Is DH being a CF when he works at home?

[BabyNo2Soon]

DH works from home twice a week, I’m here with our 14 month old DS on those same days, and I work part time on the other days of the week.

On the two days he’s at home, he almost immediately goes out on a walk as ‘he’s been stuck in working all day and needs fresh air’. The walk is for about 30 minutes.

AIBU to think he should help me out first of all and take DS from me so I can have a break myself? I wouldn’t mind if he then went out a bit later…

What's the actual problem??

She's not mentioned her own work situation so hard to tell. Maybe she has a commute, maybe her child is in childcare on her working days and she gets the space in between leaving work and getting to pick up. Or maybe she just doesn't need it. She's not said.

I would guess unless she works next to the nursery, she has a commute so yes, probably.

Op doesn’t mention any work

and given it would be relevant to the thread, we relevant, I think safe to presume then that the OP doesn’t work

Then she should take one.

The first post says she works part time.

Or you could read the OP and not have to wrongly assume.

Apologies

He should be able to have a walk, but reframe your language. He’s not ‘helping’ he’s parenting. Obviously when he does. Please don’t use the word ‘help’ you’re not the default parent x

Genius plan. I bet her husband is super supportive.

Oh shocking, a poster jumping in to badly judge a woman on a post about childcare. Won’t someone think of the poor man! 😆

I don’t think you’ve read the thread properly, but if you have, then we just disagree.

I think a walk straight after finishing work is ok, that would be his travel time usually wouldn’t it. He maybe really needs is to decompress and get into home mode. You could suggest he takes DS with him though

Ffs she's been working too, raising his kids.

Why does he get to fuck off for a break? Doesn't she deserve it every bit as much?

If he worked outside the home he’d probably get home around 30 minutes after he finished so it’s about the same in terms of available time at home. I don’t think anyone would say 30 minutes of fresh air is unreasonable.

I agree with most.

30mins brisk walk outside after a day couped up in the office makes sense, but how beneficial that he is leaving and returning to your house, so he can take the baby with him.

He gets exercise , movement, fresh air.
Baby gets fresh air.
Both get time with each other.
OP gets a short break at a time of day that is often busy at a point when babies can often be a bit grumpy.

Of course she deserves a break too and she should definitely take it.
But it's very different working in employment to raising your own children in your own home. If her husband is otherwise doing his bit and letting her have a break when he comes home then I just can't see the issue with letting him have a bit of time to transition from one thing to the next. If he's otherwise selfish and unhelpful then that's different.

Maybe she gets a few minutes in traffic, lovely!

She works three days a week, can no one read?

Read the OP again - she works three days a week.

Yup, I used to absolutely love driving home in peace after work, listening to the radio, before the onslaught of shopping, homework, bickering, cooking, laundry, cleaning, and bedtimes fried my brains again.

Why don't all 3 of you go for a quiet walk?

What does he do after the 30min walk?

I can read perfectly well thank you. Perhaps you should read my post again as it mentions her working days.
She hasn't mentioned whether she works at home or in the office or where her child is on those days.

I WFH A lot and no I don’t find it unreasonable to want a break from his screen.