Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

ChessBess says:

Using fat jabs is cheating

I've never really understood this claim. Given that losing weight is not normally some kind of game or sport, or a contract between multiple parties, how can the concept of "cheating" be relevant?

I am male. He used to make some of the women in the office we worked cry. I complained to our boss about him and also confronted him.about his behaviour but our boss was complicit...nothing ever changed.

Same!!!

Well same aside from the adoring DH and kids part...

I'm really lazy, if I spent as much time figuring out ways to achieve this level of laziness into being productive I can only imagine what my life would be like.

I also have a weird reoccurring dream with everyone I know in it ( a different person a night) and I tell them everything I don't like about them. That's not the main dream but it's a side quest every time I have the weird dream.

I don’t think I’ve ever properly been in love. I’ve been married, and had a long term relationship resulting in my son, but I wasn’t heartbroken when either relationship ended. I think a lot of it is my low self esteem and fear of being hurt, which means I have huge walls up.

I’ve never had an orgasm

The man I co-parent DS with hurt me so much I hate his and his families guts yet I put on a happy face for the sake of a quiet life and a positive world because I love my beautiful son so much.

@LonelyPotato Sorry to hear about that. I have also become somewhat of a loner due to unresolved trauma. Indeed, the worst thing is how it feels like it is robbing life and opportunities from us.

I’d love to be a housewife. I hate working in general. It doesn’t give me any joy or satisfaction. I am feeling fulfilled when I look after my family and our house

I attended Christmas at my sister’s home several years ago.
She asked me to bring a specific dish, so I happily made it - it was very expensive to put together.
Nobody would touch it - why? Because I had made it - my family thought this quite humorous and even my sister laughed.
It was a set up, simply to be cruel.
I haven’t returned.
Now they’re down to 4 people at their “celebrations” and my friends love having me.
Don’t be mean. Just don’t include someone if you don’t like them - but don’t humiliate them on purpose. That’s warped.

@GarlicPound lots of successful people are psychopaths

Sod them, toxic bastards

Steroids and certain drugs to enhance your performance is cheating, so using drugs to stop to eating so much is the same. It’s almost as if slim people don’t feel the urge to overeat. They do but they know what happens so they fight with themselves to not have the larger portion etc etc..

You have mirrored all the thoughts I have in my own head. I also know I’m above average in attractiveness, but I think it’s makes me resent my physical flaws more. Maybe because they appear more predominant on an attractive person, or someone would enjoy using them against me to make themselves feel better, or take me down a peg.

I have a good skilled job. About two days a week I’ll work fast paced, the remaining 3 I’ll do the bare minimum, and I get away with it because I was so good at my job for those 2 days. I don’t have it in me to give 110% everyday. I feel my employer doesn’t deserve me to work to the bone for them, as their company benefits massively from my input, and my pay isn’t reflected, despite my salary being above market rate for my position.

I’ve had horrible female bosses in the past who have publicly belittled me for no reason other than jealously. Day to day it would be constant passive agressive comments, nothing blatant that would hold any weight in a hr complaint. When I see them pop up on my LinkedIn suggestions I wonder how I’d get them fired.

OMFG, @DreamTheMoors. I'm sorry your family are such nasty twats.

True, and I'd rather not be related to any of them.

Get yourself a vibrator, you’ll thank me I promise!! No need for a man!

As for my family of shitheads, when I was pregnant with DS my then 10 year old nephew looked at my bump and asked with a weird sneer “is it dead”. I’d lost a baby the previous year. That nephew has been here to visit as a grown man. The rest of his family don’t bother speaking to me. I hate them all. Despite therapy I can’t get through the day without their cuntish voices ringing in my head.

@LonelyPotatoI’m sorry to hear that. It sounds tough x

The difference is: weight loss is not a competitive sport.

I realise a lot of women treat it as though it is. They're deluded and usually have eating disorders.

I believe you mean high functioning sociopath, not psychopath.

@LonelyPotato You cannot honestly say that every choice you had has been taken away from you. It's not true. You have clearly endured some serious trauma but you have made choices for which you are responsible and you should embrace that responsibility, not deny it. Most importantly, you chose to have your daughter. It's clearly very hard for you both. But YOU chose to have your daughter and you can and will meet the challenge of that choice you made not just for yourself but for her. We can endure the suffering of trauma for which we were not responsible and we can still acknowledge that we go on to make choices and must be responsible for them. We only have one life, there's no 'what ifs', no should/could/would that actually mean anything. This is it. You have the choice to recognise and embrace your position of responsibility. The only person who could take that choice away from you is you.

Lockdown was such a joyful time for me. No pressure to socialise. No school run. No early bedtimes or early mornings. It happened right at the end of my maternity leave with my second DD so I had a great excuse to not go back to work and got to spend lots of time with my young children. DH was furloughed and actually around to help out for once. My eldest was Reception aged so homeschooling consisted of colouring and messing about with Lego. Lots of lovely quiet walks around our village.

I was dissappointed when normal life resumed.

@Cookieandcandyyes they can I have made peace with what dsis has done and that trying to alert authorities doesn’t work you just get passed from pillar to post not one of them takes responsibility fighting it was only effecting my mental health so while it is to us a huge amount of money that we planned on giving to dc for house deposits etc we can manage without it. If she had asked for the money without all the drama i probably would of given in anyway as she’s manipulated me for years
I’ve got a dh who loves me a great relationship with my now adult dc and I just want closure on the whole situation I am not expecting to inherit I believe the will has been changed recently but I feel in limbo waiting for the confirmation and i highly doubt i will be informed of dm passing I had to get ss involved to find out where she was living she’s ended up in the local care home so stalk the local death notices and regularly check ddad grave as wants to be buried with him. So i know i sound awful wishing dm to pass I feel it will give me and my dc who were very close to dsis and my dm probably to close closure

There’s someone in my family who is well off. They say mean things to all of us, they call us names like stupid, mentally delayed, villager (it’s an insult in our language and culture), and basically does as they wish and can be very rude and inconsiderate.
We all put up with it and don’t say anything to their face because they take us for meals out and do other nice things for us sometimes.