To date a 28yo?

[Cougarintown]

Last week I went on a night out with some work colleagues. I got a bit tipsy and ended up flirting with one of my colleagues who is 28! We ended up kissing. The next day I just put it down to an embarrassing event and pretended like it never happened.

We were in a meeting together today and later this afternoon he text me and asked if I wanted to go for a drink. I didn't respond and a bit later he messaged me saying he meant like on a date.

I shouldn't should I? He's just so young.

We're both single, I'm not looking for a serious relationship and I suspect he isn't either (he was previously in a very long term relationship with 2 kids).

There's no concern about dating someone I work with, my issue is purely the age gap.

No, we're in different specialities and not in the same management line.

Not sure on fall out, I can't see there being any. He seems level headed.

Yeah, I'm not keen on gossip, but honestly we work remotely so I think it's be minimal.

No, he and I have kids the same age. He had them young, I had them at an average age.

I'd say that life is too short to not have fun then 😁

How would she have kids near his age 🙄
He’s 28 not 18 , & OP is 42

To be fair, if I'd had kids at the age he did, I'd have a 24yo!

Yeah that's fine! 😃

Yeah that’s true actually 😂 , but you didn’t so it’s fine 😊

Yeah that’s true actually 😂 , but you didn’t so it’s fine 😊

Within the region of similar age range... If say someone has a 22-24yr old. It's not unreasonable to think they be less than chuffed if their parent started dating someone 4-6yrs older than them 🙄

Agreed , but we’re after establishing that’s not applicable to OP

FFS op go for it go have some no strings attached fun.
Lifes to short who gives a crap your both adults both single.
If it just ends a 1 night thing so what shit happens move on.
To many pearl clutchers on hear some need to live not just survive.
Just tell your self your memories for when you end up in the rocking chair something to look back on and say yep i live and i dont give a fuck.

Indeed! That's why I originally asked the question 😁 Anyways... Go for it if you fancy him OP. Why not?

Sorry poppyseed79 , i should have done the math before I posted 🫣

DP was 32 and I was 45 when we got together. 12 years ago and still going great.

Don't then.

How would you feel if a man you were dating was too embarrassed to tell anyone?

If you like him and you have no concerns about workplace awkwardness then go for it.

God no. Don't shit where you eat.

I'd say no. If you are embarrassed already before anything has happened it will taint the whole relationship.

I also considered what I would say if you were the 28 year old and he was 42. I would also say no then.

He has heard the rumours about cougars

This. If you are going to live in perpetual embarassment at the thought of people knowing about you, then this is clearly not for you. It's a shame you're so bothered but you feel how you feel.

This is such an awful way to talk about a woman. You know it stemmed as a way to bash women???

Go for it, life is too short

Ah ok sorry, I thought it was a term some women used. I was thinking of ‘Cougar Town’ etc

I think the fact that you both have kids a similar age has a bearing on it too though. He's more unlikely to be a young 'lad about town', as he'll have his own childcare responsibility to juggle, and let's face it kids do indeed make you grow up fast (hopefully!).

The guy is practically 30, and what's wrong with having some fun with someone you're attracted to 🤔

Realistically you could go for one date and think no, this isn't for me. Or you could really hit off and have a great time. You'll never know unless you take the plunge though.

Depends if there could be awkwardness at work.
Also depends on whether you don't mind being one of the sexual things he's got on his list after the breakup of his long relationship i.e. fucking a much older woman.

I have just noticed the OPs username though 😆