WWYD Wedding guest social media post

[Weddbwnder]

No Idea what to title this.

So my sibling got married in Spring. Busy with kids on the day we never had the chance to take out own photos. I assumed my sibling would share the photos when they were ready and I would put up a congratulations/ celebrating Mr & Mrs post on social.

It’s been six months now. Still no photos.

In the mean time we have attended a number of other weddings. These are not close enough for me to feel obligated to do a celebration post so so far all good.

Until DHs siblings wedding last month. We have now received the wedding photos. I feel we are obligated to do a celebration post.

But if we post now; it’s like I ignored my siblings wedding. There is potential this will be seen as a slight. But I have no bloody pictures to post said message.

What would you do?

A. Post for DHs sibling and potentially slight sibling.
B. Ask my sibling again about the photos (I asked a number of times and at this point I have given up as don’t want to put pressure. There must be a reason they don’t want to share ever or yet).
C. Don’t post for anybody, and potentially slight DH sibling.

In a way this is much to do about nothing but equally people can be funny about these things. What is the done thing in this scenario.

Social media etiquette is strange.

It really isn’t unless you’re still at school. Most sensible adults don’t notice or care about this sort of nonsense.

You’re massively overthinking and seem to be under the impression people are following your SM avidly for the latest post - sorry to disillusion you but the algorithm probably doesn’t show it to them anyway.

This is absolutely insane. You know that, right? If your sister decides to be offended, then she’s also fucking bonkers. Are you all 12?

Why do you need to post a photo of anyone's wedding on your FB for your FB friends?

Im not being mean, I genuinely want to know because it doesn't make any sense to m.

Someone else had a wedding. They invited who they wanted to invite. They celebrated. People who know them would have congratulated them. Their wedding. Their event. Their congratulations.

Why do you feel the need to make your announcement about their wedding? Any friends you share will have congratulated them. People on your FB who don't know them don't really need to be involved. You dont need social media engagement for someone else's event from people who either barely know or don't know them.

So you'll post a photo and say congratulations and then what? People who have congratulated them will congratulate them again via a post on your FB? People who dont know them will post something on your FB and the couple might read a comment from a stranger on your FB?

It doesn't make any sense.

Yet I can see it obviously has importance not just to you but judging by FB in general to a lot of people.

SM clearly does have rules, and yes, etiquette. People seem to have invented and agreed them and just left me out and never explained it to me.

Absolutely no one is keeping track of what you did or didn't post six months ago.

Maybe they don't want their wedding on social media. When we got married we asked guests not to post stuff as we didn't want our pictures on FB.

You are not 'obliged' to do anything. Leave it to the couple who actually got married.

Agreed that this is a very childish irrelevant conflict to have with yourself.
I go on Facebook quite a lot and have never once considered 'social media etiquette', it doesn't exist unless you make it exist in your head.

I think this has to deserve the Nuttiest Post of the Week Award

Why the F does everything have to be posted on SM, I would be soo annoyed if anyone put anything about me on SM without my consent, which I most certainly wouldn’t give anyway. You want to congratulate your sibling, well just do that by phoning or visiting instead of broadcasting to the nation.

You say ‘we’ were too busy to take photos cos you were too busy with kids on the day - is this a wind up?? It takes two seconds to take a photo - I’m sure the kids didn’t absorb you both for the complete duration of the wedding and reception.

Forget about the SM drama and move on - and grow up along the way.

Me too. Absolutely deranged.

And riding on the (six months old) coat tails of my wedding.

My social media response to a wedding would be based on the social media presence by the couple about it - if it’s been 6 months and they’ve not put anything up, they’re obviously not bothered about making a massive statement about it on social media. Your DH sibling has obviously decided to make their own post about their wedding day on social media so I wouldn’t feel awkward posting a celebratory post to them.

Perhaps, wait another 6 months, and make a 1st anniversary post for your sibling celebrating all the lovely things you remember from sharing their special day with them as it’s not as awkward as feeling you have to post now because someone else, on the other side of your family (so a relative by marriage to your sibling rather than a direct relative), has approached social media announcements differently!

What a very strange thread.

sometimes I think I’m living in a parallel universe to MN world

I think you're over thinking, it obviously doesn't matter to your sensible sibling. Maybe take a break from social media permanently and regain a bit of perspective. It's not healthy to be so engrossed in the whys wherefores of a solitary post.

Just comment congratulations, lovely wedding on your in-laws photos.

Your dsis hasn't posted photos, so you are not snubbing her by not commenting anything.

You are definitely overthinking this.

Don’t worry about it. You asked them for
photos multiple times and tney didn’t send you any so they can’t/won’t be annoyed with you for not doing a congratulations post.

Also not sure I think people care that much about you doing a congrats post for them. I get if, following a wedding, you have some nice photos of you and your family at the wedding that you want to post (it is your social media after all) then go for it, but I don’t think you need to do a specific post just for them.