To lose the odd water bottle?

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This is a very petty argument between myself and DH this morning. We are a very sporty household and as such we are often taking bottles of water out with us. We actually just reuse the plastic sports top bottles (ie. Buxton, Evian etc) as they are easier.

DH likes to think he is quite particular. He reuses the same water bottle many times and never loses it. I sometimes do lose them along the way (not that often btw).

For some context, DH plays in a sports team. He only has himself to think about. I am a sports coach. I can be running multiple teams on one day depending on the fixtures. This means I will often have multiple bags of balls, kit, first aid kit and food for the day. If I have a few teams on the go at anyone time, I might also be moving between courts etc. My DC also play in one of my sports teams so I'll also have their kit, food etc. Sometimes I put a water bottle down and don't remember where it has gone, sometimes there are multiple of the same water bottle so I don't know which is mine.

Talking this morning, DH had no understanding of how I could ever lose a water bottle and was cross with me that I do. In his mind it's as simple as you take one with you, you bring it back. He wouldn't acknowledge that actually there are times when it's really stressful for me and a plastic water bottle is not always my priority when there are many other things that are more important to remember. We had to end the conversation because it was going nowhere and we were getting really frustrated.

Am I being unreasonable to think that it's understandable that I might lose a water bottle now and again given the circumstances that I'm operating in?

He is crossed because of a supermarked water bottle gone missing? Weird.

I wouldn't be bothered about losing the water bottle unless it was specifically a reusable one. Maybe just buy one that can be personalised so it's obviously yours when you look around at the end of the session to clear rubbish.

YABU to use plastic bottles. Buy a stainless steel one and tell him to look after his own.

Theres probably about 6 or 7 of them in the car all with varying amounts of water in them. I couldnt tell you their exact whereabouts or their ins and outs.

I think I have some in various handbags and ruck sacks too.

They come and they go.

I do find it annoying as my kids lose about 3 a week it seems!

In your circumstances I’d buy a proper, personal water bottle (that won’t get mixed up with others’) and look after it. All that plastic ‘going missing’ is not good.

Good lord.

Of course he never loses his bottle, he only has his bottle to think about.

Why are you repeatedly buying plastic bottles of water and refilling them?

Why don't you buy one good stainless steel bottle that you will recognise in a group of bottles and refill it. A bottle will cost about a tenner and mine has lasted me a good five years.

No plastic wasted and hundreds of pounds saved.

If you were losing a 40 quid chillys one beyond once or twice, he might have a point.
If you were losing a cheap one every other week, he might have a point.

A bottle that isn't even supposed to be reusable being lost? I'm surprised it would even be brought home let alone considered an issue that its lost.

It doesn't sound terribly hygienic reusing mineral water bottles - I'd fill one up in a pinch, but if you're consistently using one until its lost or what...mouldy?, just buy a cheap bottle - a) You can clean it. B) its identifiable in a sea of others - as yours and not rubbish c) to probably works out cheaper over having bought several 'replacement' water bottles

We do have those too but I won't use them when I'm doing fixtures as I don't want to lose them as it's hard to keep track of them when there is so much going on. I do use them for the gym etc when I'm doing an activity by myself.

DH will reuse a plastic bottle several times. They do get washed in between. However, back in his 20's he spent 3 months with some kind of sinus issue - it turned out it was from the water bottle he kept on his desk at work which he had never thought to wash, just kept refilling it 🤮

This makes no sense whatsoever. In an environment where you are unlikely to lose track of your bottle, you use an identifiable one, but where they can easily get mixed up you take a generic plastic one?!

You've fallen for complete hype. I havent bought a bottle of water in years, unless abroad. I refill them constantly. They're all over the car, in bags, panniers etc etc. Always there ready for when I need them, just refill them.

I might have 3 or more teams running across 8 courts both indoor and outdoor. We may or may not have a base which might be in a separate area away from the courts. I'm regularly running between all of those areas. It's very busy and there are a lot of people.

If I've put a bottle down somewhere along the way, I don't always remember where I've put it, it easily gets obscured by other people's stuff (think on a court side bench when another team comes as soon as your match finishes) and it's not always at the forefront of my mind as I'm dealing with kids who might need my focus more than a water bottle. Make more sense now?

I think it is less about the 'recognisability' of a bottle and more about 'the fuckton of other shit' that the OP has to remember.

Do you also lose your rackets and other kit?

Presumably not?

So why not just keep the water bottle with your other kit?

I mean I wouldn't care about this if I were your DH as it's not a big deal but if you can keep track of your other belongings, it does suggest it's not impossible, you're just choosing to be less careful

How hard is it to have a really colourful bottle with your initial on it that you put down and think, yep, that's where I put it down?

If you can remember kids names, what court what game is happening on, where you car keys are a and where you left your bag of balls you can remember a bright pink foot tall bottle with your name on it.

If not - then no, it makes no sense at all.

I generally don't lose them but then they are easier to keep track of as they are "needed" to play and each team has their own kit allocated to them. I do lose balls sometimes annoyingly.

I can't even imagine having this conversation, never mind someone being upset by someone else losing an item that's designed the be disposable and single use. Which is a whole other issue, but obviously you're buying them in the first place so not relevant to this, before someone jumps on me.

I'd be irked if I just bought it and it was still full of mineral water and I lost it, but some beaten up scuffed about evian bottle that's been refilled 6 times? What?

Get a running belt..

https://www.decathlon.co.uk/p/trail-running-bottle-holder-belt-500-ml-sold-with-500ml-bottle/_/R-p-331024

I leave all my important stuff (car keys etc) at our central base. There's no way I take them around with me - they'd get lost. I take water around with me as I don't always get chance to go back there.

You are clearly in the DH camp where you can't understand how it can be that hard.

Who's picking up that "scuffed about evian bottle that's been refilled 6 times?"

I just ask as someone who picks up this kind of litter around my town on a weekly basis.

I think it's more because he wants to use one and there are none there. There are other options for him but he "likes" these for playing sport.

I thought you meant proper water bottles (which the kids lose sometimes and I have also done on occasion by leaving one somewhere). Why does he care about Evian ones?!

You’re making yourself look so super busy you can’t possibly remember where you left your water bottle. Of course you can, how do you think other people who work manage, They don’t carry their water bottle around with them everywhere. You must put all your other ‘stuff’ down somewhere. You presumably have car keys or a jacket, even if you don’t have a bag. You keep it all together and collect at the end of the session. Stop wasting money buying water and get yourself a personalised reusable water bottle. You’ll help protect the environment at the same time.