Have I messed things up with new man?

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Dating around 8 months anyway without outing myself I started questioning him which he does not like, understandably. This was due to his hot/cold behaviour.

We had a bit of an argument and he hasn't spoken to me since. Albeit it has only been 3 days. I have tried to reach out and extend an olive branch and nothing.

What would you do?
I know he hasn't had a positive past with women and he describes himself as "jaded".

if he's hot and cold you have every right to question him after 8 months! does not sound like a keeper to me

Sounds like a great get out from this man tbh.

As to what to do... block and move on.

I wouldn't pursue such a man.
He sounds awful.

He's using silence to control you and your behaviour.
Don't tow his line.
Block and move on. 💐

I know he hasn't had a positive past with women

Let me guess.
A series of "crazy exes"?

If he’s treats you like this now, he will be worse in the future. Let him go, he sounds like a knob.

If he doesn't make you feel safe, after 8 months. Get rid. He will never change. Men don't

Well none of us know what you said and if he's got a right to feel cross and want space. But at the very least take this time to decide if he's the person for you - the hot and cold stuff sounds very off-putting.

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You've had a lucky escape. Ignore him.

I would not bother with him. Know it's difficult if u have feelings for him, but why would u want such complications in your life?

Jesus: dump him. “Jaded” by women? What—did a woman bite him as a child? Come in. Uf he wants to be with you he can choose to be with you. Why be with someone who doesn’t know what he wants?

8 months is supposed to be the honeymoon phase. Best behaviour etc.

If you dare to question him he goes silent for 3 days? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Throw this one back in the sea.

Hard to know based on what you've posted here whether your challenge was reasonable, but if he is blowing hot and cold I don't know why you'd worry about messing things up with him. At that stage of a relationship he should be absolutely on his best behaviour.

Stop worrying about whether you have messed it up and worry about whether he's right for you. If he's not instilling trust and confidence, the answer is almost certainly no. Get rid.

The Lord save us from moody men! Give him the bum's rush!

YABU to be putting up with this shit, especially only eight months in. Runs hot and cold? Fuck that! So now he’s giving you the silent treatment. You say you’ve offered him an olive branch and he’s ignoring you. I promise he’s enjoying dangling you on a hook like this. He’s a childish manipulative twat. Just get rid of him.

He sounds like a dick. Forget him. You haven't done anything wrong. He shouldn't be running hot and cold with you. You're entitled to ask him about that. This guy isn't treating you well and sounds like an immature headwrecker. You've dodged a bullet.

There's nothing as attractive as a moody "jaded" man. What are his other positives! Throw this one back OP.

Op please take the initiative and tell him to Foxtrot Oscar and be gone with his jaded feelings!

Men like this are just not worth it! You deserve much better!

Please believe me when I say that a good man, who really wants you, will climb mountains and cross oceans to be with you. This bloke’s hot and cold behaviour is already telling you everything you need to know!

Why is this important?

Because if you want to develop a proper committed relationship with this man, and go on to have a family, you will need a full grown adult by your side, someone who is all-in with the nappies and the night wakings and stepping up to earn when you are on maternity leave and who can power through when your or the baby is unwell. Proper love is not for half-hearted wimps! Toss him in the bin op and be grateful he gave you this warning of his feebleness now!

Also don’t you dare feel embarrassed for wanting more and having high standards! If a bloke makes you feel like then you need to step away!

Be strong op! Value yourself and your future life more than this wastrel!

Is the bar really this low for men now? Why would anyone accept that level of disregard?

He's using the idea he has had bad relationships in the past to control your behaviour. You wouldn't accept this shit from him if he hadn't said he'd been treated badly in the past. He's said it to make you prove that you are different to other women, and when you disagree about something he is using silence to punish you so you won't do it again.

Block him, hes manipulative.

I have never chased any man! Leave it.

I agree with this. Bloke sounds tedious to me.

Block him