...to expect to be told when CM is taking DH out on a trip?

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She usually takes him around our local area but thinks it's okay to take him out of town (30 min drive away) without telling me first. I've signed a general consent form covering all trips during our contract, but isn't it just courteous to expect to be told 'Oh, we're going in the car to XYZ tomorrow'?

lol at title

Well I generally don't - but that is usually because I don't plan trips they happen if the day is 'right'

You have a CM for your DH?!

Can't your DH make up his own mind whether he wants to go?

Unreasonable? - that's grounds for divorce!!!!!

i'd be wanting to know if my childminder was my husband out ANYWHERE!!!

oops taking my husband obviously!

Let's just say we thought it would spice up our love life!

Alright, enough with the DH jokes! Let's start again. I meant: DS.

seriously though, i would trust my cm to do nice, age approprate, safe activities, and wouldn't expect to be told about a spur of the moment trip.... i would like to be told later, but only so i knew what my child had been doing to talk about it with them....

I would say YANBU - is this the first time or something that's been happening often.

Just have a quick word along the lines of just in case he needs something extra for the day like a change of clothes.... my CM will ask if they are off to the beach or something.

We're a cruel bunch aren't we?

Are you being unreasonable? I don't know. I supose I would expect to be told if the CM was taking my DH on a trip but take today for example, when the weather was unexpectedly lovely, what's wrong with making an impromptu trip in those circumstances.

If you're at work all day anyway does it matter.

We need more info

Seriously tho' I really don't plan trips that much

They just kinda happen

I presume you have the mobile number of the childminder, she is insured and you trust her

TBH 30 miles isn't far - I go nearly that far to the supermarket (well only if I want Sainsburys)

substituting DS .. I think you're being unreasonable .. you have signed a contract and she's in loco parentis

When i was a childminder i didnt tell parents about trips unless the children needed something extra like maybe wellies. I did have a timetable up on wall for week but generally decisions were made about trips on day once weather had been established! I regualarly travelled out of town and sometimes upto 45 minutes away. So yes YABU!

when did you stop CM'ing bonkers??missed that!??

It wasn't impromptu, it was planned, and she'd seen both me and my DH the day before, plus txtd me about something else the night before. I'm not asking for any kind of formal notice, just for her to mention if my toddler's going out of town! She sometimes mentions if they're going a few miles away in the car but still fairly local, so I think if it's a couple of towns away that's not too unreasonable a request, surely?

this thread title cheered me up

i think she should be able to plan her day how she wishes surely it doesnt make any difference to you if she is insured and you have given a blanket permission

Pinkchick, stopped childminding in SEPT last year cos DS having big problems at school and needed to be around for him more!

Wouldn't bother me. Would be pleased she was doing lovely things and wouldn't cross my mind to think anything else.
If I was going to find fault in not mentioning it it would be because I might have dressed her differently, packed a rain-mac for example. Other than that, not worried.

I take mindees all over we live quite rural, and have a balnket cover for trips, I never really tell parents where we are going it depends on the weather, but it is alwasy put in their diaries.

But we do do a big summer trip, this year Marwell Zoo 1.5 hrs away, I have special permission for that and loads of notice, (and half the mums coming as well)

Zippi, you've misunderstood me. It's not about insurance, or safety, or anything like that, nor am I asking to vet the trips. I trust her to look after DS well otherwise of course I wouldn't take her to him. 99% of the time they stay local, and I don't ask where they're going because I know roughly where they'll be.

We have a great relationship, and chat all the time, so I just think it's courteous to say 'by the way we're going to this place tomorrow'.

It's a while since I used a CM, but I don't think this would unduly worry me.

If I trusted the CM to look after my child (and I did) then I trusted her with the decisions she made about where she was going.