To ask when its legally ok to do this.

[OneSharpGoose]

Four days ago I bought my husband and myself each a bar of chocolate . Mine was plain milk which he doesn't like and his is fruit and nut and its chocolate so I like it too. Anyway mine went within an hour of me getting home. The fruit and nut is still sitting in the fridge lonely very much on view but untouched. AIbu to take a piece, as DH obviously isn't interested? ( who would leave a bar of chocolate untouched for four days?) When legally can I take it back? Is leaving chocolate uneaten so long a red flag? Should I LTB ? If so can I take the chocolate with me?

Ok so he wouldn’t have been offended if you’d not bought him a bar of bloomin chocolate!

so hoover it up

he probably won’t even notice

No.

Do not touch it. If I know it’s there, then when I want it it’s not, that’s really annoying. It isn’t up to you to decide when something should be eaten.

If you want chocolate, go and buy some.

So he wouldn’t have even noticed I reckon if you’d come back with a slab of chocolate.

and if he had, not even glanced at it in envy!

I think you should LTB (and eat the chocolate). There's obviously some sort of power play going on here. Leaving a bar of chocolate for 4 days in the fridge is deliberate enticement.

Then don't it. I can take or leave a bar of chocolate so sometimes I'll leave a bar in the fridge for a couple of weeks or more. If I go to take a piece of it, and find it's gone, I want to murder my husband and believe I should be allowed to. Thing is, when I decide to have it I really want it so the devastation when it's not there is criminal and my husband should be held legally responsible.

Eat it and replace next time your at the shops x

All chocolate is fair game in this house.
😂

Eat the chocolate. If he has waited so long his need is not as great as yours!

There should be a helpline for neglected and abandoned chocolate bars....

Legally you are in the clear as it would appear he has been holding it on bare trust for you, so you are entitled to claim it when you want.

YABVU

He should be the one to LTB!!

I don’t care how long my treats are left uneaten, they are mine and I am saving them!!!

If you take one tiny piece, then we all know you’ll take another tiny piece, and then another. And all of a sudden the whole things gone 😁

Would he not let you have it if you asked?
Are you not planning on on going any time soon?

I’d just buy myself a whole new chocolate bar - or is it greedy to buy yourself 2 bars but it doesn’t count if you eat someone else’s 😂

P.S. obviously if you LTB he'd be entitled to half in the divorce settlement, so don't file before you've eaten it.

Would you be bothered if he ate yours?

Depends on what the answer is to that. I can have something treatish sitting there for a bit and when I fancy some I find it's gone. It feels a bit disappointing.

Legally it is ok, cos you are married, whats his is yours, whats yours is also yours. Its in the vows.

I think the lesson here is to be clear about the conditions attaching to the gift. Eg if it’s still there in three days ownership reverts to the giftor. Maybe some sort of lien arrangement? (I’ll get my coat and head back to the legal board now)

Treatish is a great word!

If he is out just message him and ask him to take you a bar of fruit and nut home.

Then he will either tell you to eat the one in the fridge, or take you home a bar, which you can use to replace the bar you have eaten.

It's the perfect crime.

Really?
In my family it falls into the category of use it or lose it 😂😂😂

I believe there should be a clinical classification for people who neglect chocolate like this 🥼😵‍💫
I have a friend who can open a box of crocs and just eat 1, then a couple of days until the next. Same with packets of cookies. I say it’s not natural!! 😂

This is soooo clever!

Eat the whole thing, then if he asks about it, gaslight him that it never existed

In our house it would depend if it were on the shared marital assets chocolate shelf or in either of the private stash drawers. Taking it from the latter would be a LTB offense.

I say it’s your DPs and you should ask if you can have some

He’s more of a weirdo for leaving a chocolate bar for 4 days untouched than in the fridge 😂

Forget the legalities - get it eaten!