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Currently away for the weekend, is this acceptable?

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DBD1975 · 05/10/2025 02:46

Would appreciate views on whether or not I am being unreasonable in thinking en-suite facilities are not acceptable.

We have paid £440 for a weekend break in the UK. I am not happy and asked to move rooms but was told not possible as fully booked.

Don't know if I am being unreasonable and others would find this shower room acceptable or I am not being unreasonable and it is not what others would expect.

Currently away for the weekend, is this acceptable?
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DBD1975 · 07/10/2025 13:49

Isitmybathtimeyet · 07/10/2025 12:54

To be honest if told it was an accessible room, until this thread my mind wouldn't have gone to the bathroom. I would have thought, as I've posted already, that it would be ground floor, maybe bigger to accommodate a wheelchair, and some grabrails like you see in public toilets, but I wouldn't necessarily immediately think of the bathroom being completely different. I bet lots of people wouldn't, if they've never stayed in one. It's easy when you know the implications of a word to assume everyone will, but as MN constantly proves, that isn't the case.

Thank you for being the voice of reason.

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MaurineWayBack · 07/10/2025 13:49

If this the standard disabled people have to put up with then for me it would be unacceptable.

😂😂😂

In the real world, you’re delighted to have a room that is accessible. It’s nowhere near oerfect though but hey Ho, you take what’s available… So…

You dint care about the curtain vs screen because … ah yes the screen would make it really hard work for you (imagine you’re on your own, need to transfer onto the shower seat and obviously can’t push the wheelchair too far away from you….)
Theres no red call cord if you fall over (huge risk!) on your photo but a sign saying no more than 100kg (I assume for the seat) which basically bars many disabled people from using the shower.

So yes unacceptable as an accessible room but not for the reasons you imagine 😢😢. Somehow disabled people have a … more down to earth approach to that. Like I’d rather stay safe type of thing.

sittingonabeach · 07/10/2025 13:52

If offered accessible room would you not ask what is the difference if you are not sure?

MaurineWayBack · 07/10/2025 13:54

DBD1975 · 07/10/2025 13:46

Thanks so much for pointing out our stupidity of course everyone knows exactly what this means. We are obviously of limited interlect and bow to your superior knowledge! 🙄😂

im going to say, I’m sure you know what racism is.
You need to now learn about ableism.

Because not knowing what accessible means is pretty poor.
So is the ‘I can’t believe disabled people accept rooms like this’ etc…..

Making jokes around ‘of course it’s me being stupid’ doesn’t help.
A much better answer should be ‘shit! I didn’t know that. Next time I’ll know’

fwiw before I became a wheelchair user, I’ve had accessible rooms too. And I knew very well I meant handles everywhere, a shower rather than a bath and a bigger room/bathroom. It might have been surprising the first time I had one. But being horrified the way you are? Come on.

MaurineWayBack · 07/10/2025 13:56

sittingonabeach · 07/10/2025 13:52

If offered accessible room would you not ask what is the difference if you are not sure?

Of course not.
Because they KNEW what it meant and it’s clearly réception being bad at communicating.

Obviously 😂😂

Caroparo52 · 07/10/2025 13:59

Most likely dh was told its an accessible bathroom but he didn't twig the meaning...

BadgernTheGarden · 07/10/2025 14:00

It's usually pretty limited which rooms you are allowed with a dog. Often ground floor which is also where the most accessible rooms are, sometimes you get an outside door so you can get in and out with the dog (or wheelchair) easily.

Yellowpingu · 07/10/2025 14:05

Molecule · 07/10/2025 13:46

OP’s husband spoke to the hotel, and no doubt was discussing bringing the dog. So in that situation could easily have assumed that accessible meant for someone with a dog. And even if it didn’t it’s no excuse for a piss poor bathroom which is what they’ve ended up with.

It’s not piss poor. It’s a standard accessible shower room done to a set of specifications, designed to suit all kinds of disabilities. The grab rails are blue for the visually impaired as they stand out more, there’s probably a shelf for a stoma bag. Yes, they’re far from attractive but I can assure you that it will have been at least as expensive to fit out as a deluxe bathroom

WeeGeeBored · 07/10/2025 14:09

DBD1975 · 07/10/2025 11:56

When did I state:
My husband was definitely told it was an accessible room?
If my husband was told it would have been in the context of taking our dog and accessible to us would mean access to the hotel grounds
When we have stayed in other hotels which are dog friendly we have either been given rooms with direct garden access or on the ground floor, never have they included a disabled bathroom.
If an accessible bathroom had been mentioned my husband would have picked up on this as he knows I would not want to stay in a hotel with a disabled shower room.
The crux of the matter is, yes I would have liked a bath but this was not a showstopper in terms of the room. A walk in shower with a screen would have been fine, my issue is, in my opinion the shower room was just horrible.
I have no experience of accessible shower rooms so I have nothing to compare it with. If this the standard disabled people have to put up with then for me it would be unacceptable. However that is a separate thread for someone who has experience and wants to post about disabled bathrooms.
I don't know why people think I should count myself lucky not to need a disabled bathroom and count myself fortunate to be given one, the issue for me is the room was grim. I know I am fortunate but I do have my own health issues.

I don’t understand why you are arguing with people on here. After all, they didn’t give you the room so their opinions are less than useless. Take your fight to the hotel.

Molecule · 07/10/2025 15:10

Yellowpingu · 07/10/2025 14:05

It’s not piss poor. It’s a standard accessible shower room done to a set of specifications, designed to suit all kinds of disabilities. The grab rails are blue for the visually impaired as they stand out more, there’s probably a shelf for a stoma bag. Yes, they’re far from attractive but I can assure you that it will have been at least as expensive to fit out as a deluxe bathroom

It might well be designed to suit all disabilities, might have been expensive to fit out, but should still be aesthetically pleasing, with some thought as to where the toilet goes in relation to the shower etc. My mother is very elderly and disabled and her en-suite shower room is far better than the one the OP has ended up with. I really think there is no excuse, other than the hotel has tried to fit x number of accessible rooms into the footprint of standard rooms, so the bathrooms have suffered.

Donsyb · 07/10/2025 15:40

For those saying they don’t know what accessible is, I’ve just checked a random Premier Inn. This is what shows under general hotel Facilities - pretty self explanatory what accessible means I would think?

Currently away for the weekend, is this acceptable?
weirdoboelady · 07/10/2025 16:18

It's irrelevant that is was an accessible bathroom - except that it wasn't a bathroom, it was a shower room. And a shower room nowhere near the standard of the bathrooms the OP saw illustrated in the brochure, IIRC. Several pp have commented on what a low quality room it is. OP has a strong case against the hotel based on 'bathroom' quality.

NewDayNewColour · 07/10/2025 17:38

Painful, but this is why we don't let men book stuff! They don't bloody listen!

prelovedusername · 07/10/2025 20:11

It sounds as though your DH was told it was an accessible room and he didn’t know what that meant. That is on him, I’m afraid. It’s a commonly used term, most people would understand. It’s unfortunate, but I don’t think the hotel are at fault.

The issue of whether it was an acceptable alternative is another matter. If you paid for a luxury bathroom then you should have had one, accessible or not. So I think you have a case for being offered less than you paid for.

nosleepforme · 07/10/2025 21:33

Pics are vastly different. Not impressed. I’d be disappointed to be expecting what you showed and have what you ended up with, it was ugly.

Donsyb · 07/10/2025 21:46

It will come down to the following:

what does it say in the T&Cs of the booking?
what does it say in the T&Cs on their website?

it’s likely they include the following:

pictures are representational and not the actuaL room.
some rooms have baths and some have showers.
you either haven’t booked a “particular” room, you’ve booked a room type (exceptions to this would be booking a special suite for example, or a boutique hotel that has very individual rooms - or as seems to be the case here, they told your husband the only room they had left was an accessible room, but he went ahead and booked it anyway.

If it is the hotel linked to above, it clearly says “some rooms have baths”, not ALL rooms under the description for deluxe rooms.

Donsyb · 07/10/2025 21:52

Sorry it says most of the rooms have baths over showers - but doesn’t state all
rooms have baths

Currently away for the weekend, is this acceptable?
Thepeopleversuswork · 07/10/2025 21:55

I would be miffed about not having a bath but its not the worst bathroom I have seen; its very clean. How can a shower curtain be “gross”? Honestly people are so fastidious.

Endorewitch · 07/10/2025 22:48

DBD1975 · 07/10/2025 13:46

Thanks so much for pointing out our stupidity of course everyone knows exactly what this means. We are obviously of limited interlect and bow to your superior knowledge! 🙄😂

If i was told it was an accessible room I would have asked what that meant. I wasnt sure what it meant. Dont think I would have thought of dog though.
But I do hope the rest of your weekend was enjoyable though.

weirdoboelady · 08/10/2025 00:53

Donsyb · 07/10/2025 21:52

Sorry it says most of the rooms have baths over showers - but doesn’t state all
rooms have baths

A bathroom has a bath. It's in the name.

Natsku · 08/10/2025 03:41

Thepeopleversuswork · 07/10/2025 21:55

I would be miffed about not having a bath but its not the worst bathroom I have seen; its very clean. How can a shower curtain be “gross”? Honestly people are so fastidious.

Yeah there's nothing wrong with the bathroom except the absence of a bath for someone who wanted it. Apart from the rail and the shower seat, it looks like a pretty standard bathroom in my country, nothing wrong with it.

If the hotel is the same one that another poster has linked to, then the free standing bath is for the superior rooms, which the husband didn't book, so OP can't complain it didn't match the picture she shared, though she can certainly tell them how disappointed she was not to get a bath and how important that detail was to her. But I expect they will just reiterate that they told her husband it was an accessible room and he booked it anyway - a lesson for him to clarify details in future!

mydogisthebest · 08/10/2025 08:03

weirdoboelady · 08/10/2025 00:53

A bathroom has a bath. It's in the name.

That's not really true nowadays when so many people don't have baths just showers. Lots of hotels now only have a shower in the bathroom.

sittingonabeach · 08/10/2025 08:15

@weirdoboelady that’s not true. Many hotel rooms now have showers not baths in their ‘bathrooms’

Donsyb · 08/10/2025 12:59

weirdoboelady · 08/10/2025 00:53

A bathroom has a bath. It's in the name.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 bless you!

Donsyb · 08/10/2025 13:00

Natsku · 08/10/2025 03:41

Yeah there's nothing wrong with the bathroom except the absence of a bath for someone who wanted it. Apart from the rail and the shower seat, it looks like a pretty standard bathroom in my country, nothing wrong with it.

If the hotel is the same one that another poster has linked to, then the free standing bath is for the superior rooms, which the husband didn't book, so OP can't complain it didn't match the picture she shared, though she can certainly tell them how disappointed she was not to get a bath and how important that detail was to her. But I expect they will just reiterate that they told her husband it was an accessible room and he booked it anyway - a lesson for him to clarify details in future!

Plus if you look at the screenshot above (assuming it is the same hotel), the facilities show a shower head graphic , not a bath