To not want to go to New York for honeymoon ?

[TillyScoutsmum]

My first AIBU post - they scare me

Dp and I are getting married later this year and MIL has kindly offered to have dd for a few days so we can have a bit of a honeymoon.

A client of DP's has a fab apartment in Manhattan, New York and has offered to lend it to us (free gratis). DP is understandably very keen to go.

However, dd will be 18 months old and I've only left her for 24 hours before a couple of times (once with DP). I'm just not sure I'd feel comfortable being a flight away from her and would rather go to a really nice hotel in the UK (which frankly, will probably end up costing us a bit more)

Dp thinks I'm being very PFB about it and should just go to New York.

AIBU to want to stay a little bit closer to home, just in case ?

Oh and Franca's line "I love cities, I find nature extremely overrated" PMSL, and sooo true

(lizzer, thank goodness, I thought it was a controversial statement )

oh god, don't do a city break for your honeymoon.

dh and i did paris for ours and it was a nightmare. it was hot, exhausting and we were fighting the whole time and ended up going home early we were so sick of it and we lost money on the hotel and eurostar which made it worse. so much for a romantic honeymoon.

i wish we had done a relaxing honeymoon in england

Hi Tilly

Its amazing, please go! Its the only place I've ever visited where I would have gladly asked someone to ship my belongings over and not returned home. Ever.

Don't go Mexico either we did and ended up in a hurricane shelter for 4 days because of a cat 5 hurricane (Wilma)

Have worried ever since about the whole "omen" thing......

peacelilly - went to Mexico for my first honeymoon - awful storms (no hurricane though)

Was that your first marriage??

feeling a sense of forboding.....

Congratulations on your forthcoming Wedding BTW

Now Mexico, that would be a good honeymoon place. I have spent happy and romantic times there.

Hmm, you've got me thinking about NY for our HM too now....i'll be brave and go if you do

peacelilly - it was my first... The omen wasn't the storms - it was ex h shagging anything that moved

Do you reckon you could do NY justice in 3 nights ? Don't want to go for much longer and want to enjoy a few lie ins (and afternoon sessions ) without worrying that we're "wasting" the holiday

No, I don't think 3 days are enough in NY, especially if you want time to relax.
How about Barcellona, it should also be quite mild in the winter. Or Madrid. I can also recommend San Sebastian, the town is gorgeous, nice shops, excellent restaurants and the nature is amazing. Mind you the weather is not going to be that nice in December.
Or Stockholm? Wouldn't stockholm be romantic?

Oh god I'd go in a heartbeat. I can see why you don't want to go, but if you just went for say 3 nights that wouldn't be too long would it?

Our honeymoon was a trip to Sweden, as my DP puts it.

Actually it was a trip to Ikea in Bristol, the ole romantic that he is!

Do what YOU want to do, if you dont feel comfortable going you will not enjoy it, however if this is just a bit of nerves then get over it and have a ball.

Another thread I seem to have stopped in its tracks.

I went to NY for 4 nights when ds2 (third child admittedly so no PFB symptoms left by then!) was 10 months old.

He was absolutely fine, ds1 told his teacher I had gone to live in NY! and I had such a good time I would have stayed for longer if I could....

GO!

at first i thought 'oh god, just go' but having scanned through, and read all your posts tilly, i reckon the hotel du vin in brighton will be better because;
its relaxing, like you want.
theres still life (and bars) around
journey time is MUCH shorter, so more time for lovin' (and sleeping)
you'll feel more relaxed about dd coz you know you can get there in the extremely unlikely event that Something Happens.

and go to NY another time, but soon. i had 3 babies in 3 yrs and tbh, its a bit of a slog being in the 'baby stage' for quite so long... you NEED to make time for breaks too.

Thanks Boyz(and everyone else) - I think we're going to book Hotel du Vin and if I'm feeling a bit differently nearer the time, we can always cancel and do NY instead. I just reckon it might be a bit hectic for a 3 night honeymoon..

Already can't wait to go though

i do really think that 3 days isnt long enough to go to NY... all that journey time either end, plus your body clock being out when you get there, and back, and you'll be exhausted after the big day an all that too...

any chance you could do both? Hotel du Vin on your own for your honeymoon, then NY as a family - maybe next year (not sure if the apartment offer would still stand - but maybe worth a try?)

and do you know what? I think a lot of posters are forgetting that it's you and dh who will be so far from them. I am very laid back (I went to Iraq for 3 weeks when dd was less than 1) but I would find it difficult for dh and I both to be a plane flight away from them.

I understand completely, but you could be home in hours if needed to be (and you won't!).

I find it hard to leave my girls, even with my Mum and Dad as DD2 has special medical needs but I hope to soon when I've got them trained up.

DH and I had a Christmas wedding and flew out to NYC for our honeymoon on Boxing Day, it was wonderful, please go.