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Do you believe in God/a higher power?

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CuriousAboutWhatYouThink · 08/10/2025 07:09

Not religion. I have no time for organised religion and the associated man made rules.

But do you believe in 'something'?

For context, my grandad was a CofE vicar but my parent rebelled against it and we were brought up broadly l in the religion (eg we celebrated main religious festivals like Easter and Christmas) but not as practising Christians and without a particular belief in God.

As an adult, I have friends of different faiths and none and it's something we have discussed from time to time. It's also something I used to discuss with my grandma who had a very strong belief in God but also believed the Bible until she became older when she still had a strong faith but admitted she thought the Bible was largely nonsense!

I suppose I've always felt that there is 'something' but I refer to it as the universe. I don't know, I always feel that there has been 'something' looking out for me.

That doesn't mean bad things have never happened because they have and religion/belief doesn't protect anyone from that. And it doesn't mean my life is anywhere near perfect because it's not. But the universe has always seemed to 'step in' when needed.

I don't know. I'm going through a tough time at the moment but I have a feeling everything will turn out to be OK because it always does.

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MyHeartyCoralSnail · 08/10/2025 18:46

Camelcarpet · 08/10/2025 07:11

Yes. You should do an alpha course. Ask questions. 👍

Edited

Christ alive - don’t do an Alpha course, I’ve tried it a few times they’re fucking awful and generally run by people who almost inevitably turn out to be Christian apologists

Funnywonder · 08/10/2025 18:50

I don’t believe in anything. Not a dicky bird.

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 08/10/2025 18:50

Li think there’s a higher power, but I think we create it - not as in make something up, but I believe each of us has something bigger than ourselves

LivingTheDreamish · 08/10/2025 18:51

TheSwarm · 08/10/2025 18:27

Of course.

But "God did it" is just a human invented cop-out to fill in the gaps we don't understand. Ultimately everything has an explaination and I can guarantee you it has nothing to do with what is in the bible or any other religious book.

I think most Christians are also waiting for the gaps to be filled in. “God did it” isn’t a refusal to be rational or evidence of blinkered thinking, it’s just that we are expecting God to provide the answers eventually, which He has promised to do. I suppose this is the substance of faith. It makes sense that if you don’t believe in God you are waiting on different answers.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 08/10/2025 18:52

Autumn38 · 08/10/2025 17:20

Goodness if I only believed/accepted things I 100% understood there would be a lot I didn’t believe in!

Well, I can't say I entirely understand magnetism but I know enough to say that like poles always repel, opposite poles always attract and that the force between them always decreases at an inverse cube of the distance. That's enough to be able to make testable predictions which back up the claims about their properties.

None of the claims about gods I've heard are anywhere close to that kind of basic knowledge. I'm not talking about 100% understanding; something that at least is internally coherent would be a good start.

user1471453601 · 08/10/2025 18:59

A famous philosopher. ( So famous I cannot remember his name 😀) said a logical person must believe in God, because if they were wrong, it didn't matter, but if they were right, it may matter.

I agree with the logic, but cannot bring myself to go along with it. So, it's a hard no from me.

MagicLoop · 08/10/2025 18:59

No. In some ways I have more time for religion than actual deities. There are obviously some really bad things about organised religion, but it's a shame we can't seem to keep the good bits (cohesive communities, shared beliefs, passed down traditions, awe and wonder, ritual and festival etc) and ditch the bad bits (power and corruption, religious wars, bigotry etc) and the made-up deities!

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 08/10/2025 18:59

CountryGirlInTheCity · 08/10/2025 16:52

Hmm how about this as something to ponder….

I agree with you that life has to start somewhere and matter has to come from somewhere. It is intellectually unsatisfying to think that something came from nothing. So we’re back to the question of ‘Was someone or something behind it?’ If we go down that route for a moment we then land on your question of ‘where did that god come from?’ Then of course you have to ask that question again. And again. If God himself had a creator, that creator would be a bigger God, who in turn would need a bigger god to create him and so on with no end.

Here’s the thing: What if the creator of the universe has no beginning and no end? What if he is in fact eternal? After all if he’s created the known and unknown universe (which to me does make more logical sense than it springing from nowhere), he’s bigger and more powerful already than I can get my head around. Maybe, given that, now it doesn’t seem an altogether stupid idea that he might not be bound by the laws of space and time that are boundaries on the created world. What if our view of God and all he is, is just too small for our minds? What if, instead of arriving at ‘If matter comes from something not nothing, then possibly it comes from God, but that can’t be true because where does he come from?’ We get to ‘If matter comes from something not nothing, then possibly it comes from God. If that is true then he must be greater than I can ever contemplate or imagine’?

This is a fascinating thread and I’m enjoying reading what people think. It’s good to stop and think about these things. 😊

Ok, let's assume there is something eternal that created the universe as we know it. Why ascribe intelligence to that eternal entity? Could it not be an eternal, unthinking, automatic process that just randomly buds off universes?

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 08/10/2025 19:01

user1471453601 · 08/10/2025 18:59

A famous philosopher. ( So famous I cannot remember his name 😀) said a logical person must believe in God, because if they were wrong, it didn't matter, but if they were right, it may matter.

I agree with the logic, but cannot bring myself to go along with it. So, it's a hard no from me.

That's more-or-less Pascal's Wager, which entirely ignores the fact that there's a thousand different god claims to choose from.

thecatneuterer · 08/10/2025 19:03

MagicLoop · 08/10/2025 18:59

No. In some ways I have more time for religion than actual deities. There are obviously some really bad things about organised religion, but it's a shame we can't seem to keep the good bits (cohesive communities, shared beliefs, passed down traditions, awe and wonder, ritual and festival etc) and ditch the bad bits (power and corruption, religious wars, bigotry etc) and the made-up deities!

Interesting post and I find myself more or less agreeing with it.

CustardySergeant · 08/10/2025 19:04

No.

Bourneo · 08/10/2025 19:06

Yes 💯 believe there's something. I call it the universe too. Or source energy.

FilthyforFirth · 08/10/2025 19:07

Kirbert2 · 08/10/2025 12:07

Yep.

I have never believed and certainly never will after my son was diagnosed with cancer last year.

If he's real then he can fuck right off as far as I'm concerned.

So sorry to hear about your son. I hope he is on the road to recovery.

user1471453601 · 08/10/2025 19:21

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 08/10/2025 19:01

That's more-or-less Pascal's Wager, which entirely ignores the fact that there's a thousand different god claims to choose from.

And I don't believe in any of the thousand. I still think their logic is brilliant, but I just cannot be persuaded to think something I don't believe is somehow ok to put forward, because it may, in another life, benefit me. Just feels too close to lying.

inamo · 08/10/2025 19:23

No one appears to have explained why God is considered "benevolent" (Christian God), but allows death, destruction, childhood illness, and all the rest of it.

Has anyone rationally explained that yet? And FWIW I know about the catch all cop out of the ridiculous nonsense called "Free Will". That's handy isn't it? No explanation required, it's all our fault at the end of the day for exercising free will, that God apparently gave us. Hands off so, and off you go, but mind my rules aswell. OMG!

Kirbert2 · 08/10/2025 19:23

FilthyforFirth · 08/10/2025 19:07

So sorry to hear about your son. I hope he is on the road to recovery.

He is, thank you.

goodytwoshoes123 · 08/10/2025 19:24

Yes and it brings me a lot of comfort

CountryGirlInTheCity · 08/10/2025 19:25

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 08/10/2025 18:59

Ok, let's assume there is something eternal that created the universe as we know it. Why ascribe intelligence to that eternal entity? Could it not be an eternal, unthinking, automatic process that just randomly buds off universes?

I guess so, although I don’t think it’s the intelligence part of this question that causes the biggest problems. Our universe is so unbelievably complex and intricate and everything is fine-tuned to such a degree (we are the exact distance from the sun to ensure we are warm enough but don’t burn for example) that it kind of makes sense that if the universe was indeed created, it was by an intelligent being.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 08/10/2025 19:26

Yes. I have witnessed many people coming back from devastation through addiction recovery.

pontivex · 08/10/2025 19:44

Lemonadepie · 08/10/2025 17:54

Do you really believe that there’s a god who keeps an eye on and understands the views of all the billions of humans currently on the planet? Do you honestly think that that is possible??

He’s spending a lot of time ensuring sportsmen score goals and touchdowns and making bullets swerve through air and judging people who use contraception which is why he’s not noticed all the other big stuff.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 08/10/2025 19:45

user1471453601 · 08/10/2025 18:59

A famous philosopher. ( So famous I cannot remember his name 😀) said a logical person must believe in God, because if they were wrong, it didn't matter, but if they were right, it may matter.

I agree with the logic, but cannot bring myself to go along with it. So, it's a hard no from me.

That's also the argument for reincarnation, which just happens to be my own belief

We try to live the best lives we can in order to learn and progress, but I fully accept this is unprovable too, so if it's nonsense at least we've done our best and if it's correct we may stand a chance of better lives in future

Edited to add it was Blaise Pascal who made the "logical" argument

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 08/10/2025 20:34

CountryGirlInTheCity · 08/10/2025 19:25

I guess so, although I don’t think it’s the intelligence part of this question that causes the biggest problems. Our universe is so unbelievably complex and intricate and everything is fine-tuned to such a degree (we are the exact distance from the sun to ensure we are warm enough but don’t burn for example) that it kind of makes sense that if the universe was indeed created, it was by an intelligent being.

There's an inconceivably vast number of planets in the universe, circling countless suns across trillions of galaxies. It's not a massive surprise that at least one happens to be at roughly the right distance from its sun to have liquid water and a convenient mix of chemicals that can sustain life. Roll the dice enough times and they're going to come up sixes.

Greenmouldycheese · 08/10/2025 20:36

Yes. I saw something many years ago so I've believed in 'something' since then whether it be ghosts or whatever. Been reading the Bible for a year and wish I'd done it sooner. I absolutely believe.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 08/10/2025 20:45

CountryGirlInTheCity · 08/10/2025 16:52

Hmm how about this as something to ponder….

I agree with you that life has to start somewhere and matter has to come from somewhere. It is intellectually unsatisfying to think that something came from nothing. So we’re back to the question of ‘Was someone or something behind it?’ If we go down that route for a moment we then land on your question of ‘where did that god come from?’ Then of course you have to ask that question again. And again. If God himself had a creator, that creator would be a bigger God, who in turn would need a bigger god to create him and so on with no end.

Here’s the thing: What if the creator of the universe has no beginning and no end? What if he is in fact eternal? After all if he’s created the known and unknown universe (which to me does make more logical sense than it springing from nowhere), he’s bigger and more powerful already than I can get my head around. Maybe, given that, now it doesn’t seem an altogether stupid idea that he might not be bound by the laws of space and time that are boundaries on the created world. What if our view of God and all he is, is just too small for our minds? What if, instead of arriving at ‘If matter comes from something not nothing, then possibly it comes from God, but that can’t be true because where does he come from?’ We get to ‘If matter comes from something not nothing, then possibly it comes from God. If that is true then he must be greater than I can ever contemplate or imagine’?

This is a fascinating thread and I’m enjoying reading what people think. It’s good to stop and think about these things. 😊

Yeah, that doesn't work for me.

A "god" to me, has to me made of something. I don't care what, atoms and molecules and all that crap might be specific to our universe, but any higher power must be made of something, no matter how alien it is to our primitive little brains.

And that stuff had to come from somewhere, so where did it come from?

It's just another later of turtles.

dizzydizzydizzy · 08/10/2025 21:08

SorcererGaheris · 08/10/2025 17:38

@dizzydizzydizzy

I can understand why it would put you off Catholicism or Christianity, but there are quite a few religions that do not operate or have the same premises as Christianity, so it needn't necessarily put you off them.

Pagan religions, for example, are VERY different, and based around entirely different premises.

Not saying you should be one, just that there's no reason a negative experience with a particular religion should put you off every single one.

Good point but it’s just not for me.

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