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Neighbour has put up huge Unite the Kingdom flag

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UrticaDioca · 05/10/2025 15:05

I am gutted. I haven't seen a single flag in my town, and suddenly this union jack goes up two doors over with the words 'Unite the Kingdom' printed on it in capital letters. The flag is huge and flying from a pole on top of their shed, but it's in their own garden so nothing can be done.

I am the daughter of an immigrant mother and therefore mixed race. Now I have to see this fucking flag waving at me every time I look out of my kitchen or living room windows.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 17:52

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 06/10/2025 17:42

No it was the BNP. I have corrected myself since.

That good old bastion of anti racism.Wink

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 17:54

Vordooflore · 06/10/2025 17:51

You hate the country you live in?

No, she just hates the racist fuckwits who are ruining the country she lives in.

DiscoBeat · 06/10/2025 18:00

I hate those flags and I'm of British heritage

Vordooflore · 06/10/2025 18:29

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 17:54

No, she just hates the racist fuckwits who are ruining the country she lives in.

This country is ruined by politicians you chose

Grammarnut · 06/10/2025 18:31

JHound · 06/10/2025 14:56

Is any of this true?

All of it. Have a look around. Reparations for slavery, white fragility, only white people are racist, no-one else ever is, everything produced by European society is suspect. And you can add a layer of trans ideology on top, as misogynistic and homophobic icing (should go well with supporting Hamas, who agree with both ideas).

AngelicKaty · 06/10/2025 18:36

AnnaFrith · 06/10/2025 17:10

Obviously I know that lots of people say that Tommy Robinson is a racist.
Unfortunately, they seem to be mostly the same people who say that some men are women.
They also seem to be the same people who say that anyone concerned about the massive rise in immigration is an ignorant racist bigot.
So I'd prefer to find out what he's actually said, then make my own decision about him.

Except you haven't bothered to "find out" and it's clear from your response you think this violent thug (who's served FIVE prison terms) is an OK bloke. 🙄
And saying that people who say things you disagree with "seem to be the same people" who say other things you don't agree with is moronic. No-one believes that people who are concerned about uncontrolled immigration (as am I) are all ignorant, racist bigots - only the ones who go on a march with Tommy Ten Names when they have the choice not to.

Grammarnut · 06/10/2025 18:43

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 17:19

Who is trashing their culture and telling them that it isn't worthwhile? This is a genuine question btw, because I'm white British and I honestly have no idea what you're talking about.

Are you able to give some genuine evidenced examples of this?

Critical race theory being taught in schools, which seems to involve separating by ethnicity to make its points (I can't think of anything more racist). Australian schools teaching the history of Australia as entirely exploitation - some was, some wasn't, balance here is good. Elevation of traditional 'ways of seeing' over empirical scientific method which is seen as disempowering for those who are not ethnically European (unless Irish?) and an imposition on other cultures' own ideas (albeit quite a lot of the scientific method comes from e.g. what is now India). The replacement on English literature courses of books by dead white males (e.g. Steinbeck - I don't like Steinbeck but I don't want his work unstudied), or problematical books removed such as To Kill a Mockingbird (racist terms and 'white saviour' narrative - poor Atticus!). I think we should study wider ranges of literature but we should be adding to the cannon, not chucking out the bits that do not agree with the current mindset.
Moral anachronism, which means applying current morality to past societies esp. European ones - this is bad history, people's actions can only be judged in terms of their own times, e.g. I can think badly of Edmund Tudor having sex with his 12 year old wife because people at the time were shocked and thought it was something he should not have done.

Grammarnut · 06/10/2025 18:51

saraclara · 06/10/2025 17:39

Another one here who has no idea what you mean by our culture being trashed. Can you explain?

I live in a mostly white area, and worked for decades in a nearby town which is one of the most multicultural in the UK. I see no difference at all in the British cultural stuff going on in both places. The other cultures added to cultural life, they didn't detract from it, criticise it, or diminish it. The cultures existed side by side.

So yes, I'm not sure what I've missed and would appreciate some examples of our culture being trashed.

It's not the people coming to our country and bringing welcome diversity. It is academia, TV programmes on history or art, which tend to lean into the idea that white and European is tainted e.g. with slavery (as if slavery did not exist anywhere but in Europe the US) and also with a sense of superiority (I will accept this one, in fact, but it has little place in art criticism). Subtle ideas that everything you see is the product of sugar plantations in the West Indies (when it wasn't and there was from the 1760s a huge anti-slavery campaign in the UK), that European societies have been uniquely exploitative with no excursions into other colonial systems e.g. the systematic destruction of local cultures by Arab invaders in the North Coast of Africa and southern Europe by Arabs spreading Islam (word and sword) from the 8th century onwards. No mention of the oppression of the Ottoman or Chinese empires but a catalogue of opprobrium of Orientalism (think Ingres' Odalisque etc) without a thought of the slaving from Europe by Arabs, where blonde, blue-eyed women fetched a premium in slave markets as concubines and prostitutes. Nor that e.g. Benin bronzes are the products of profit from slavery (Benin is part of what was Dahomey or the Slave Coast and the King of Dahomey went to war with the UK in the early 1800s over the prevention of the slave trade from his realm) but that whole swathes of European art are. A bit one-sided in other words.

Putneydad7 · 06/10/2025 19:00

We are all descendants of economic migrants, it's just a matter of how far back you want to go. Populism comes and goes, was very popular in Germany in the 30's, Italy in the 40's, Spain in the 60s, Argentina in the 80s. This time it seems to be everywhere. Let your neighbour fly his flag, eventually when the civil war comes, he'll be first to be identified.

Petitchat · 06/10/2025 19:12

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 17:38

Unfortunately, I think it may well impact on your ability to sell the house. A lot of people won't want to move to that kind of neighbourhood.

There is a guy with a flagpole near us, who has been flying the England flag for various sporting events for the last 15 years or so. I noticed that he has stopped flying it recently, and assume that it's because he doesn't want people to think he is supporting Tommy Robinson. It's a shame that the far right have claimed it and turned it into a no-go thing for everyone else.

Normal citizens have claimed it to bring British people and families together, at a very worrying time.

Sadly, some shameful people are trying to trash it with far right and racist allegations.

And trying to trash the successful rally with allegations of 150,000 decent people being racists.
But people know the truth, especially the ones who were there.

It's easy to vilify and try to cause division from behind a keyboard, Instead of being loud and proud of the marchers.

Talk TV this morning, Mike Graham and Rafe Hayden-Mankoo were saying that in their opinion the marchers and flag flyers are the backbone of Britain and are decent British folk who are tired of what they have to endure.

I fully agree.

Petitchat · 06/10/2025 19:13

Vordooflore · 06/10/2025 18:29

This country is ruined by politicians you chose

Spot on.

PandoraSocks · 06/10/2025 19:14

Talk TV this morning, Mike Graham and Rafe Hayden-Mankoo were saying that in their opinion the marchers and flag flyers are the backbone of Britain and are decent British folk who are tired of what they have to endure

Oh, well that must make it true then!

Petitchat · 06/10/2025 19:17

PandoraSocks · 06/10/2025 19:14

Talk TV this morning, Mike Graham and Rafe Hayden-Mankoo were saying that in their opinion the marchers and flag flyers are the backbone of Britain and are decent British folk who are tired of what they have to endure

Oh, well that must make it true then!

Other peoples opinions do matter, you know.

CurlewKate · 06/10/2025 19:28

Grammarnut · 06/10/2025 18:51

It's not the people coming to our country and bringing welcome diversity. It is academia, TV programmes on history or art, which tend to lean into the idea that white and European is tainted e.g. with slavery (as if slavery did not exist anywhere but in Europe the US) and also with a sense of superiority (I will accept this one, in fact, but it has little place in art criticism). Subtle ideas that everything you see is the product of sugar plantations in the West Indies (when it wasn't and there was from the 1760s a huge anti-slavery campaign in the UK), that European societies have been uniquely exploitative with no excursions into other colonial systems e.g. the systematic destruction of local cultures by Arab invaders in the North Coast of Africa and southern Europe by Arabs spreading Islam (word and sword) from the 8th century onwards. No mention of the oppression of the Ottoman or Chinese empires but a catalogue of opprobrium of Orientalism (think Ingres' Odalisque etc) without a thought of the slaving from Europe by Arabs, where blonde, blue-eyed women fetched a premium in slave markets as concubines and prostitutes. Nor that e.g. Benin bronzes are the products of profit from slavery (Benin is part of what was Dahomey or the Slave Coast and the King of Dahomey went to war with the UK in the early 1800s over the prevention of the slave trade from his realm) but that whole swathes of European art are. A bit one-sided in other words.

I really don’t see this happening. What I see is a welcome change from the “Our Island Story” type of history which was prevalent in my childhood, and a deeper understanding and analysis of our heritage. Do you really think, for example, that it’s a good idea NOT to look at where Thomas Bertrand in Mansfield Park got his money? Or to consider the impact of Colonialism on India and Pakistan? Or for white Australians not to acknowledge their role in the virtual extinction of the indigenous people?

Efacsen · 06/10/2025 19:42

Grammarnut · 06/10/2025 18:51

It's not the people coming to our country and bringing welcome diversity. It is academia, TV programmes on history or art, which tend to lean into the idea that white and European is tainted e.g. with slavery (as if slavery did not exist anywhere but in Europe the US) and also with a sense of superiority (I will accept this one, in fact, but it has little place in art criticism). Subtle ideas that everything you see is the product of sugar plantations in the West Indies (when it wasn't and there was from the 1760s a huge anti-slavery campaign in the UK), that European societies have been uniquely exploitative with no excursions into other colonial systems e.g. the systematic destruction of local cultures by Arab invaders in the North Coast of Africa and southern Europe by Arabs spreading Islam (word and sword) from the 8th century onwards. No mention of the oppression of the Ottoman or Chinese empires but a catalogue of opprobrium of Orientalism (think Ingres' Odalisque etc) without a thought of the slaving from Europe by Arabs, where blonde, blue-eyed women fetched a premium in slave markets as concubines and prostitutes. Nor that e.g. Benin bronzes are the products of profit from slavery (Benin is part of what was Dahomey or the Slave Coast and the King of Dahomey went to war with the UK in the early 1800s over the prevention of the slave trade from his realm) but that whole swathes of European art are. A bit one-sided in other words.

So patronising

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/10/2025 19:51

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 06/10/2025 15:41

BBC Panorama did a documentary on the EDL and TR in 2004 where he spoke about grooming gangs.

The grooming gangs were first exposed by Ann Cryer MP in 2002.

Members the BNP were recorded discussing it, briefly, by Panorama in 2004. It was not exposed nor was it "investigated" by TR.

Following The Times actually exposing the scandal everyone took notice.

Around 2013 Tommy Robinson started using the cases for Internet content thereby jeopardising trials.

He didnt expose the grooming gangs. The victims and the supportive people around them exposed the grooming gangs. TR disrespects them by taking credit for their hard, painful work. But then he doesn't give a shit about them, he's shown that already. Its all about creating Content for his Internet fans.

AnnaFrith · 06/10/2025 20:13

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 17:52

That good old bastion of anti racism.Wink

The poster's point is that at the time the BBC documentary was made, in 2004, the claims the BNP made about the grooming gangs were seen as evidence of their racism.
Presumably also by all the people who ignored the evidence that the claims were true, due to their 'anti-racism'.

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/10/2025 20:22

AnnaFrith · 06/10/2025 17:10

Obviously I know that lots of people say that Tommy Robinson is a racist.
Unfortunately, they seem to be mostly the same people who say that some men are women.
They also seem to be the same people who say that anyone concerned about the massive rise in immigration is an ignorant racist bigot.
So I'd prefer to find out what he's actually said, then make my own decision about him.

Tommy Robinson is a racist.
Transwomen are men.

https://www.cleveland.pcc.police.uk/news/redcar-family-suffers-racist-abuse/

Family living in fear after innocent park video is hijacked by far-right trolls - Cleveland Police and Crime Commissioner

Redcar family suffers racist abuse after far right hi-jacks and manipulates innocent video of a family day out

https://www.cleveland.pcc.police.uk/news/redcar-family-suffers-racist-abuse/

AngelicKaty · 06/10/2025 20:57

Vordooflore · 06/10/2025 17:51

You hate the country you live in?

Where did @UrticaDioca say that?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 21:59

CurlewKate · 06/10/2025 19:28

I really don’t see this happening. What I see is a welcome change from the “Our Island Story” type of history which was prevalent in my childhood, and a deeper understanding and analysis of our heritage. Do you really think, for example, that it’s a good idea NOT to look at where Thomas Bertrand in Mansfield Park got his money? Or to consider the impact of Colonialism on India and Pakistan? Or for white Australians not to acknowledge their role in the virtual extinction of the indigenous people?

It's interesting. I have spent a lot of time in different countries, and one of the things that has consistently made me proud of being British has been our willingness as a nation to face up to some of the darker aspects of our history and to acknowledge the negative impact that Britain has had on many parts of the world - from what I have observed, not all countries are willing to confront the past with this kind of openness and honesty, and I see their reluctance to do so as a weakness. Of course, it doesn't mean that we can't celebrate the positive aspects of our heritage as well, or all of the good things that our ancestors achieved.

It's fascinating to me that some people perceive these things so differently. I see it as a sign of a confidence in Britain that we can own our history with all its warts, and that we don't feel the need to gloss over the shameful bits. Others seem to feel that we should just gloss over the bad stuff because that's somehow more patriotic or something. But what's the point of patriotism if it is based on ignorance?

Timeforabitofpeace · 06/10/2025 22:47

I can’t imagine anyone less capable of uniting people than that lot.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 22:50

Timeforabitofpeace · 06/10/2025 22:47

I can’t imagine anyone less capable of uniting people than that lot.

Indeed, but I think we all know that it wasn't really their intention to unite people in any case.

TempestTost · 06/10/2025 22:54

Don't worry about your neighbours flag, OP.

Why not just put up your own? Even if they do happen to be racists, they don't own the flag.

Jumpingthruhoops · 06/10/2025 22:55

Amandasummers · 05/10/2025 15:16

Is it just me or does “now I have to see this fucking flag” some sort of insinuation that you find the flag insulting? You literally live here? Why the offence?

This! I find this rhetoric utterly bizarre. To those who don't like our national flag, I'd definitely say that's a you problem.

TempestTost · 06/10/2025 22:58

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 21:59

It's interesting. I have spent a lot of time in different countries, and one of the things that has consistently made me proud of being British has been our willingness as a nation to face up to some of the darker aspects of our history and to acknowledge the negative impact that Britain has had on many parts of the world - from what I have observed, not all countries are willing to confront the past with this kind of openness and honesty, and I see their reluctance to do so as a weakness. Of course, it doesn't mean that we can't celebrate the positive aspects of our heritage as well, or all of the good things that our ancestors achieved.

It's fascinating to me that some people perceive these things so differently. I see it as a sign of a confidence in Britain that we can own our history with all its warts, and that we don't feel the need to gloss over the shameful bits. Others seem to feel that we should just gloss over the bad stuff because that's somehow more patriotic or something. But what's the point of patriotism if it is based on ignorance?

Yes, it's a bit interesting.

My Island Story is actually fairly straightforward where people are doing things like going around conquering people, and the ones being conquered are always unhappy about it. Till the next chapter when some time has passed and they are all one people.

It's meant for children obviously but you'd have be rather slow not to see what is going on in terms of successive power struggles.