To expect my DH to give up alcohol?

[Pushhhh]

If you were a recovering alcoholic would you expect your partner to give up alcohol to support you?

No, I wouldn’t but I would except them to be considerate.

This is where it becomes a problem. You can't really avoid alcohol in society. It's everywhere. Are you going to avoid restaurants? Christmas do's? Weddings? Birthday parties? The only way to avoid alcohol is to become a hermit crab and isolate ourselves from society. It's really not do-able is it. We need to take responsibility and we really don't have the right ask others to curb their life and pleasure and enjoyment because we struggle with addiction. That's my view anyway. Your friend is being really selfish. I mean I understand her need to protect herself, I do. But she cannot shut herself off from society, or expect her other half to live like a monk. Alcohol is a selfish addiction. But recovery can be selfish too. Probably more so. It's like the saying about how fanatical ex-smokers are. Your friend is being incredibly selfish. And I say this as an addict. She either needs to accept her DH is a normal non-addicted imbiber of alcohol, or split from him.