Have I messed things up with new man?

[Evesnight]

Dating around 8 months anyway without outing myself I started questioning him which he does not like, understandably. This was due to his hot/cold behaviour.

We had a bit of an argument and he hasn't spoken to me since. Albeit it has only been 3 days. I have tried to reach out and extend an olive branch and nothing.

What would you do?
I know he hasn't had a positive past with women and he describes himself as "jaded".

Ignore the prick if that’s what he wants

He's giving you the cold shoulder in the hope you'll be jumping hoops to get his attention back. He's enjoying every second of this. Please never speak to him again so he learns his lesson for future relationships

Strongly suspect that he has had bad experiences with women in the past because he treated them similar and they didn't stand for it. The silent treatment is a horrible method of control and it won't be his only controlling behavior.

Add yourself to the list of women who have had a lucky escape.

8 months is plenty of time to know whether you want to commit to a relationship. If he's still blowing hot and cold and giving you the silent treatment then you are scraping the bottom of the man barrel. Just dump this off.
We've all been hurt, that doesn't mean we treat other people like dirt.

Hot/cold behaviour after 8 months? Throw him back, he's not a keeper.

Another vote for block and move on.

In what other ways does he not like to be questioned?
I’m guessing he describes himself as an alpha male? And you’re not really allowed to go against his opinion?

After 8 months, you should be committed and have had that chat. If he is still blowing hot and cold then he just doesn’t like you very much and is also a player, and a massive red flag. Know what else is a red flag? Any man who says anything similar to “crazy exes”.

Chuck this one back and move on.

@Bobiverse
Yes he describes himself as an alpha male.

It is not easy to just block and move on. I am not going to reach out to him again. I tried and I am not going to chase him. Although I think that is what he wants, strangly.

You were unreasonable to not run a mile the moment he described himself as an alpha male. He absolutely does want you to chase him, it’s not strange at all, he enjoys controlling you.

Why exactly is it not easy to block him? He doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t like you. He views you as less than him. Surely you can see that you’d be better off single than putting up with someone who treats you badly? Stop wasting your precious time on this loser.

It's never easy to leave someone you're invested in but he's showing you who he is, listen. Don't subject yourself to years of this and regret not leaving when you should have got out. Of course he wants you chasing him. He wants to be able to treat you exactly how he wants to and have you pandering to him, which you are doing. You are letting him know it's fine to treat you like this. you can do better.

@ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine
I know he likes me, that's silly and a bit extreme.

@ilovelamp82
Well he won't be able to treat me how he wants because I won't fall into his trap. I am not pandering to him. I thought I would reach out an olive branch as it was a bit harsh what I said to him. But to not respond is a bit rude so I won't be reaching out again.

Tell me how you know he likes you? Honestly, this man is a walking red flag. Everyone on here is telling you to run a mile, but you’re determined to keep your rose coloured glasses on.

Any grown man describing themselves seriously as 'an Alpha male' is seriously sad and waving a giant red flag tbh. I dislike 'alpha male' shit as a bit Andrew Tate tbh, but as far as it's a real thing, a 'real' alpha male is someone who is secure enough that they have no need to shout about it. Is he also a Tate fan?

@ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine
By the other ways he has treated me. How he has invited me into his life, the nice things he has done etc, met people important to him etc and my and my gut and intuition. However, I do believe that this man has issues.

Red flag, life's too short for sulkers

Anyone who gets blows hot and cold and describes himself as an alpha male, pass and wth, of course you can block him. The only reason you wouldn't is you think there's another chance and he'll come round.

Hint. Alpha is manspeak for Asshole.

@OneKeenPeachRaven
I don't know if he is a Tate fan but he definitely has a controlling side.

Well then he should be working on his issues and not taking them out on you.

Why on earth would you willingly be in a relationship with a msn who described himself as an alpha male and has shown you he’s controlling? He’s waving red flags right in your face - of course he wants you to chase him, it’s a power game

The words 'I'm jaded by women' = expect very little, if anything from me, you are going to have to give and give until you are burnt out and mad. Then I can describe you as one of my very many 'crazy exes'.

This. A man could literally buy me a mansion and take me for Michelin starred dinners every night but the minute he described himself as an alpha or showed any hint of being controlling he’d be gone.

Of course he has done nice things for you. You wouldn't be with him if he hadn't. You're choosing not to see the situation for what it really is, which is your prerogative, but I would assess your self esteem and why you are willing to accept this poor treatment.

Oh dear god, what are you thinking?! Even you know this guy is bad news? Why on earth are you in a relationship him? You can’t fix him. Only he can fix him, and why the hell would he do that when he’s having so much fun see how badly he can get away with treating you.

And you want this in a relationship?

When I mention it he says "how do I treat you badly". It puts me on the spot as it is hard to describe because of how subtle it is IYSWIM.

If he askes this again, how would you respond?