WWYD Wedding guest social media post

[Weddbwnder]

No Idea what to title this.

So my sibling got married in Spring. Busy with kids on the day we never had the chance to take out own photos. I assumed my sibling would share the photos when they were ready and I would put up a congratulations/ celebrating Mr & Mrs post on social.

It’s been six months now. Still no photos.

In the mean time we have attended a number of other weddings. These are not close enough for me to feel obligated to do a celebration post so so far all good.

Until DHs siblings wedding last month. We have now received the wedding photos. I feel we are obligated to do a celebration post.

But if we post now; it’s like I ignored my siblings wedding. There is potential this will be seen as a slight. But I have no bloody pictures to post said message.

What would you do?

A. Post for DHs sibling and potentially slight sibling.
B. Ask my sibling again about the photos (I asked a number of times and at this point I have given up as don’t want to put pressure. There must be a reason they don’t want to share ever or yet).
C. Don’t post for anybody, and potentially slight DH sibling.

In a way this is much to do about nothing but equally people can be funny about these things. What is the done thing in this scenario.

You don’t need to do a post for either couple, you are way over thinking this

If someone is making such a fuss about.. absolutely nothing, they would find something else to stress about even without social media. They probably already do 😂

Just delete Facebook. Much easier. There are enough social rules to follow in real life 😅

I know for some people are weirdly fixated on this stuff but if your sibling hasn’t put photos on social media herself, then I can’t imagine she’s going to be fussed either way whether you have posted about it.

Someone you know has sent you their wedding photos. What all of them? To you directly? Or they've shared some on their own SM? Why on earth would you feel obliged to make your own post about someone else's wedding? This is all so weird.

There is no need to be congratulating anyone on Fb whose wedding you attended or have since seen in person, as presumably you did it person on the day or when you saw them.

There's no need for any of this overthinking.

I’m fuming that no one did a congratulations post for my wedding.

Oh hang on, Social Media didn’t exist then. I had to make do with congratulations cards and people just coming along to our wedding to celebrate with us on the day. How did we cope?

Have you checked that these couples are okay with photos of their wedding day to be posted on YOUR social media account to your friends - which unless they know all your social media friends will include people who are strangers to them?
surely if you went to the weddings you congratulated them on the day and maybe sent a card or text afterwards - that is more than enough to show you care? Or is the social media post more about you want to be seen to be congratulating them by others?

I would get a grip and stop fretting about congratulations posts. Nobody is watching your social media and keeping score.

If you suddenly posted a congratulations message six months after my wedding I’d think you were deranged

Why does anyone need to post about someone else’s wedding? So weird. You attended, probably gave a gift and card, that’s enough.

What new batshittery is this? Not sure i understand the post to be honest. Are you not allowed to congratulate the couple until they've posted their photos on SM and if they haven't posted their photos you can't congratulate a totally separate couple who have married in the meantime??

Mother of god! What is this nonsense?

Just post congrats to your DH siblings post

why worry about what your sister thinks, she hasn’t got herself organised to post pics has she, so if she is upset it’s on her

But then I don’t get why the overwhelming desire to post everything on SM anyway

but with a PHOTO! that changes everything 😂

What nonsense.

Why would you post on your SM about anyone else’s wedding?
That is weird.
yes add a congrats / lovely wedding comment when / if the couple post but otherwise etiquette dictates it would be rude for you to post about someone else’s wedding on your own social media feed.

And this may be a contributing factor to why your DSis has not given you any photos.

alternatively. Like us. She just has not got round to selecting her photos from the photographer yet but it is on her to do list…… (took us years to sort ours!)

or. Like some friends of friends…. The photos are so awful none have been chosen and it is a sore point which will go to small claims court.

This is what occupies your mind?

This.

Batshit OP made such a long post about this.

OP, get yourself down to Overthinkers Anonymous.

Lol I did think this too!

I don’t know why people think this is stressing me out. It’s not really stress. I think I just feel weird posting about other peoples weddings when I never posted about my siblings. I think it just feels awkward.

You are right it is probably a me problem more than anything.

I probably should just post DP sibling else I will feel never able to post a wedding photo ever again 🤣

And yes I did say this is much to do about nothing. Social media etiquette is strange.

Why are you posting about anyone else's wedding ages after the event? That doesn’t make any more sense than worrying about not posting about a different wedding.

I thought only young teens stressed over what to post on SM. if you want to do a post- just do it. Stop over thinking it.

Don't post anything about anyone's wedding on SM. Except for your wedding

I can't 🙄 enough at this 'problem'. Are you all teenagers?

Serious question, how old are you? You know you have the autonomy to post or not to post right?! 😂😂😂