To think it's ok for DS to use a jug to rinse his hair in the bath?

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DS is 11 and takes baths and uses a jug to rinse his hair. It's still the same jug from when he was a baby. It lasted well, but it's finally starting to fall apart.

I told DH I was going to buy a new jug, but he insists that jugs are only for babies and DS should now do without. DS disagrees strongly.

As far as I can find, even for adults, rinsing hair with a cup or jug is a reasonably normal thing to do. On the other hand, the only shampoo-rinsing jugs I can find in shops are in the section for baby stuff.

YABU = Jugs/cups are for babies. DS needs to rinse his hair another way.
YANBU = Rinsing hair with a cup/jug is fine.

I lived in a house share all men except me and at least 2 people used a jug to wash their hair daily and also their was a shower they just choose to wash their hair over the bath and use a jug

Clarifying a few things... Yes, we have a shower attachment that DS can use to rinse his hair (or take a shower) if he wants to.

No one is in the bathroom with him policing how he bathes. It came up because the jug that sat by the bath for 11 years started to crack, so he asked for a new one. The old one wasn't even particularly babyish, though I did buy it when he was a baby and it was in the baby section of the shop, so when DH insisted that jugs are only for babies, it made me wonder if he was right. (It was similar to this: www.boots.com/mothercare-rinse-cup-white-10336521)

I'm fine to offer a different kind of jug. In fact, I think I already have a spare big plastic measuring jug in a kitchen cupboard somewhere that would work well.

DH says THE way to rinse shampoo the bath is the lying-back-and-swooshing method, and jugs are for babies, so DS should lie back and swoosh.

DS has ASD and is highly resistant to change. I think DH is a bit sensitive about me babying DS. I tend to pick my battles to focus on things that I think are important (like going to school) and let some of the other things (like baths vs showers) go until DS is willing. Right now, DS still likes a bath and a jug, so I'm ok to let him have them.

I also have short hair, but I’m weirdly particular about rinsing it. I think I’m probably more fussy about it than most because my scalp’s naturally oily and and additional residue on my hair makes it feel worse.

I think having a jug is completely fine and I think any plastic kitchen jug will do. Some people don’t like to lay back in the bath and get water in their ears, my bf is one of them. I don’t mind laying back but I use a plastic cup to rinse my crotch with fresh water after a bath. We all have our quirks and using something to rinse isn’t childish/babyish, I wonder why your DH is bothered

One learm is something every day - there are actually jugs one can buy for this specific purpose! Surely any jug will do?

Hey OP, I’m autistic and have autistic DC too. My DC used a jug for years - DS still would prefer this if he’s in the bath rather than shower.

Aside from any dislike of change, there may be sensory issues at play here too. Rinsing with a jug is very different to swooshing and immersing yourself.

Tell your DH that providing your DS with a jug to rinse his hair is really not a hill worth dying on! No one needs to know - as long as he’s clean, who cares?!

I would uch rather my dcs use a jug in the bath than put their head back into the bath water, much less risk of ear infections.

Has your DH said anything to your ds about being babyish/like a baby? I really hope he's keeping his comments to you and not to your ds. It's bad enough saying it about his ds.

What on earth is wrong with your DH?

We use a plastic mixing bowl. 😂

I use a plastic jug in bath and I’m 38

I think I used to do this at my parents house when I was his sort of age instead of the shower attachment. I can confirm as an adult, it has done me no lasting damage and I’m perfectly able to function 🤣

You not have a shower over the bath with which he could rinse his hair and rinae himself.

Having said that, there's nothing woong with using a jug and buying a big one would hardly break the bank. I don't see it as a big deal worthy of dscussion on Mumsnet.
Something like this would be ideal:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lightweight-Measuring-Hardwearing-Non-Toxic-Dishwasher/dp/B0CK62HD87/ref=sr12sspa?adgrpid=160699428666&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.AfFJMId8dwo12RRGbZu-OLK42sTCGe2H2e4HzYVdI8-TTg624le7ADZiwor2mbI-rCzr8Zuuj3Zq1h-X7PRGNJJ-D0Kd0KjV6ZWcOIKlNvdDLGsqJyQrwVNNlwGBm2MoztWPp1Fo1t4bbp-yBOIY9WkeQph81vroxw0LunP6cVMs0BAH-LV514rgJCqykArs8ZfkWZJK-76ujMHMoY4Ji8R02Xe1XKNVkPDzEywjJ7jGpQnkYSa1cHfR2J17XFSfVf22OmPcpGk0hXgiuyQzf6BxgawN2KX0h4m5Qepo.y3tN6BnzWRm5-PA-AFrgK7D54BXBHzUgiiI2bWWtY8&dibtag=se&gadsource=1&hvadid=772386834370&hvdev=c&hvexpln=69&hvlocphy=9197374&hvnetw=g&hvocijid=3906466067496282835&hvqmt=e&hvrand=3906466067496282835&hvtargid=kwd-302852312541&hydadcr=184792412068&keywords=large%2Bplastic%2Bmeasuring%2Bjug&mcid=28c88a542af438c2bf0a30e1ef782a39&qid=1759901551&sr=8-2-spons&spcsd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&th=1

When I stay with my parents they don't have a shower. I take a cheap two pints plastic jug from the local hardware shop, cost £1.75.

I'm 63!

OP, your DH is….mistaken. Loads of people use a jug to rinse their hair. I always have a shower, so it’s not an issue, but as a kid I hated getting water in my ears, which you have to do if you lie back and swoosh your hair in the bath. Just give DS a plastic measuring jug, and tell your DH that no-one’s interfering with how he has a bath, and he should leave DS alone to perform his ablutions as he sees fit.

DH says THE way to rinse shampoo the bath is the lying-back-and-swooshing method, and jugs are for babies, so DS should lie back and swoosh.

How does that rinse out shampoo, soap or anything else that is in the bath water?

I’d like to see the baby prodigy that can use a jug to rinse its own hair!
We have always since the baby times just used an old plastic measuring jug, with a face drawn on it by my (then) toddler. It even has a name.

It even has a name.

Juggy McJugface?

If you spend a lot of time musing on Rightmove as I do, you come across a lot of 'old lady bathrooms' either from deceased estates or dated properties and they usually/often have a plastic jug hanging in the bathroom. For hair rinsing.

Not particularly unusual or strange or worthy of even any conversation really.

What?! I still use a plastic mug to rinse my hair, it’s literally the easiest and quickest way to do it! Leaning back in the water is a pain and doesn’t get all the shampoo out as well. A shower attachment is a faff. Your dh is being ridiculous.

Not everyone has a shower

He might be right to be sensitive about you babying your son, but this isnt an example of it

Lots of people use a jug because its more convenient

Lots of bathrooms dont have a shower attachment but even if they do, its a bit of a faff when you're in the bath and you are at the other end of the shower attachment. So what do you do, get up out of your nice warm bath and stand up, get the water running , then sit back down and use the shower attachment, rinse off, water still running, then get back up to turn it off and put it back. Faff

Or swish your head under the water, yes good idea which is what I do but you know it doesnt rinse properly because of the soap and suds in the bath water

Or you can use a jug, shuffle forward a bit, run the tap into the jug, rinse off.

We have a shower attachment but due to faff above I dont use it to rinse in the bath. Which is why I dont have many baths and have showers instead.

MN has just passed out with the shock of this!!!

I've always rinsed mine with a jug and I'm in my 50s. We have a shower but I really dislike showers and only have one when there's no other choice, e.g. in a hotel.

DH says THE way to rinse shampoo the bath is the lying-back-and-swooshing method, and jugs are for babies, so DS should lie back and swoosh.

Swooshing is all right for a first rinse, but it can never be satisfactory on its own given that the bath water will be dirty and soapy anyway. Your son's method sounds much better, assuming he is using clean water from the tap.