WWYD Wedding guest social media post

[Weddbwnder]

No Idea what to title this.

So my sibling got married in Spring. Busy with kids on the day we never had the chance to take out own photos. I assumed my sibling would share the photos when they were ready and I would put up a congratulations/ celebrating Mr & Mrs post on social.

It’s been six months now. Still no photos.

In the mean time we have attended a number of other weddings. These are not close enough for me to feel obligated to do a celebration post so so far all good.

Until DHs siblings wedding last month. We have now received the wedding photos. I feel we are obligated to do a celebration post.

But if we post now; it’s like I ignored my siblings wedding. There is potential this will be seen as a slight. But I have no bloody pictures to post said message.

What would you do?

A. Post for DHs sibling and potentially slight sibling.
B. Ask my sibling again about the photos (I asked a number of times and at this point I have given up as don’t want to put pressure. There must be a reason they don’t want to share ever or yet).
C. Don’t post for anybody, and potentially slight DH sibling.

In a way this is much to do about nothing but equally people can be funny about these things. What is the done thing in this scenario.

Have the couple not posted any of themselves you could have used? You could share a post they do

you can also post a congratulations without a photo, and also one that is without a photo that you are included on?

additionally, it’s social media. Don’t need to post at all

I’m sorry but the social media obsession is fucking insane. What a thing to be stressed over

Would anyone actually notice?

This seems even more pointlessly complex than the old-fashioned rules about which cutlery to use for each course of an elaborate upper-class meal. Just post whatever you want and stop over-thinking.

I would never expect a congratulations post on socials from anyone. When I got married I posted pics of the wedding and people commented on that.
If you feel it might cause an issue get DH to post about his own siblings 🤷🏼‍♀️

I would put this whole nonsense out of my head and stop thinking about things that aren't important if I were you

I wouldn't do anything.
You've congratulated both couples (I assume), they dont need you to congratulate them via fb or announce anything.

Just say congratulations on the post they did themselves and say you had a great day. If they didn’t do one then don’t put pics of their weddings up yourself, this could well be why they’ve not shared photos with you

This! Stop social media and enjoy life as it happens.

You could for a suitable meme to use for an image and write a post congratulating them on the first six months?

Whatever happened to liking a photo and posting 'Congratulations'? I never heard of 'celebration posts'.

Why do you feel the need to do this, OP? I went to my godson's wedding this summer - we took our own photos, and he also sent me the link to the official ones. But I wouldn't dream of putting any of them on social media - it's tacky, intrusive and could easily upset the couple. Obviously, if they want to post their own pictures, that's up to them.

Life isn't lived on social media - I congratulated them on the day, and in a thoughtful, handwritten card. There is absolutely no reason to put congratulations on social media as well.

You're overthinking this way to much. No one is going to notice that you didn't post about your sisters wedding 6 months ago. If your sister cared about SM as much as you do her photos would already be up.

Are you getting sent their actual wedding photos? That’s is wierd.

I cannot imagine even thinking about this.

I don’t think you need to post anything if it’s been 6 months ! 🤣 maybe wait until their 1 year anniversary lol

I'm sure if you're that bothered you can do a post and make the settings so that your sibling/family can't see it. If someone does accidentally see it you can tell them why. They will probably think you are a nutter for worrying about it but unlikely to be offended after the explanation.

Ooo that is a great idea!

Thank you. Potential drama evaded 😅

This! I couldn’t quite understand what the issue was?

I feel we are obligated to do a celebration post.

Really? Are you the Queen or something? is the world waiting, with bated breath, for you to recognise the marriage in public?

Don’t be so daft.

It's not the social media obsession, it's the OP who can't just write a "congrat post" in timely manner and needs to create a lot of drama over.. I still don't really understand what? 😂

A photo of part of the invit' hiding most of the details, wit a congrat!
and more photos later.. how hard can that be!

Sounds like your sibling couldn't give a monkeys about being congratulated on social media, if they've not posted anything of their own wedding on socials that's because it's not important to them. I can't see how under these circumstances they'd care about you congratulating someone else.

If I was your sibling I'd struggle to give a toss, I've no idea if anyone posted anything for my wedding, I was too busy enjoying my wedding (and enjoying banging my new husband thereafter).

My God. What fucking nonsense.

Why did you need to wait for a photo to do a congratulations post for your sibling? You could have written something without the photo.

And why does your DH’s sibling sending you photos mean you are obligated to do a post? Maybe just put congratulations as a comment to their post rather than doing your own post.

I feel we are obligated to do a celebration post

No you’re not, don’t be silly!

Nobody is checking your social media to assess who’s wedding you have or haven’t posted about, if you had no pics of your sisters wedding obviously you had nothing to post.

You’re completely over thinking this, equally if you’d had some nice pics from the other weddings you’ve been to and wanted to post a pic with something like ‘had such a fab time at Bob & Sue’s wedding!’ or whatever that’s totally normal.

You don’t have to assess whether or not you’re close enough to them to do that, if you’re at any event you can just post a picture.

I'm so happy I don't have social media, this is headache inducing x