I love him and was happy. He said he left because he wasn’t ready, he thought his life was more sorted than it was. So he ended the relationship as he feels like he’s unsure if we have a future.
I said to him I’m happy and don’t hate him, I’ve got a good job, great people around me, my own place and even though I love him and want to be with him I realised I’m ok with not being with him. And that I appreciate him coming in to my life ect and I understand if he doesn’t feel ready to be serious
He keeps saying I’m glad your happy sometimes randomly and I feel like he doesn’t mean it. He also made back hand comments about me reflecting about being grateful about my life and mentioned I didn’t need him in the relationship even though he tried to be in that position.
we didn’t make it to a year and I tried to explain positions are earned I can’t drop or alter my support network for him when I couldn’t guarantee he was here to stay and he’s kind of proved my point by leaving. I stated imagine if I relied on you like you wanted me to, you leaving would have left me really vulnerable.
I don’t feel as sad as I thought I would and I’m starting to feel like maybe he wasn’t actually there and wanted to support me like I thought but for selfish reasons instead.
im starting to get confused. He doesn’t want a relationship but he still wants to talk and support me through this. He keeps saying how sad and hard this is for him. He’s acting weird about the fact in happy. And he made a funny comment about “we know you’ve done better than most” when I’ve never said that. I was just saying I’m the break up has made me grateful about my life.