Changing nappies on airport seats

[KittyCoo]

I don’t have any DCs yet and not planning on ttc for a few years.

I was at a mallorca airport last and the plane was about to board abd a lady changed her around 4/5mth old baby’s dirty nappy on the passenger seats. I told her that was disgusting and people have to sit there to use the bathroom opposite as there was a changing table in there. admittedly there was a big queue but not the point imo.

When I have DCs, I’d never dream of doing that, I’d always use the facilities provided in the vicinity as respect and courteousness to others. I personally believe it’s lazy parenting not to use adequate facilities available!!!

AIBU, that some parents with babies these days think they’re so entitled just like the one I’ve described above ? And AIBU for berating her actions the way I did ?

Not nice, no. But you berating her was horrible.
if she needed to board and there was a long queue there’s not much choice, better there than on the plane.

I've never done this, but I've always wondered what the fuss is about when they're sub-6m.

They're immobile, and if they're a reliably 'mild" pooer, it can be quickly sorted in about a minute without touching any of the surroundings.

Trousers off, untab nappy, do the first wipe with the nappy, 1-2 wipes of the bum, cream if needed, new nappy on, wipe down own hands, trousers on, everything in the bag.

Mind you, maybe other people change the nappy more like my husband, who managed to get stuff everywhere.

@BeLilacSloth I’m sorry to hear you suffer too and I hope it doesn’t cause you too much pain.

im not using my Crohn’s as an excuse for her nappy changing actions. Having Crohn’s is nothing to do with where you decide to change your baby’s nappy!!!! All I said was if she’d made herself known, I would’ve happily lent her my radar for the accessible toilet!! And also, I was sympathising with the potty training mum, as with PT it’s I need to go now sane with Crohn’s!!

Id also appreciate an apology, please, if you wouldn’t mind by saying I should never have kids!!!!

Come back and tell us all about your perfect parenting skills when you have a baby. 🤔
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Whether a poster has children or not is neither here nor there. It’s totally irrelevant. And having some standards and consideration for other travellers is now considered ‘perfect parenting’, as though it’s unachievable and when you have children, anything goes and everything should be tolerated?

Some people really so think it’s their world and the rest of us just have to live in it 🙄

You’re being ridiculous, why and how would she make herself known? Announce to the departure lounge her baby has done a poo? She was probably trying to be quick and discrete, until you berated her about it.

I wouldn’t have changed a nappy in public like that, but then again I wouldn’t have been anywhere near an airport with a young baby, I found leaving the house even locally difficult and stressful enough.

i can’t get worked up over baby wee. And she had a mat? Who cares. People cough, sneeze, scratch their bums, noses, mouths and touch door handles. I find that more offensive. It was not affecting you. YABVVU

I can see this subjectively

Honestly if she didn't change a sh1tty backside before the plane took off it would have been unpleasant for everyone. So fair enough.

Also if baby was hysterical and needed feeding but baby falls asleep on breast/bottle of course makes sense to do it fast. See my point above about unpleasant for everyone.

What did she do with the nappy though is my question?

If the plane was boarding then it was that or taking the pooey baby on the plane, potentially for a long time before being able to change them. Sorry but for me that calls for emergency solution (with a changing mat of course, not directly on the seat).

If she had a changing mat then I really wouldn’t get worked up about it. You said there was a queue. Perhaps she didn’t have time before boarding a plane. It really is quite impossible to change a poo filled nappy on a plane.

grim as fuck

Possibly....as did probably 100s of people who didn't wash their hands after going for a poo.

I don't think I'd change a nappy on an airport seat myself but if I saw it at most I'd look away and exchange a look at my traveling companion, I wouldn't approach the mum to berate her. That seems like an unnecessary escalation to me, why make things even more unpleasant?

In her defence, I had to hide behind my suitcase and change DC bottom in a corner of Palma airport a week or two ago. They’d had a poo-Nami and there must have been 30 people in the queue for the loo. Our flight was also boarding. Not ideal but neither is that airport for baby changing facilities.

Ok , let's just do away with baby changing facilities and just change nappies anywhere - restaurants, reception desks, the shared tables on trains since there's always going to be a queue somewhere and the rest of us don't get it 🫣.

But if the queue is for your flight home from a different country then it’s a bit different than having to queue to change your baby’s bottom whilst your starters go cold, isnt it?

I understand the distinction and I'm trying not to be an arse unsuccessfully but where do we draw the line and how can we tell if this situation or that circumstance is not just a pattern of behaviour and the parent does this all the time, because nobody has ever said anything? That's the point, I think , some people don't know that it's disgusting to spit in the street, put feet on seats or play music on public without headphones on public transport.

Standards are slipping everywhere.

Perfect, we can just change babies wherever we feel like it. Why bother maintaining these facilities if no one wants to avail themselves of privacy and dignity? Enjoying a meal out, and a baby’s having it nappy changed on the table next to you. Don’t judge. How about at the cinema? In-flight tables? In the queue at a shop? On the supermarket checkout? You shouldn’t judge after all, and it’d be so rude to say anything.

As long as she used something between the baby and the seat it wouldn't bother me.

More judgement is needed, not less, and people should be publicly shamed for their behaviour.

But it's your own car, and only you have to sit on the seat afterwards.....

Sometimes the ‘facilities provided’ are disgustingly unhygienic and have clearly never been properly cleaned. I wouldn’t change my baby on airport seats but I understand not wanting to use the baby changing table in the loos.

Have you been caught out in Palma airport lately with a baby covered in poo whilst you flight boards and there is at least 30 people in the queue for the toilets? Because I have and the only shame here is the lack of facilities. I emphasise completely with the woman who was publicly berated. A shit situation all round. And I certainly don’t have ‘low’ standards so having to crouch behind a suitcase and change my baby on a dirty floor certainly wasn’t out of having any reasonable choice. Shame on you for being so quick to condemn others.

Also need to add was there a Dad anywhere on the scene? An older toddler/young child sibling? If so was she alone with multiple kids? In that case you can't just go to the toilets or baby change and leave another child and it isn't always practical to take a baby to change with a grumpy 3 year old in tow

It's an absolutely disgusting and unhygienic thing to do. Revolting that anyone thinks it's acceptable.