Hi all, I'm looking for some advice please. I have a feeling things are about to go wrong. I let a friend move into my spare room three and a half weeks ago. They were living in a damp, run down apartment and couldn't afford anything more than what they were paying in rent.
About 2 months ago, they asked if I would consider renting them my spare room. I'm a single female, early 30s and must admit cost of living has begun to pinch me. I've know this person for around five years and after a discussion and some thought, agreed to this temporary situation, until something more affordable came along and to help me over winter with bills etc.
The agreement was she'd pay me weekly, we'd both do our bit in regards to cooking etc and agreed it would also be company for us both. I do get a bit bored of an evening and we both have similar interests, so thought this would be a nice idea, taking the edge off and helping each other in return. We agreed a schedule for cleaning also.
Initially, she paid me up front and helped a little around the house. We both have our own lives and so passed pleasantries as and when we were home together. Her mother has recently downsized her property and had some items of furniture to give away, I arrived home one day to some of these items in my home. She said her mum was going to skip them and so she thought I might like them. They aren't my taste but I just said thank you and thought I'd get rid once she leaves.
We are now three and a half weeks in, I have accumulated more things from her mother's house. She has not done any washing since she's been here, so much so there's an odour starting to come from her room. She has cooked twice since she's been here, but has eaten meals I've made for myself, when made extra for work. She hasn't paid me on time, if at all since. She sits in her room when she is here with tv on and heating all day or is out until all hours.
I don't really care what she does outside of here but it isn't nice being woken up at 2/3 in the morning, maybe 3 times a week, especially when I have work the next morning or am tired from working nearly 50 hours a week. There suddenly seems to be no friendship and I feel a little awkward in my own home, being avoided almost it feels. I'm not an overly loud or in your face person and have done my best to be welcoming, but I really am starting to feel uncomfortable. I can be home for 6 hours and she will literally walk past the room I'm in and not acknowledge me.
Would I be unreasonable to readdress some house rules and if unreceptive, give her until November to move? I'm really feeling a bit hurt and like a stranger in my own home.