Could he find someone to have a child with

[ILoveAnjanaVasan]

Crazy question, and I haven't thought this through or spoken to my partner about it so don't take it too seriously!
I am much older than him and can't have kids. He was undecided about having his own children but we got together anyway and he is happy with me.
I have always felt a bit guilty about him not having the opportunity to have his own children and while pondering this I wondered if he should try and have a child with someone else. So my crazy question is this. Could he find someone who is single and wanted to share parenting with him. Maybe someone who hasn't met the right person or who is gay? Is this a thing and has anyone ever heard of this happening in real life?

Good point, if I needed to step up I would but it wouldn't be my first option

Whats so great about having children?

It takes a lot more than a fertilised egg to make someone a parent, I’d truly hope nobody is bringing a child into the world under these circumstances.

This, what a disturbing tragic idea

Of course they'll have a relationship!! They'll be making and raising a child together!!

I quite like mine

Yes, I mentioned this upthread

No he shouldn't try and have a child with someone else at your suggestion just to assuage your guilt. If he wants a kid then he should leave you. But he obviously doesn't.

You are so desperate to keep him & worried the age gap will scare him off that you are suggesting something completely ridiculous.
It's a child you are talking about here, not a pet!

Two people who really want children - enough to enter a co-parenting relationship would probably be better parents than a lot of parents who are in a "traditional" set up

Like I said, I'm just pondering, and not seriously

See my last response

But there will be this weird third wheel involved - you!

Stop pondering then, it's an absurd idea and smacks of genuine desperation.

Are step parents weird third wheels?

They are when they’re pimping their much younger boyfriend out to another person purely to have a child like you are suggesting OP, yes, very fucking weird infact

I'm not desperate to keep him, we're very happy together and I will ponder all I like

That's not what I'm doing though is it

I'm not rising to this because I don't believe this is a genuine thread. It's Saturday night, you're bored & wanting to stir something up
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At least I hope it's that & this isn't a genuine idea that you are serious about.
Hopefully your partner would be just as disturbed by the suggestion if you suggested it.

Why not just get a dog together??

How would you feel when they went for scans and he's excitedly showing you the photos.
How would you feel when she needs an induction/ C section/ the birth takes days and he's exhausted and stressed.....and with her....so not replying to your texts / snappy with you because he's preoccupied

How would you feel seeing photos of him and her and their baby at the hospital/ on social media
How would you feel if he needed/ wanted to stay at hers once she and the baby came home from hospital . She would need help. He is the father so he'd want to be there and she would likely need him there.

I honestly could not cope with one single aspect of that

True but how does it include you? And your children. Your family home and your time?
Tbh it doesn't sound like a great idea.

I think you really need to examine why you are thinking this? Why it’s a thought that you wanted to post on MN.

Its really weird you are thinking of this, on the basis of nothing from him about it.

Like I've said several times now, I'm not thinking about this seriously. A lot of families are not traditional nuclear families any more

It doesn’t even include him at this stage! This is all in the ops head!

This is the most ridiculous post I've ever seen. If he wants kids let him go and have a proper family with someone else. You don't even know if he wants kids, you are just making up nonsense and problems for yourself that don't exist.