Could he find someone to have a child with

[ILoveAnjanaVasan]

Crazy question, and I haven't thought this through or spoken to my partner about it so don't take it too seriously!
I am much older than him and can't have kids. He was undecided about having his own children but we got together anyway and he is happy with me.
I have always felt a bit guilty about him not having the opportunity to have his own children and while pondering this I wondered if he should try and have a child with someone else. So my crazy question is this. Could he find someone who is single and wanted to share parenting with him. Maybe someone who hasn't met the right person or who is gay? Is this a thing and has anyone ever heard of this happening in real life?

It's sad to think that men think like that if that is true. A lot of men I know have been really keen to have children and have been good, involved, dads.
But I'm glad your in a happy relationship with a younger man

Those were the sort of lines I was thinking along

Well that's a relief. It's not your decision to make anyway if he did decide to want one.

It’s been true of every man I’ve had that conversation with, whether they’ve been male
friends or boyfriends/partners of mine. I’m sure there are men out there who actively want kids, but it’s a jump to assume that most/all of them do. That’s not to say they won’t be good fathers if they did end up being a dad, just that the biological urge doesn’t seem to be there in the same way that it is (generally) for women. By the sounds of it, I’d say your DP falls into the ambivalent camp, otherwise he’d have done something about it. He’s an adult with his own agency in life, you don’t need to worry about this stuff for him.

Of course it's not, people are talking like I'm his pimp and I want to farm him out to impregnate women, which I think says more about them. It was literally a thought off the top of my head. He's a 40 year old man and can make his own decisions

Do you know his feelings on whether he wants to be a father?

He was undecided before I met him and then when we got together he decided he was ok with not having children. We spoke about it a few times but not recently, I presume he is still ok with it. He's usually pretty forthcoming about things

Sooooooo why are you even considering suggesting this for him? I’d be horrified, if I was him.

I'm not considering suggesting this for him

There is a difference I think between wanting a child regardless of circumstances, and wanting to create a family. That might sound like the same thing but it’s not, a lot of people might know they want children but they want to have that child in a relationship, only a few would use a sperm donor to do it alone for example. Having a co-parenting relationship with a platonic stranger and sharing child-rearing - and doing all of this separate to your actual partner - may hold little appeal. I suspect if your partner would like to have children, he would also want to find a new life partner to do that with.

I think I would disagree with that, I think lots of women use sperm donors to have children and it is increasing.
If my partner did (and he very very likely won't) have a child when he was in a relationship with me I would also be involved in parenting that child when the child was with him.