Posting for some unbiased opinions, because I really don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not. Sorry for the length, I want to put both sides across.
I have some friends who have arranged an Autumn gathering, approx 8 people, food and drinks at their house at approx 4pm today then walking to a local carnival with parade / fireworks. I wasn’t able to attend last year so wanted to go along this year. My DP has also been invited to come along, I mentioned it a few weeks ago and DP seemed reluctant for various reasons, she has stuff to do this weekend which is fine by me, she also has a dog that can’t really be left, again fine no pressure from me for her to attend, though I did notice at the time that she didn’t seem happy about me going.
This past week I started to feel unwell at work on Tuesday, Wednesday I just pulled through….I manage a team and usually when unwell I’ll just work through from home. On Thursday I logged onto work but after an hour or so i felt washed out and heavy cold symptoms, did a Covid test which is negative…..symptoms have been less severe than flu but worse than a regular cold.
The last 2 days I’ve not done much apart from dozing on and off, looking at my phone and a bit of tv. DP has cooked dinner both days and has been bringing me drinks, medicines, breakfast and lunch completely unprompted which has been really caring of her….however it comes at a cost, she has stated I have not expressed enough gratitude which I have apologised for and when she pointed it out I made more effort to express thanks and gratitude..tbh when I’m feeling poorly I just want to be left alone, but she has been extremely attentive to her own detriment I feel, as she gets so stressed with juggling everything at home with working and the dog (no children) I have repeatedly told her nicely that she doesn’t have to do what she’s doing, but I do appreciate everything and I know it’s how she expresses her love.
Fast forward to last night and I mentioned that I wouldn’t be back late tonight ( not feeling up to a late night out)! and that my friend is picking me up so I don’t have to drive (it’s about 45 mins away) DP got really angry just before we went to sleep, telling me in no uncertain terms that I am NOT going out, and that I have been off sick for the last 2 days and that going out would be classified as gross misconduct! I don’t like to be told what to do, I told her that I would make my decision tomorrow (today) based on how I’m feeling….but she has said that there’s absolutely no way she’s letting me go and that she’ll text my friends today to tell them that. She said she feels taken advantage of by looking after me for 2 days and then me wanting to go out, she feels it’s disrespectful.,
Just to say my friends know I have been unwell and are still wanting me to go…..so AIBU for considering attending?