That the phrases "The Mrs", "The Wife", etc set my teeth on edge!

[Mrsnothingthanks]

So sexist IMO.
To clarify, I have no issue with "My wife," but "The" anything I do.
My dad was out shopping once with my mum when he bumped into someone he knew loosely. The man said (in front of my mum, one of the strongest and most independent women I know): "Oh, is this Her Indoors?" Say whaaaaaaaaaat?!!! You can imagine her reaction!!! 😆

We got rid of gendered descriptions years ago.

Think actor/actress.

Gendered words existed because it was easier than adding male.or.female to every noun.

Strange that we haven't done if with bf and gf.

My DP and I describe each other as partner because we are a partnership that is stronger than the sum of us. It also helps distinguish between either of us and our boyfriends/girlfriends.

It doesn't bother me. There same as anything, if it's said in a way to put someone down then they just aren't worth stressing over. If it's said in jest of affectionately there's no issue

I'm married now, but I was 41 so an older when we tied the knot. For us, boyfriend and girlfriend sounded a little too "young" (my husband was 45 when we got married) so we said partner before that. As for the poster saying "Well that might mean people think we're a same-sex couple." So what? My title is Ms and I don't care if people assume from that I'm not married!

I don’t like them either, but then I really dislike ‘hubby’, too.

TBH I’ve never heard any but pretty old men speak of ‘the wife’, ‘the Mrs’, let alone ‘Her indoors’.

I think with some men, it’s almost like it’s too personal/emotional to say “my” wife, so using “the” wife makes it feel more “blokey” in their strange minds. I don’t like it and would always swerve those sorts of men. My dad always said “the wife” or “the missus” and “the son” and “the daughter”. He wasn’t a good man, he couldn’t show any love or affection, was very abusive an a misogynist.

I hate 'the missus', but I wouldn't take a man's name anyway so wouldn't be someone's missus.
I have no problem with 'the wife' and we can use 'the' for husband, son and daughter in Welsh. Potentially also other family relationships.

Are you American?

Himself sounds Irish English, but maybe it's more widespread...

My husband calls me 'er Indoors. I think it's funny, especially compared to some of the endearments I call him 🤷‍♂️

@Gwenhwyfar I'm with you on the last name part. When we married we both double-barrelled as was our daughter. So we went HisFamilyName-MyFamilyName. Did you change title? I retained Ms.