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Am I the only one who does this?! Feel massively judged by my friends

277 replies

Hatsoff92 · 03/10/2025 17:28

Girly dinner this week - not the classiest of conversations but it was somehow brought up that I use the loo at work for all ‘eventualities’.

They were horrified and said it’s strictly wee only for them.

Am I really that unusual?!

OP posts:
NoSoupForU · 03/10/2025 18:35

I will quite comfortably shit in any toilet. It's literally using it for its purpose. I really don't understand these weird rules people have!

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:35

Sitting above a pool of poo though? And chilling out and dragging out the experience??? Each to their own lol

This is why I love MNs, utter batshit. Do you flush repeatedly whilst mid pooh? And taking longer than 60 seconds is dragging it out 😆

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:36

Pooping in a public toilet should not be regarded as disgusting……….flush properly and leave the loo clean, not difficult is it?

The problem is sometimes the public toilets are disgusting

YourAmplePlumPoster · 03/10/2025 18:36

ComtesseDeSpair · 03/10/2025 17:33

I learned from my mum recently (I’ve no idea how we got onto this topic of conversation, but there you go) that she has never had a poo outside of her own home or a holiday cottage she was staying in (I did ask the second one, out of sheer curiosity for her health.)

Me, I’m like a bear, or the pope. Anywhere is fine.

How is that possible? If you need to go you need to go.

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:37

I thought that was a thing useless men did to avoid supporting their wives to look after the dc.

I wouldn't know, I don't have one.

BigBoots67 · 03/10/2025 18:38

we’re all human right?9

FeliciaFancybottom · 03/10/2025 18:38

TeenLifeMum · 03/10/2025 18:17

I thought that was a thing useless men did to avoid supporting their wives to look after the dc.

I thought that was an excuse for rubbing one out while watching porn?

PinkArt · 03/10/2025 18:39

It's a toilet. It's what it's there for. Their bowels must be fucked with all that clenching.

TeenLifeMum · 03/10/2025 18:40

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:37

I thought that was a thing useless men did to avoid supporting their wives to look after the dc.

I wouldn't know, I don't have one.

So who are you hiding from during toilet reading sessions? Just sit on the bed or sofa rather than hanging out with your poop friend.

Sesma · 03/10/2025 18:40

Some do need to go more urgently than others, I can generally brew up for a day whereas DH has to go quite urgently

SprayWhiteDung · 03/10/2025 18:41

RafaFan · 03/10/2025 18:16

I don't like it, but I will go at work if I absolutely have to. Years ago I worked in a small open-plan office with 5 other people (I was the only woman). The only toilet was one of those wheelchair-accessible ones that opened directly into the main office. Everyone working at their desks could hear everything going on in there, and then when the door opened get the smell too. Ain't no way I'm crapping in there...

Was it a bit like a workplace version of Stars In Their Eyes when you emerged - with the smoke and everything?!

YourAmplePlumPoster · 03/10/2025 18:42

In public loos do a courtesy flush and then continue cleaning up. If you go to Middle Eastern countries or India it's a lot easier to clean with a hose. I have a hose in my house called a "hand bidet." It’s a much more hygienic way of cleaning. Every public loo should have a hose IMO.

JenXWarrior · 03/10/2025 18:42

SprayWhiteDung · 03/10/2025 17:37

It's absolutely disgusting using a purpose-built toilet in an enclosed, locked cubicle to have a poo at work. I would never dream of it - I keep a bucket in the boot of my car and use that under a tree in the corner of the car park.

Why wouldn't anybody with a modicum of class and decorum do the same?

RIP Patricia Routledge.

I think you mean you keep a 'bouquet' in your car boot 😁

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:42

@TeenLifeMum I have a DH, he isn't useless Why does scrolling through MNs whilst i'm having a shit equal hiding from people?!

hanging out with your poop friend

Are you ok?

JenXWarrior · 03/10/2025 18:43

Hatsoff92 · 03/10/2025 17:28

Girly dinner this week - not the classiest of conversations but it was somehow brought up that I use the loo at work for all ‘eventualities’.

They were horrified and said it’s strictly wee only for them.

Am I really that unusual?!

I have no problem shitting at work. I work from home but that's not the point 😂

TeenLifeMum · 03/10/2025 18:45

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:42

@TeenLifeMum I have a DH, he isn't useless Why does scrolling through MNs whilst i'm having a shit equal hiding from people?!

hanging out with your poop friend

Are you ok?

I find it odd you’d hang around sitting on the loo over your own poop while you read. Each to their own I guess. Not sure why you have to be condescending but we are clearly different people - it would be dull if we were all the same.

myheadsjustmush · 03/10/2025 18:46

That's what toilets are for....if you need to go, then you need to go!

MiddleAgedDread · 03/10/2025 18:47

As an IBS sufferer I admire those who don’t!!

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:47

I find it odd you’d hang around sitting on the loo over your own poop while you read.

I can multi task and read whilst i poop. Not sure why you think I stay in the toilet forever post poop.

Not sure why you have to be condescending

I'm condescending?! Why not read back your responses to me? 😆😆

thecatfromneptune · 03/10/2025 18:47

I prefer to have a shower after a poo, so these days my body’s in a routine where I have one or two morning coffees, have a poo, then my usual shower before I go out to the school run/work.

I’ve always been a once a day gal, so as long as I’m in my usual routine there’s normally no need to poo later. I don’t much like pooing at work or out. But if needs must for whatever reason, of course I go if I really have to. It would be a bit odd not to. And very uncomfortable!

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 03/10/2025 18:49

You can't hold what you don't have in your hand as they say.

clipboardz · 03/10/2025 18:49

it would be dull if we were all the same.

And yet you seem awfully triggered by my posts that you accuse me of being friends with my pooh. It's more of a respect than a friendship!

RaininSummer · 03/10/2025 18:50

ginasevern · 03/10/2025 17:33

I'd prefer not to have a dump at work or in someone else's house and I expect most people feel the same. But I have. I can't believe that your friends really never have.

I'm sure most people do not feel the same. When you need to go you should go if there is a toilet available.

Shetlands · 03/10/2025 18:50

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 03/10/2025 17:36

I never 'go' at work. To save embarrassment I go either in the local MacDonalds or if they are busy then in the small wooded area near my office. Just can't bring myself to do it near colleagues.

You poo in the woods instead of in a lavatory? I'm struggling to believe that - are you joking? Or a Labrador?

FatAgain · 03/10/2025 18:51

Men don’t worry about all this…shit