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To think that Sadiq Khan needs investigated?

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Whatifitallgoesright · 21/10/2025 16:14

Considering the ongoing disclosures of the extent of the Pakistani rape gangs in London and Khans refusal to even acknowledge them do we think he has bought the office of Lord Mayor into disrepute?
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.express.co.uk/news/uk/2123376/i-exposed-sadiq-khans-grooming/amp

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OpheliaIsntMad · 24/10/2025 20:45

AzurePanda · 24/10/2025 20:34

@Serpentstooth Are you saying that the Housing Minister should have been allowed to underpay stamp duty owing on her property purchase by £40,000 on the basis that she’s a working class woman? That Jess Phillips should not be criticised by rape survivors because she’s also a working class woman? That the man who has operational control of the Met should not face questions over ongoing allegations that he knew that grooming gangs were operating in London and did nothing about it because he’s a Muslim?

Do you really think that Obama faced more national and international opprobrium than Trump? Where does the fact that Prince Andrew, the literal definition of white, privileged and entitled, has continually featured on the front pages of newspapers of every political hue and been completely excoriated fit into this narrative?

I assumed @Serpentstoothwas being sarcastic…?

AzurePanda · 24/10/2025 21:37

@Serpentstooth perhaps but how would Obama fit into that list in that case?

Bringemout · 25/10/2025 08:29

I really think we need to just remove politics from this, it is just not ok for the UK to be a place where children are raped. It’s as simple as this. Any politician who wants to obfuscate around this really needs to just go.

I’ve been appalled by how many people on mumsnet really want to just turn a blind eye or are more worried about the optics than they are about victims. I don’t want my DD to grow up in a society where people (including women) take the rape of children so lightly. It makes me feel really sick. I don’t know if this is because of an issue with class or a genuine fear of stigmatising groups of people but nothing should ever be more important than the victims of some of the most horrendous crimes I have read about. What was done to a lot of these girls can only be described as sexual sadism. Not just rape but inflicting pain on young girls for fun,

I would ask people to really examine their conscience on this and reflect on what they think is right. I’m don’t want to harangue anyone but really go look at some of the reporting and what actually happened to these children, the grim details, and then decide if you are fine with it.

NotBadConsidering · 25/10/2025 08:39

said in letter to Mayor of London Sir Sadiq Khan on Friday evening.

There goes the theory of a pp who claimed Khan isn’t likely to be informed of operational police matters 🙄

It's only proper for it to me made clear if Khan has known anything about these sorts of things before this letter. It’s shameful that anyone ever brought his race into this over the truth for the women and girls.

Bringemout · 25/10/2025 09:27

NotBadConsidering · 25/10/2025 08:39

said in letter to Mayor of London Sir Sadiq Khan on Friday evening.

There goes the theory of a pp who claimed Khan isn’t likely to be informed of operational police matters 🙄

It's only proper for it to me made clear if Khan has known anything about these sorts of things before this letter. It’s shameful that anyone ever brought his race into this over the truth for the women and girls.

This just isn’t going to fly anymore he lied about not knowing about this and it turns out the scale of offending is immense. People are now claiming being worried about unvetted migrant men is somehow racist because women already get raped in Britain, so whats a few more.

I didn’t understand how the grooming scandal happened until this week. I see all you rape apologist. We all see you.

AzurePanda · 25/10/2025 09:39

@Bringemout I too struggled to see how the whole hideous scandal was allowed to go on for so long until this thread.

Why is it so hard to understand that people want victims heard, regardless of their background, religion or skin colour, and people in authority held to account, regardless of their religion, skin colour, gender or any other consideration.

EasternStandard · 25/10/2025 09:59

Bringemout · 25/10/2025 09:27

This just isn’t going to fly anymore he lied about not knowing about this and it turns out the scale of offending is immense. People are now claiming being worried about unvetted migrant men is somehow racist because women already get raped in Britain, so whats a few more.

I didn’t understand how the grooming scandal happened until this week. I see all you rape apologist. We all see you.

Absolutely.

overstimulatedhermit · 25/10/2025 13:18

Bringemout · 25/10/2025 08:29

I really think we need to just remove politics from this, it is just not ok for the UK to be a place where children are raped. It’s as simple as this. Any politician who wants to obfuscate around this really needs to just go.

I’ve been appalled by how many people on mumsnet really want to just turn a blind eye or are more worried about the optics than they are about victims. I don’t want my DD to grow up in a society where people (including women) take the rape of children so lightly. It makes me feel really sick. I don’t know if this is because of an issue with class or a genuine fear of stigmatising groups of people but nothing should ever be more important than the victims of some of the most horrendous crimes I have read about. What was done to a lot of these girls can only be described as sexual sadism. Not just rape but inflicting pain on young girls for fun,

I would ask people to really examine their conscience on this and reflect on what they think is right. I’m don’t want to harangue anyone but really go look at some of the reporting and what actually happened to these children, the grim details, and then decide if you are fine with it.

Exactly this. The turning the other way from some posters on here is enough to make you sick. And In truth I think it’s a class thing. The majority on here won’t care about working class kids from deprived parts of the uk because they are mc and it won’t happen round there way. Some don’t even know the severity of what these poor kids went through so I’ll leave this here from a transcript of a court case and see if that pulls on their frozen snobby heartstrings.

To think that Sadiq Khan needs investigated?
OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 08:53

The transcript of the court case below makes devastating reading. I don’t recommend reading it unless you are in a strong place emotionally. This particular case was about the Oxford grooming gangs. But the term grooming gangs does not sufficiently describe the long term sexual abuse, terror and torture experienced by these very young children.
This happened in the Cowley Road area of Oxford- where so many students of Oxford university live / study / party and go on to have successful careers in politics , law etc. The victims were from disadvantaged backgrounds. The stark contrast between the two is particularly apparent in Oxford.
The victim whose abuse is described here was a 12/13 year old whose parents were disabled. Her home life was very difficult and no one was able to properly care for her. That is why this poor child was prostituted, tortured and terrorised across a number of cities- including London .
The posters on here who mocked the OP and defended Khan should be utterly ashamed.

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 13:21

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 08:53

The transcript of the court case below makes devastating reading. I don’t recommend reading it unless you are in a strong place emotionally. This particular case was about the Oxford grooming gangs. But the term grooming gangs does not sufficiently describe the long term sexual abuse, terror and torture experienced by these very young children.
This happened in the Cowley Road area of Oxford- where so many students of Oxford university live / study / party and go on to have successful careers in politics , law etc. The victims were from disadvantaged backgrounds. The stark contrast between the two is particularly apparent in Oxford.
The victim whose abuse is described here was a 12/13 year old whose parents were disabled. Her home life was very difficult and no one was able to properly care for her. That is why this poor child was prostituted, tortured and terrorised across a number of cities- including London .
The posters on here who mocked the OP and defended Khan should be utterly ashamed.

Edited

Please don’t lecture posters on how they should feel. That’s not on. And please don’t stereotype Oxford University undergrads either - a lot of them come from disadvantaged backgrounds. Just stop tarring everyone with the same brush - it’s fucking tiresome.

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 13:29

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 13:21

Please don’t lecture posters on how they should feel. That’s not on. And please don’t stereotype Oxford University undergrads either - a lot of them come from disadvantaged backgrounds. Just stop tarring everyone with the same brush - it’s fucking tiresome.

I didn’t tar everyone with the same brush -why would you make such a ridiculous assertion.
I know manyOxford students come from disadvantaged backgrounds… they were fortunate to have people to care for them and guide them through difficult times.
(Unlike the victims of the grooming gangs.) It was the juxtaposition of the lives of these young people that struck me as so sad . I’m not stereotyping anyone.
I don’t know why you think I am lecturing you about how you should feel. I’m lecturing posters who mocked and dismissed the concerns of the OP . I really don’t care how you feel.

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 13:36

My reference to Oxford was irrelevant really. It was just the contrast between the lives of these young people ( all of whom deserve to have opportunities to achieve their hopes and aspirations ) Apologies if it seemed inappropriate. I certainly wasn’t trying to stereotype anyone.

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 13:40

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 13:29

I didn’t tar everyone with the same brush -why would you make such a ridiculous assertion.
I know manyOxford students come from disadvantaged backgrounds… they were fortunate to have people to care for them and guide them through difficult times.
(Unlike the victims of the grooming gangs.) It was the juxtaposition of the lives of these young people that struck me as so sad . I’m not stereotyping anyone.
I don’t know why you think I am lecturing you about how you should feel. I’m lecturing posters who mocked and dismissed the concerns of the OP . I really don’t care how you feel.

Why do you think you have any right to lecture them? 🤔 How presumptuous and arrogant of you.

And yes, you did tar Oxford students with the same brush.

You said, ‘This happened in the Cowley Road area of Oxford- where so many students of Oxford university live / study / party and go on to have successful careers in politics , law etc.’

A lot of Oxford students can’t afford to party often, as it’s a really expensive city and they can’t work during term-time, and they also often don’t have the time to, because they have to study so much. Sure, they might go out a bit, but most people don’t actually go out that much.

Most Oxford students don’t have successful careers in politics and law - it’s only a tiny minority who do. I went to Oxford and I don’t work in either of those careers, and neither do my friends or acquaintances from Oxford, or my brother, who also went.

And just because you go to Oxford, it doesn’t mean you’re automatically privileged. All it generally means is you did well in your A Levels and did better than most other applicants in the interview and - in some cases - the admissions test for your subject. Sure, it helps if you have support from your school and family whilst you’re studying at school and then applying to Oxford. But it doesn’t mean you’re much more privileged than everyone else who’s at other unis.

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 13:47

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 13:36

My reference to Oxford was irrelevant really. It was just the contrast between the lives of these young people ( all of whom deserve to have opportunities to achieve their hopes and aspirations ) Apologies if it seemed inappropriate. I certainly wasn’t trying to stereotype anyone.

Thank you.

I’m sorry for getting frustrated in my last two posts. I got upset with your post as I felt you’d made quite a few generalisations and I thought they were unfair and incorrect, and I wanted to discuss them.

The Cowley Road is a busy and main road in Oxford. Like any main road in any big city, it’s going to have a lot of people from different backgrounds and with different income levels living there.

To compare the level of privilege of the girls who were preyed on in the Oxford grooming scandal with Oxford University undergraduates is odd and unfair in my view.

The girls deserved much better care and protection by everyone who had a duty of care to them - their families, their schools, their GP, the local authorities and the police.

It’s neither here nor there that they were abused in the same street where some Oxford students might live or party.

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 13:51

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 13:47

Thank you.

I’m sorry for getting frustrated in my last two posts. I got upset with your post as I felt you’d made quite a few generalisations and I thought they were unfair and incorrect, and I wanted to discuss them.

The Cowley Road is a busy and main road in Oxford. Like any main road in any big city, it’s going to have a lot of people from different backgrounds and with different income levels living there.

To compare the level of privilege of the girls who were preyed on in the Oxford grooming scandal with Oxford University undergraduates is odd and unfair in my view.

The girls deserved much better care and protection by everyone who had a duty of care to them - their families, their schools, their GP, the local authorities and the police.

It’s neither here nor there that they were abused in the same street where some Oxford students might live or party.

Agreed.
It’s the victims we should focus on .

SirRaymondClench · 26/10/2025 16:03

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 13:40

Why do you think you have any right to lecture them? 🤔 How presumptuous and arrogant of you.

And yes, you did tar Oxford students with the same brush.

You said, ‘This happened in the Cowley Road area of Oxford- where so many students of Oxford university live / study / party and go on to have successful careers in politics , law etc.’

A lot of Oxford students can’t afford to party often, as it’s a really expensive city and they can’t work during term-time, and they also often don’t have the time to, because they have to study so much. Sure, they might go out a bit, but most people don’t actually go out that much.

Most Oxford students don’t have successful careers in politics and law - it’s only a tiny minority who do. I went to Oxford and I don’t work in either of those careers, and neither do my friends or acquaintances from Oxford, or my brother, who also went.

And just because you go to Oxford, it doesn’t mean you’re automatically privileged. All it generally means is you did well in your A Levels and did better than most other applicants in the interview and - in some cases - the admissions test for your subject. Sure, it helps if you have support from your school and family whilst you’re studying at school and then applying to Oxford. But it doesn’t mean you’re much more privileged than everyone else who’s at other unis.

Is any of this shit actually relevant? Ophelia didn't say ALL she said some so your rant is totally irrelevant and smacks of diverting from everything else she said.

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 16:23

SirRaymondClench · 26/10/2025 16:03

Is any of this shit actually relevant? Ophelia didn't say ALL she said some so your rant is totally irrelevant and smacks of diverting from everything else she said.

Please don’t cal my post ‘shit’. It’s so rude and actually quite hurtful.

And what I post is in fact relevant. Ophelia mentioned lots of stereotypes that are untrue and damaging. She has been really gracious and apologised though.

As I mention in a later post, the girls preyed on in the Oxford grooming scandal deserved much better care and protection by everyone who had a duty of care to them, and it’s neither here nor there that they were abused in the same street where some Oxford students might live or party.

Noodledog · 26/10/2025 16:34

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 13:40

Why do you think you have any right to lecture them? 🤔 How presumptuous and arrogant of you.

And yes, you did tar Oxford students with the same brush.

You said, ‘This happened in the Cowley Road area of Oxford- where so many students of Oxford university live / study / party and go on to have successful careers in politics , law etc.’

A lot of Oxford students can’t afford to party often, as it’s a really expensive city and they can’t work during term-time, and they also often don’t have the time to, because they have to study so much. Sure, they might go out a bit, but most people don’t actually go out that much.

Most Oxford students don’t have successful careers in politics and law - it’s only a tiny minority who do. I went to Oxford and I don’t work in either of those careers, and neither do my friends or acquaintances from Oxford, or my brother, who also went.

And just because you go to Oxford, it doesn’t mean you’re automatically privileged. All it generally means is you did well in your A Levels and did better than most other applicants in the interview and - in some cases - the admissions test for your subject. Sure, it helps if you have support from your school and family whilst you’re studying at school and then applying to Oxford. But it doesn’t mean you’re much more privileged than everyone else who’s at other unis.

Did you read the extract from the trial of Mohammed Karrar in @overstimulatedhermit 's post? The post right before @OpheliaIsntMad 's post. The extract describing the worst sexual torture I've ever read in my life- I'm in my fifties by the way.

And the thing that exercised you enough to post was @OpheliaIsntMad suggestion that Oxford students might be privileged. Not the post about a 13 year old being anally raped by several men and having a baseball bat inserted into her vagina? I think your perspective is a little bit warped.

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 16:42

Noodledog · 26/10/2025 16:34

Did you read the extract from the trial of Mohammed Karrar in @overstimulatedhermit 's post? The post right before @OpheliaIsntMad 's post. The extract describing the worst sexual torture I've ever read in my life- I'm in my fifties by the way.

And the thing that exercised you enough to post was @OpheliaIsntMad suggestion that Oxford students might be privileged. Not the post about a 13 year old being anally raped by several men and having a baseball bat inserted into her vagina? I think your perspective is a little bit warped.

I commented specifically on Ophelia’s post about the comparison between Oxford students and the girls in the grooming scandal because I was unhappy with the comparison they were making and I thought it was untrue and unfair.

Yes, I also saw the post about the 13 year old girl gang raped. It was horrifying. I didn’t have anything to add on that post that hadn’t already been said. I can feel both appalled and disgusted and shocked at the 13 year old girl’s gang rape and unhappy with the misleading comparison that Ophelia was making.

PomegranateVase · 26/10/2025 17:11

I have reported so many vile, depraved comments recently on social media which reference Sadiq Khan, and they’ve all been written by posters whose photo shows an England flag or another symbol such as a bottle of beer or a rasher of bacon.

Some of the latest comments I’ve reported have been those which do not beat around the bush in accusing him of being a rapist, or a paedophile, or have been inciting violence and murder against him.

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 17:20

I apologise about my clumsy reference to Oxford University. It was ill considered and genuinely not meant to stigmatise or stereotype anyone. I think we should focus on the topic . I’m sorry that I’ve distracted from that. The priority is making sure vulnerable girls are protected and this NEVER happens again

OpheliaIsntMad · 26/10/2025 17:28

PomegranateVase · 26/10/2025 17:11

I have reported so many vile, depraved comments recently on social media which reference Sadiq Khan, and they’ve all been written by posters whose photo shows an England flag or another symbol such as a bottle of beer or a rasher of bacon.

Some of the latest comments I’ve reported have been those which do not beat around the bush in accusing him of being a rapist, or a paedophile, or have been inciting violence and murder against him.

And your point is…?
This is a thread about Khan’s refusal to answer questions about grooming gangs . What’s that got to do with your post? Are you implying that the criticism of Khan on this thread is rooted in racism rather than anger over the abuse of vulnerable girls?

Noodledog · 26/10/2025 17:44

Fandango52 · 26/10/2025 16:23

Please don’t cal my post ‘shit’. It’s so rude and actually quite hurtful.

And what I post is in fact relevant. Ophelia mentioned lots of stereotypes that are untrue and damaging. She has been really gracious and apologised though.

As I mention in a later post, the girls preyed on in the Oxford grooming scandal deserved much better care and protection by everyone who had a duty of care to them, and it’s neither here nor there that they were abused in the same street where some Oxford students might live or party.

I just think your reaction is part of the reason there has been a decades long refusal to do anything about the mass gang rape of young girls. Your priorities baffle me. And your justification is basically that sure, what happened is bad but it's already been talked about so why bother talking about it anymore. It's time to put it all behind us and move on to fretting about a suggestion that Oxford students might be privileged.

AzurePanda · 26/10/2025 17:48

Pointing out the contrast between students at Oxford University (or indeed any University) and victims of the grooming gangs is hardly controversial, particularly for anyone who has read their actual testimonies.

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