What's your worst playdate experience?

[PumpkinSly]

Aibu to ask what your worst playdate stories are (if you can still call it a play date at 9). DS has been to his friends this afternoon and has come home covered in what I can only assume is dog shit. The friend has two dogs and DS has come home with shit all over his shoes, trousers, t-shirt, and even in his hair. It doesn't even smell like normal dog shit. It is very cheesy in smell and it's all over him. He reeked. He said he spent time playing in the garden, but who lets kids play in a dog shit covered garden?! FFS! He's washed, we've cleaned the interior of the car, and his clothes are in the washing machine, so no long term damage. But I am sorely tempted to message the mother and tell her the state DS has come home in. DH thinks it's not worth it, and maybe he is right, so please, tell me your playdate nightmares to distract me.

I used to hate playdates when mine were young. I did do it but didn't like it most of the time. One kid shat in DDs jewellery box, another used to get every single bloody game and toy out, and clothes out the wardrobe, unless I hovered over them.

I remember when I used to commute up to London and there was a horrible man who used to spread his stuff over a couple of seats and refuse to move it when people were standing. He was a real loud rude arsehole.

A new mum at school invited me over and we were sitting in the lounge whilst she went off to make coffee when I noticed the wedding picture on the shelf .... it was him 😳😁

My ds had a friend over after school when he was 10. The mum (who I dont know at all well) messaged me and asked if her DS could come to our house before the school disco, as she wouldn't be able to do all running around for various reasons. I agreed....... he had NUNCHUCKS in his bag. Safe to stay, he wasnt invited again.

My DS6 friend from school mum asked if he could have her Ds also 6 over night. Failed to tell me her son slept with the light on, had to have an adult sit with him till he fell asleep, wakes up around 3am and expects to be cuddled back to sleep!!! Only eats specific things for breakfast and couldn’t get himself dressed!! If I had have known the answer would have been no!!!

We didn't do many playdates thankfully as I always worked and the kids had a few activities after school but one is memorable and as I have seen not unusual.

A mum asked if I could take her son home after school to play with mine. Fine as the boys were pretty good friends. On the day she rings me just before school finished and asked if I could take the little brother too with some sort of excuse that she was stuck bladibla. I did and the little brother was of course awful and not properly potty trained at 5, I had to wipe his bloody bum and the mum was well late to pick up expectedly.

I of course learned exactly what kind of mum she was as she had done this to all and was always 'stuck' with something at pick up time. I stopped answering my phone to her and so did most mums.

Yes and this sort of stuff should be reported. If a child is left with you without prior agreement and you can't get hold of parents it is perfectly acceptable to call the police or the MASH. it might just get that child longer term support that they clearly need

That’s cool as! 😂

Is this really that weird? I know some families who are hesitant about wifi security sometimes get a guest wifi option which I think is reasonable in certain situations.

But isn't offering someone wifi these days not that different from offering them a glass of water?

When oldest DS was around 3 we had an awful playdate which was also very sad. I met a mum in church. She was a single mum with a son who was a little bit older than my son. She kept saying how advanced my son was which I thought was odd as his speech was very delayed. Chatting as one does she told me her son loved drums. My DS did as well and we had a complete drumkit and various other instruments so I thought it would be fun for my DS to have a slightly older visitor to play with. We arranged for her to come for lunch, checked what her son would eat and looked forward to her visit. She was a bit socially awkward but seemed very friendly and nice.

The day came and she arrived, with her mother, and carried her large 5 year old into the house. She sat him on the floor near the drums and he made a low level grizzling sound until she gave him two tooth brushes. And he sat and chewed the toothbrushes while my DS brought out various things he thought they could play with. The grandmother was a very strange lady and asked to use our telephone. I didn't think it would be a problem but she rang a friend, long distance, for an hour in the middle of the day. Thirty years ago that cost a fortune!

At lunch time mother and grandmother ate well but child ate nothing just wailed until he was placed on the floor with his toothbrushes.

It transpired that he was severely autistic according to the grandmother and his mother was refusing any help from SS as she thought he was just a little behind and refused to acknowledge there was anything wrong.

When they left I tried to explain to DS that it wasn't his fault the child couldn't join in with his games, nor the fault of the child and that we would have another play date soon. He was reassured and asked "Will it be a real boy next time, one who can walk?"

The family moved into our road some years later and the mum lived as a recluse with all the doors and windows boarded up because it distressed her son when people walked past. He eventually became too much for her to manage and he went to a residential placement.

His mum has had countless breakdowns and sometimes she recognises me and sometimes she doesn't. I feel so sorry for her and for her son.

When dd was 5 a mum asked if we could collect her dd from school and keep her until 8pm as she had to attend a corporate event with her dh, they worked at the same place.

The dc was a nice little girl and I had no problem agreeing.
What I didn't know prior to agreeing was that the dc still wore a nappy at night.
I was due to go to my hobby at 7.30 and the parents knew that dh would be minding the dc until 8.
I put the nappy on the dc before i left as instructed.
When I returned from my hobby, pre mobile phones, dh was in a state as the child had soiled her nappy almost as soon as I left and apparently it stunk. He felt he had no choice but to change the child but was extremely uncomfortable doing so.
The parents were fine but dh would never mind that dc on his own again.

Worse one was when dd friend came over then proceeded to tell everyone at school our house was tiny and untidy. Never had that with any of her three older siblings. Made worse by the fact that playdate child lives down the road in a almost identical house.

When ds was a baby we had a NCT meet up for lunch where one mum bought her sick baby and almost everyone ( except me and ds) caught noro virus. Nothing that's been totally horrendous luckily.

Dd got attacked by a dog on a play date. The parents blamed dd (she was 8) for playing close to the dog.

DS had a friend over and I caught the friend being vile to DS, calling him the R word. DS is autistic and was 6 at the time. It very much sounded like was language that he had heard from adults. His mum was a good friend of mine and when I called to explain that I needed to drop him home she dismissed it as him playing. We are no longer friends and DS would never agree to having friends over again.

I'm sorry but that really made me laugh. I do hope you sent that kid home with an accent to rival Jacob Rees Moggs but maybe you aren't as petty as I am!

Best friend came round with her then 2 year old (I had a 1 year old for context). She refused to disicipline him. In the 45 minutes they were here the child had pulled my living room voiles down (fixed with a tension rod), broke my husbands brand new Alexa, ate 2 chunks out of my candles, grabbed my rabbit and tried to pick her up by her ears and broke some of my sons toys. Needless to say, we only have outdoor play dates now.

Me instead of a child but when I was about 16 I was invited to a friend of a friend's house because it was summer and they had a pool. Great, as I liked to swim. The pool was quite small (12 feet across and round?) but had a diving board. Well I'd done a lot of board diving so wanted to show off and did a perfect jackknife into the pool. And discovered that it was only about 4 feet deep. Slammed face first into the bottom of the pool, breaking my nose and so was gushing blood as a result. Her dad came out shouting that I was making a mess and had to leave immediately so he could drain the pool to get rid of the blood. No concept of the fact that I had "only" broken my nose and not my neck - he was an idiot to have a diving board as it was completely inappropriate for a pool that shallow.

OMG SmudgeButt!

Was she the sort of person who thinks she’s Bohemian?

They are a total PITA. As a wise person once said, if you think you’re Bohemian, you’re almost certainly not.

You poor thing!

Your parents must have been livid??

Many years ago my eldest DD got friendly with a new girl at school. We didn’t know the family at all as they were new to the area. Well DD wanted the girl to come and play after school - no mobiles then so I sent a note with my DD for the girl to give to her mum inviting her for tea after school on a particular day.
It was all arranged and I collected her along with DD. Shortly after we arrived home I noticed an ‘odour’…….dismissed it but told the girls they could play upstairs whilst I prepared tea for them.
After a few minutes DD came down, sheepishly followed by the girl who had apparently wet her knickers.
I didn’t make a fuss and took her to our bathroom along with a dry, clean pair of my daughter’s knickers and a plastic bag to put the wet ones in.
Her original knickers were filthy and had obviously been soiled and dried several times over the previous days………the smell was horrendous!
When her mum collected her I explained about the accident and that she was wearing a pair of DD pants to which she replied ‘Oh, I’ll let you have them back when I wash them NEXT WEEK’, at which point I said she should keep them.
That poor child was obviously wearing soiled underwear constantly for days on end. After giving the matter some serious consideration I did mention it to the school and apparently they were aware as the teachers had noticed too.

Taking dd and friend to ryze and her friend kept running away to get away from dd. Poor dd said (she was about 8) I think me and “friend” are getting a lot better. Then having her friend in the car (dd had gone in grandads car) slag my daughter off in front of Me and her other friends and not being able to tell the little b off!

Me and friend giggling so much I peed myself. My friend said “don’t worry! I’ll tell my mum it was the dog that did it”!

We had a neighbour send their little girl down the street to knock at our house to play with our DD one Sunday. No problem there. When they finally came to pick up they thanked us for having her as their whole house was plagued by D&V. This of course then hit us over the next few hours. Would have been good to know that little nugget of information in advance 🤣

I think I'd expect children from the age of having independent devices (so maybe secondary age) to maybe want the WiFi password if they're visiting on a regular basis.

It’s a fact that dog shit can cause blindness.

Don’t ever let your DS go there again.

Why on earth do people have dogs if they can’t clean up after them. The lazy bastards.

Not funny this one
I met a local Mum on a parenting website (not MN t'other one)
was invited to their house with 6 year old DD, she had 7 year old boy/girl twins.
DD came back from the garden and asked to leave. I thought she was being shy so encouraged her to play but she said quietly but firmly "no Mummy, we need to go home NOW"
Thank God I listened, the twins had been encouraging her to engage in something pretty awful I don't want to describe here but it was sexual. She had just said no and came straight to find me.
I reported to SS and blocked the woman.

When my eldest DD was around 10 years old, she was invited to her friends house to play for the day. When DD got home, she announced she was starving - so I asked what she had eaten whilst she was at her friends.....

"Nothing" she replied.

Friends mum had made lunch, and left DD upstairs whilst the friend and mum and dad all ate downstairs. They didn't even ask if she wanted a flaming biscuit. 🙄