. It has nothing to do with the person they cheat on. Sometimes they try to say it is - my ex-BIL told my sister he cheated on her because of her stretch marks and because pregnancy made her boobs saggy - but it is always because they are cheaters.

Just like other awful people. They do things because they are awful people.
Rapists rape because they are rapists
Thieves steal because they are thieves
November tree people put their trees up in November because they are November tree people.

All we can do is avoid the assholes and try not to be assholes ourselves.

Dozer · 27/12/2025 15:36

Imagine that rich, famous men who regularly work away have far more opportunities than the average married man to meet and get to know more people and cheat.

PinkPanther57 · 27/12/2025 15:38

Dozer · 27/12/2025 15:36

Imagine that rich, famous men who regularly work away have far more opportunities than the average married man to meet and get to know more people and cheat.

True, but they’re like breeds of dog :) Some will shag any old leg - others, not so much :)…

VoltaireMittyDream · 27/12/2025 15:55

MidnightMeltdown · 26/10/2025 00:46

Usually because they stop desiring their partner. You can be ‘comfortable’ with a long term partner, but it’s not the same thing. People want passion and desire and excitement. People on MN seem to act as if attraction isn’t important, but it’s a really strong, basic, biological drive.

I think sex drive and desire is a bigger factor in some people’s lives than others, and varies through the lifespan. And there’s a lot of variation in impulse control between people.

In my 20s I was utterly boy crazy, but still fully capable of not shagging whoever I fancied regardless of our circumstances. I’ve never understood people who believe they literally cannot resist their sexual urges. Seems like a pretty passive and chaotic way to live.

Watched the latest batch of Stranger Things last night and David Harbour looks rough as. The idea that there are women queuing up to plug his butt for him baffles me.

GentleLemonSquid · 03/05/2026 00:23

Lily seems off her rocker as well as the bloke
Both need to be sectioned imho

Crikeyalmighty · 03/05/2026 00:30

Bambamhoohoo · 26/10/2025 11:24

Why do you think she didn’t write the songs?

writing credits are published- there is no such thing as a ghost writer for music. If you mean other people were involved in the song writing- yes- it’s rare for any song writer to do so alone- but you seem to have assumed her involvement was minimal and I wonder where you got that idea from?

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Oh I work in music and I’m afraid there is, people are paid big one off sums to do an NDA and a large ‘buyout ‘ fee for the artist to register under their own name in some cases - it’s a dirty secret in this business

AutumnNip · 12/05/2026 13:40

PiriPiriMenopause · 27/10/2025 09:13

Lots of reasons in different situations which are never the same, but in Harbour’s case specifically, I guess he’s a very average looking man who has made a hugely successful career that involves fame and money. With that he automatically becomes “attractive” to women who wouldn’t give him a second glance if he was stacking shelves in ASDA.

He obviously has few morals, obscure standards or just doesn’t like Lily Allen very much and chooses to live the life of a prolific shagger, who will continue to move from one affair to another.

They seemed a strange couple anyway. Two people who have huge egos in a relationship isn’t going to always end well.

Keith Allen was a prolific shagger too . Read his autobiography.

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