To date a 28yo?

[Cougarintown]

Last week I went on a night out with some work colleagues. I got a bit tipsy and ended up flirting with one of my colleagues who is 28! We ended up kissing. The next day I just put it down to an embarrassing event and pretended like it never happened.

We were in a meeting together today and later this afternoon he text me and asked if I wanted to go for a drink. I didn't respond and a bit later he messaged me saying he meant like on a date.

I shouldn't should I? He's just so young.

We're both single, I'm not looking for a serious relationship and I suspect he isn't either (he was previously in a very long term relationship with 2 kids).

There's no concern about dating someone I work with, my issue is purely the age gap.

Go for it. Have some fun

I don't think men necessarily think of it like that? Yes, a lot of men do have the fantasy of older women when they're younger. But basically I'm sure OP can hold down a better conversation than possibly most 25yr olds with no kids that he knows?

I'm not saying he wants to set up home with her (100% sure OP doesn't either 😅). But when you already have kids it'd be awful to date someone your age when younger I'm sure who doesn't?

Because surely they'll likely be wanting to go out when you can't, and possibly thinking about future children when it's at a zero on your own radar?

Oh OP, I really hope you go for it. What's the harm. Just a drink, see where it leads. When I was doing OLD, I dated a couple of guys who were quite a bit younger than me. It was interesting, could never see a long term future with it, but glad I did it. Cougar was never mentioned once, it was like they really didn't think age mattered, which is fair enough to them, different when you're the older one!

He’s 28, not 16. He’s a grown man and a father of two. You’re adults. Do what you like.

Just go

I’ve read many threads on here about women in their late 20s dating men in their early-mid 40s - so not sure why that can be reversed. Go for it! 🙃

I've said yes, and we have a drink booked in for Thursday

🙌 ..
Enjoy X

Funsponge here - maintain allure and dignity, be flattered, but dont shit on your own doorstep at work!? Unless you're not that attached to the job. This could backfire in all sorts of ways in future.

Go girl, nothing to loose! I’m 50, so the thought of a mid 30’s guy fancying me would be quite remarkable 💕

Go for it. My friend is 45 and was in an unhappy relationship for 20 years until they split up last year. She is now seeing a 29 year old and he’s lovely! Such a breath of fresh air compared to her ex. I don’t think she’s under any illusions that they’re going to grow old together, but you never know!

Go for it. My husband is 42 and I’m 29 🤣

I think the fact you have kids the same age makes the age gap less of a big deal, you're more at the same life stage.

Noooo. Never shit where you eat

He's 28 so 10 years above official adult age it depends what you are looking for personally if it was me i wouldn't take it to seriously and maybe have a fling if that's what you want but you never know some age gap relationships work ,the main thing is if you ate both attracted to each other ?

Have fun!!

I wouldn't.

The age thing would put me right off for starters, but moreso the working together.

This has potential disaster written all over it, and, as ever, he will come out of it looking like a hero and you absolutely won't.

That would be OK if it was someone you never had to see again and didn't move in the same circles as, but this is a colleague.

I'm assuming he's attracted to me, given the kissing and the requesting a date.

I had definitely noticed his attractiveness but his age and the fact we work together had stopped me really thinking about it, but he's hot.

I'm actually currently looking for a new job so we wont working together much longer.

Excellent! I hope you have fun

Im a good bit older than you, but I'd see someone with the same age gap, but I think they'd exhaust me. 😂😂

Actually YOU and I are the same 'age gap' as you & him 😂
I think it does he'll 'even things out' a bit when you have kids the same age. You're pretty much 'at the sane stage' if not 'the same age'

Brilliant. Hope you have a great time with the big ridey man. 👏

My son and his wifes age gap nearly 20 years. She was the oldest. Nearly 25 years happy married

I cant understand why people find this an issue. At 28 he is a full blown adult. This guy has kids, a life, a job. He obviously is semi intelligent and from what ive seen has been respectful in asking the OP for a date. What on earth is wrong with 2 adults having a date?

Go for it. Enjoy it and ignore anyone who isnt supportive.

I think I'd find out what he's potentially looking for. But I'd do it!

As a 29 year old I agree with you. I can’t see the issue. 28 and 42 aren’t ages I would consider an issue. In fact a couple of my friends have similar age gaps with their husbands.

I’m a wife, mum, own my home with DH. Definitely not a teenager!

Maybe I’m crazy but I don’t really see myself any different to those in their late 30’s or early 40’s at all.

Personally I find it a bit 🤮 but nothing wrong with it really. He’s a “proper” adult as opposed to a teen.