Am I the only one who does this?! Feel massively judged by my friends

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Girly dinner this week - not the classiest of conversations but it was somehow brought up that I use the loo at work for all ‘eventualities’.

They were horrified and said it’s strictly wee only for them.

Am I really that unusual?!

Although it definitely takes me more than 60 seconds.

And sit in that aromatic "pooh" scent for a while while relaxing! Lovely!!

I’ve said it before and I shall say it again…I would much rather poop in public (in a toilet though to be clear) than having it sat festering in my colon. Gross. Whenever I go to the toilet at work, my friend asks it is for a poo. Half the time it is 🤣

I don't like it, but I will go at work if I absolutely have to. Years ago I worked in a small open-plan office with 5 other people (I was the only woman). The only toilet was one of those wheelchair-accessible ones that opened directly into the main office. Everyone working at their desks could hear everything going on in there, and then when the door opened get the smell too. Ain't no way I'm crapping in there...

I thought that was a thing useless men did to avoid supporting their wives to look after the dc.

Sitting above a pool of poo though? And chilling out and dragging out the experience??? Each to their own lol

It's so so bad for you to hold it in. And some of us really can't do that anyway.

As for pp insisting it's "selfish" to use a toilet for it's intended purpose....you're cracked.

I'm a contractor on an hourly rate. I save my poos for work time - nothing like getting paid to take a dump. I often come back to my desk and announce loudly "well, that's lunch paid for" (not really, but I do think it sometimes!)

Taking a dump on the company dime is the sweetest of dumps! Highly recommend.

I will admit, I would always prefer to have a poo at home BUT when the urge arises, I have to go. Holding poop in is extremely unwise and can be dangerous to health.
Pooping in a public toilet should not be regarded as disgusting……….flush properly and leave the loo clean, not difficult is it?

I prefer to poo at home but I’ll go anywhere if I need to. Holding it in makes mY belly hurt and sometimes leads to constipation and I’m not wanting that. I had a poo at work today as it was only about 1pm and I wasn’t about to wait five hours before I could let it out.

I delegate that activity to junior staff.

You delegate junior staff to poo on your behalf?

My friend has IBD and long ago lost any embarrassment she might have felt as she has to poo pretty suddenly and frequently at times. She knows where all the public loos are on her daily dog walks and so does her dog, he'll often head in the direction of one of them even if she doesn't actually need to go.

She's also had to dash behind bushes too as she would never have made it home. Shock, horror, she has had several poos at my house too. 💩

I cackled so loudly my cat jumped off the bed.

I always ‘go’ at work as well. I’ve never been one of those people who can hold it in.

I thought that’s what all the big bosses did?! That’s why they are so successful. Less dumping time means more making money time!

My bestie drove home from her office once ( 40 min round trip ) on her lunch break as wouldn’t 💩 at work!
I couldn’t hold it, when I need to go I go , wherever I am! Actually went at work this morning , & yesterday 😬

I think we need a sarcasm flag

Slightly off topic, but just wanted to bring to people's attention - it is really, really bad for your anal sphincter to go and sit on the loo for ages, hoping that you will go. Bad to hold it open as it upsets the muscles.

I would never chose to go at work but have no option when I need to go. Gone are the days when I can hold on sadly.

Oh dear, sad times for those working through the lord of the rings chronicles on the John!

I carry a small trowel at all times. There’s always a flowerbed that suits.

My fil walks to Asda to poo when they stay with us

Do they actually have proper customer toilets there, or do I need to give the Cumberland sausages on the deli meat counter a swerve next time I pop in?

I think the whole attitude around this needs to change.
what should be socially unacceptable is people judging others for using a toilet for any purpose. Any silly or inappropriate comments should be viewed as really rude. But it is the other way round and people are apparently judged if they do use a toilet or make any sort of unintentional noise or smell.
As long as people are considerate (such as opening a window if available or using the extractor, and making sure the loo is clean) others imo should be polite and not make silly comments about smells or being unladylike etc.

i have a theory that poo quite probably smells worse if people have been holding it for hours.
Also it is surely no coincidence that so many people suffer with ibs and other bowel issues when they are apparently trying for hours to hold it in. Our bodies aren’t made like that.

It’s not always convenient and there are some very smug people who work regular hours and can ‘go’ at home. Some of us don’t, we might work shifts, or have long commutes or whatever. Your friends and those like them should get over themselves. There was a poster on a recent thread trying to shame her fil for not using air freshener. There was no suggestion that he was inconveniencing her or leaving a mess, just a time limited smell…

perhaps some of this judgmental energy could be used to campaign for user friendly toilets, I’d love it if every work place and public place had cubicles with nice big windows, and slightly apart from the office to allow for privacy. How lovely this would be for everybody.