To lose the odd water bottle?

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This is a very petty argument between myself and DH this morning. We are a very sporty household and as such we are often taking bottles of water out with us. We actually just reuse the plastic sports top bottles (ie. Buxton, Evian etc) as they are easier.

DH likes to think he is quite particular. He reuses the same water bottle many times and never loses it. I sometimes do lose them along the way (not that often btw).

For some context, DH plays in a sports team. He only has himself to think about. I am a sports coach. I can be running multiple teams on one day depending on the fixtures. This means I will often have multiple bags of balls, kit, first aid kit and food for the day. If I have a few teams on the go at anyone time, I might also be moving between courts etc. My DC also play in one of my sports teams so I'll also have their kit, food etc. Sometimes I put a water bottle down and don't remember where it has gone, sometimes there are multiple of the same water bottle so I don't know which is mine.

Talking this morning, DH had no understanding of how I could ever lose a water bottle and was cross with me that I do. In his mind it's as simple as you take one with you, you bring it back. He wouldn't acknowledge that actually there are times when it's really stressful for me and a plastic water bottle is not always my priority when there are many other things that are more important to remember. We had to end the conversation because it was going nowhere and we were getting really frustrated.

Am I being unreasonable to think that it's understandable that I might lose a water bottle now and again given the circumstances that I'm operating in?

Stop making excuses for littering. Lead by example.

I don’t understand why you think you can’t wash a plastic water bottle on just the same way you wash a metal one? Weird!

Can't your DH write his name on his water bottle, and you agree not to borrow it? Then he won't be inconvenienced. This seems like a pretty simple thing for him to do.

But that's the whole point - I can't go back to that place, maybe not for hours. If I've left the court and another team goes on the court, I can't just go rooting around all their stuff to find my bottle which may be under all their stuff.

Take the bottle with you then.

It's not that important to me, you're right there. It is however, frustrating that DH (and others it seems) can't understand that it might be easy to lose a bottle.

It's a shame that not leaving plastic litter around isn't more important to you.

I think you miss the point. It's not that I don't want too, just that when there is so much going on I sometimes forget.

It's not like I'm strewing litter all over the streets. It's one plastic bottle in a venue on seldom occasions. Of course I'll always take it if I can and haven't forgotten. I'm not doing it on purpose. My whole point is that it is easily done.

Good for you that you can clearly remember everything and are also a model citizen all the time. It must feel nice.

Let’s face it your DH only cares because it’s impacting on him right now and his preference to take one of those bottles rather than a reusable one!

I would probably just roll my eyes and tell him to go buy a new one.

No, not a model citizen but I am part of two litter picking groups and it's very satisfying to leave places cleaner than your found them.

She’s not doing it on purpose,

Phone in the fridge is Dementia territory

‘Decide to be an adult and not lose things’

that’s not why people lose things, it’s not anything to do with maturity, but the make up of your brain, how busy you are, etc.

Sounds like a non-issue.
He can use his own proper reusable bottle all the time and you can promise not to lose that one.

In your place I'd just be annoyed I don't have my water to drink it during the rest of the day after losing it. I'd buy a cheap rubbers or hair bands or something and put one on my bottle of the day, so I can identify it and pick up when possible and prolong the time to losing it, while accepting it will happen at some moment.

No-one is on top of ecology 100% of the time, seems buying water while being outside and reusing the bottle in situations where you might lose it is the second best option and not that big deal.

I found my remote control in the fridge when I was about 20. I’m 41 now so unless it’s advancing incredibly slowly, I’m pretty sure it wasn’t dementia.

Tell him to bog off

He's being a dick as are the pp who think it's so easy keeping multiple things going at the same time. If it bothers him tell him to help instead of judging.

Yes OP. Concentrate on your water bottle not the 10 children and their belongings. Doesnt matter if a child wanders off as long as you have your water bottle.

He sounds very patronising like my husband

This is why ds has actual sports bottles and we name them!

He’s a swimmer and it’s easy when there are water bottles everywhere and kit and moving around to leave one behind and not remember where.

Get yourself some actual bottles and put your name on them.

But yes, your DH is being unreasonable and unnecessarily nitpicking over it. It’s not even a proper sports bottle!

Whilst I realise its not deliberate, she is knowingly leaving plastic rubbish behind on a frequent enough basis that its led to this situation. And that's a bit wrong isn't it?

Surely losing a plastic water bottle is littering?
I mean if you're getting rid of them by putting them in the recycling bin, no issue, but if you're just leaving them lying around for someone else to pick up then yes UABU.

Iv 3 kids doing various sports. We lose waterbottles sometimes.

Not sure why he is so upset about a plastic evian bottle designed to be one use

Yes theres a lot of perfectly functioning people on here.....

Just get a water bottle carrier. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FDB871SP/ref=sspa_dk_detail_2?pd_rd_i=B0FDB871SP&pd_rd_w=Lipfx&content-id=amzn1.sym.7c2bff8e-4ce3-4cc7-b3f6-35ac6c74cf9b&pf_rd_p=7c2bff8e-4ce3-4cc7-b3f6-35ac6c74cf9b&pf_rd_r=GDSX19B2PYS6B6B11E8V&pd_rd_wg=CPphZ&pd_rd_r=b2a29574-a9bd-4842-80cd-1b11fb0ba9bf&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWw&th=1

I think your approach to water bottles is a bit weird, tbh. But them point is that it is ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with your DH. Why does he even know?

The assumption that keys or other important stuff would "just get lost" is one you should examine. Start with the wording - "I lose things" is a better description of what's happening than "things get lost".

Do you not have any sort of system for stowing important items at the sports venue? A backpack with several pockets for important personal items and a drink sleeve?

Do you lose a lot of items when you're at home or on holiday or if you spend a family day at the beach?

Also, unless your child is very young, she needs to learn to take care and keep track of her own kit.

I'm in camp reusable and washable stainless steel bottle. You're not supposed to wash and reuse plastic water bottles as they degrade with repeated exposure to heat and other environmental factors.

No, it boils down to not engaging your brain.