Nursry does a better job than me at bringing up my child

[wishitwasntme123]

Single parent. Zero support emotionally or physically or financially.

After spending the whole week with my kid (nursery was shut due to flood) I can safety say Ive got no patience and wish he didn't have me as a mum as I'm failing him

So where did he go?

With me?

He was allowed alongside you as you worked in a hospital?

You took your child to work shifts with you in a hospital?🏥

I assumed the op meant she took time off work to look after him.

She was at home with her child she has the week off …

Why are people being weird?

Read what was quoted - I was asked if I took the week off work.

Ok so my question was… what did you do on your week off with him?

I hope you're okay, OP.

I honestly think the only way to build patience is to have it tested 🤣 I am a much more patient person than I was 2.5 years ago when I had my first child.

I don’t think I am being weird. Someone asked what you did while you had your child last week, you said you work in a hospital and the child went with you

Seriously...

Her first post... she was off with her son as nursery was closed.
She said she could WFH
Then she worked in a hospital... so making it obvious she couldn't work from home.

Thanks but I was talking about after the op a poster asked how she spent the time off together and that was the response.

Looked after him. Not sure I'm going to break it down exactly what I did ... How is it relevant?

Why? Me having a week of work iand what I did doesn't matter.. two weeks ago I had the same feeling

Sweet Jesus this is hard

so did you take him to park? Swimming? Anything like that?

Sitting inside with a toddler for a week… anyone would feel shit

being out, walks, park, swimming, playgroups etc…. Better surely?

but you can’t seem to see any difference

Look OP, you obviously had a difficult time as a child, your mum was far from adequate.

Maybe you are terrified of acting like your mum did, maybe you recognise some of the same traits in your parenting.

Everyone on here has tried to help, to offer practical suggestions, bolster your confidence, but I am now thinking you are bored on a Sunday afternoon and being deliberately combative.

Have a good evening.

Too much honesty for you?

I'm not giving you an itinerary of what we did and no we didn't sit inside.... And even if we did, what's wrong with that? You have no idea what people have with regards to facilities at home or away.

The thing is, I did enough activities and what I wrote still stands. I'm a shit mum.

Not at all. The opposite in fact

I did plenty of activities. Name it, I did it.

Still doesn't change my feelings two weeks before or two weeks from now.

Luckily nurseries exist in normal circumstances, so you can do a good job by picking a good nursery, paying for it, roof over head, food and being stable and lovinv in the evenings and weekends when you presumably find it less difficult as you've had a break.

We often love our kids but don’t necessarily like them. 2 is an age where most parents can say that about their kids at some point.

People bang on about being bad parents but don’t consider what a bad parent really is. They're the ones who abuse or neglect their kids physically and emotionally. Losing your patience with a child is not being a bad parent. You’re tired, and not had a break. Of course you will be short on patience. Don’t strive to be perfect, and don’t best yourself up.

People are trying to help you on here op...what did you actually do during the week. Obviously we know you looked after him...but did you go out much or stay at home? Meet up with anyone? Looking after a toddler all week on your own is very tough... working all week is probably easier! but there are ways to make it more bearable.

I sometimes feel the same with extended time with my little one. The nursery staff get to leave the children with their parents at the end of the day and have chosen that as their job so they naturally are going to have more patience with them.

How old is your little one? It's okay to find it hard because it IS hard but if you're really struggling emotionally can you reach out to your health visiting service or GP to see what mental health support is available in your area? Get some advice on how to manage better or try to develop a bigger level of resilience to children's special skill of pushing all your buttons at the same time? Our children shouldn't suffer because we're not reaching out for support. Not that I think your child is suffering but if you feel like you're failing and sometimes we do drop the ball as parents, it's okay to consider reaching out for help.