Maternity pay

[NoMonNoFunx]

What do you All do after 9 months when maternity Pay stops and you want to take the year.
am I being unreasonable to think we should get paid for the year.
I’ve always worked.

Hi
My contract doesn’t allow for kit days in this job unfortunately- I did avail of them with the other children x
Also, he won’t take a bottle at all, how do I even do one day 🤷‍♀️

You can’t have been working that long if you’re still young enough to be having children! And with 3 other children you’ve had plenty out the system already surely as well as lots of time off work where you weren’t having anything “taken from you”?
I’ve worked since I was 16 and I’m now mid 40s. Have never claimed a benefit in my life. Should I just stop work now and go on benefits because “they’ve taken enough off me in my working life” so I deserve something back? Or, if I want time off without being sick or on maternity leave should I just save/fund it myself?

Ive always went back sooner, I pay my way in life, but my baby won’t take a bottle leaving me in dier straights here!

Trust me, there’s nothing more I want than to go back to work. I’d be back by now if he was taking a bottle!

To allow people time off work and only pay a period of that time when they rob my salary every year, is quite frankly quite shit!

That’s my opinion, it always will be for anyone on Mat leave. You are all entitled to your opinion and I respect your opinions.
Some of you get free childcare, 30 hours I think.
We don’t.
The government is a shambles!!

Unfortunately in many jobs those that are left have to take up the slack for maternity leave - the company cannot always afford to pay two people to do a job (the person on leave plus their cover same goes for sick leave) and I have come across who have returned to work but take the piss in that they "need" to express milk which takes up to three hours a day (really - been there done that got the milk stained tee shirt) or continually leave early.
As for paying in all your life come on you are probably only 30-35 so have been working for about ten years perhaps 15. There are many people around who have worked for forty years and not used anything from the state (education, health, benefits).
I would have loved to have had more time off with babies but it was nice to have the salary (although it was actually negative at times when there were two in nursery for a couple of months until funding kicked in) and adult company - children grow up and I could then resume my career at just a slightly lower level than it would have been.
Yes Mumsnet can be vicious but representative of what people IRL really think

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your assumptions are so wrong 😂😂😂😂

my story couldn’t be more different.
Enough out of the system 🤭
can’t have been working that long 🧐😂😂😂

what a stupid reply based on silly assumptions

you know nothing dear!!

I didn’t even dignify the other posters remark snot find a job that pays it. I wouldn’t expect an employer to pay it.
No have I ever gotten sick pay from an employer. Wouldn’t expect that either.

your symptoms are also incorrect!!

So you expect the taxpayer to pay for it?

Yes I do
that would be me !!

They really haven’t. If you’ve had a few kids, then they really haven’t. Very few people are net contributors. You cost them a lot more than you will ever pay on.

We get enough maternity provisions.

Felt the need to resort to being nasty did you? All because I don't fall in line with you.

You and everyone else. Most taxpayers haven't had four kids.

Ladies
let’s just agree to disagree

have a lovely Saturday 🫶🫶

Nasty is all you get here!

Incorrect assumptions again

If you’re a high enough earner to pay enough tax to be a net contributor then you wouldn’t be struggling for money on maternity leave. So you’re not a high enough earner to be a net contributor.

Because you’re advocating for unprotected sex with every man you go to bed with, and expect the government to make policy to fund all the unplanned babies from it… all because you’ve apparently never ever heard of any reliable adults planning for a child, preparing for they child and using contraception until they are ready for that child.

So you’re 60+ with a young baby yes? Or, under 45 which is what I am assuming yes? (Unless of course you are one of the very rare cases of a pregnancy later than that)

I’m just under 45 myself, and have worked since I was 16. If I decided to not work anymore claiming I have had enough taken from me people would rightly tell me to stop being ridiculous. I haven’t even worked long enough to get enough NI credits for a full state pension in the future. If you have somehow worked far longer than that despite being a similar age or are actually 60+ with a baby then I will apologise.

Yes I agree, it would be better for families, babies and society for at least a year of one-to-one care by a parent to be supported. Ideally two.

Not once have I said I expect the government to pay for it. Have I said Maternity pay provision is poor? No I haven't. I also don't like your assumptions that I am a bit of a slag with multiple sexual partners. For your information, not that you need or deserve to know. I have been with my husband from the age of 15, we are now 48. He is the only sexual partner I have had so I am not advocating unprotected sex with multiple men. Both myself and my DH are also 'reliable' adults and you thinking we aren't is irrelevant. I'm off to enjoy the day with my (unplanned) family now, you have the day you deserve!

You suck up having less money or you get back to work.
You are not entitled to a year off on full pay. Just because 'I want it' is not a good enough reason.

And it would be very unusual for a woman who is a very high earner to have four young children.

If you’ve never had a discussion about number of children you both want, number of children you can afford or have the emotional availability for but you don’t use contraception then you’re irresponsible. It is not a lifestyle choice to advocate for. Lives are ruined by unplanned pregnancies (childrens and adults), so we should all be advocating for family planning and contraception use.
Thank goodness your kids will get sex education in school so they can learn about contraception.

Just say you've had an unwanted pregnancy that ruined your life instead of projecting onto others. Not that I should have to share this information with you or anyone, we didn't use contraception for medical reasons which I don't need to disclose the nature of to you. My children's knowledge around contraception is none of your concern, but if it helps you sleep better at night, my 27 year old daughter is on the pill, and my 18 year old son uses condoms with his girlfriend. No need for the 6 year old to use anything yet.

If @JasperTheDoll has been with her husband for over 30 years and has three children rather than 12, I assume they have used contraception for most of their relationship, so no idea what the whole wide-eyed "people plan their families?" schtick is all about.

Being irresponsible with birth control is planning to have a baby. If you're regularly having unprotected sex you're actively trying for a child.

Christ we teach this to teenagers.