To think this is a rude text?

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I went for a trial shift a few days ago just at a little coffee shop. It’s over minimum wage and the day was ok but the manager was a bit abrupt. At the end of the shift she said to me “do you think you’ll come back?” So I said yes, I’m actually quite shy with new people and she mockingly responded “yeah” in a high pitched voice, almost teasing me as if to say you don’t seem keen.
she had got back to my application very quickly so I hadn’t had time to arrange childcare properly, I said at the end of the shift I would be in touch when I’d confirmed it was in place. This was only 4 days ago - I was going to email a list of my availability tonight.
i just got a text that read “hi. Do you not want the job anymore? Regards” that was it. No thanks for the trial shift, how did you find it. Am I reading too much into it or does that seem abrupt to you?
DH is on a good wage and I’m very fortunate I don’t NEED to work, it was just going to help a bit in the run up to Christmas.
opinions?

so I thought as long as I’d got back to her before my next “day” it didn’t matter

Well, I guess she does need to know if you are going to be available for your next shift - it would probably be difficult to get cover last minute if you decide not to turn up.

I work in a small independent coffee shop, and the rota is done two or three weeks in advance, so I think it's only fair to give some notice if you don't intend to work your next shift.

Fully agree

If you were planning to take the job before the text, I'd go ahead and give it a try. What do you have to lose? If the manager's too unfriendly, you can always change your mind and quit. If you were only planning to work there briefly, maybe you can just accept that it's not ideal, but worth a little annoyance for the extra money. On the other hand, if you have a bad feeling about this woman, there's nothing wrong with backing out now.

I think she does sound rude. And if she is sarky with you now then imagine trying to work with her - it could start to really get on your nerves.

I do think 4 days is a long time to have left it for a job like that. It's hard to tell people's tone on text, but I think she just needed to know one way or the other which is fair enough really.

It definitely needs to be known far before your next shift as she needs to know if she's still recruiting

When you said ‘yes’ did you also say you’d enjoyed it and thank her for the opportunity? 4 days is plenty to decide and she will need to no so she can employ someone else if you don’t want it.

Abrupt woman sends text. Shocker.
I think you just need to decide whether her attitude will annoy you long term.
She might warm up once she gets to know you though.

If a manager mocked me during a trial shift I wouldn't be back. The text is a bit abrupt but it's the mocking that sounds worse to me.

I think you were rude to not let her know by 4 days, she needs staff and there may be other people wanting the job

She obv. doesnt have people skills.....or you came across as disinterested, which feels like because you didnt ask lots of questions!

Take or dont take.

I think she’s had quite a few people for a trial as I overheard her talking and saying so and so came for a trial she might be back to do that day.. she also said a lot how people aren’t turning up for interviews/trial shifts etc. It’s a family run buisness but not especially small, the cafe is just part of the attraction if that makes sense.
But yes I should’ve got back in touch sooner time just gets away with me running after my 2 and I’ve been waiting for DH to check his work calendar.
yeah I’m sure I said thank you I’ve enjoyed it.

It sounds like she was awkwardly agreeing that you come across shy. Did you get on okay with the customers? It reads to me like she’s an abrupt person but wants to give you a chance.

It’s only for a couple of months as it’s only open seasonally

@OriginalUsername2 she’s mainly back of house so I didn’t really see her interact with customers x

Well yes, it does sound a bit rude and abrupt. But having worked in a small cafe before I can tell you now they get all kinds of people absolutely pissing them about! If you want the job, then go for it and send your availability. I would just be polite back and in person and let them realise the error of their ways.
Or if you are getting a bad vibe don't bother.

Possibly she's had people not turn up for interviews, trials, and not responded to the job offer. She probably thought you were just going to go silent so was frustrated.

Personally, Id give her the benefit of the doubt. Send your availability and apologize for the delay. BUT dont be too shy to follow up payment for the trial shift! That was nearly 10 hrs work which is excessive for a trial.

It sounds like shes been messed about a lot and you appear to be doing the same if I really wanted a job id be messaging later that day or the next I certainly wouldn't of gone silent for 4 days. Have you actually sorted it now or are you still ignoring her. This needs to be high on your priority list not the bottom

Hi OP. Is your username similar to the name of the cafe?

Avoid, avoid, avoid!!

My grandad always said that in Ann her ore you are also interviewing them as well. If you don’t like how she’s communicated, and it doesn’t work for you, then don’t proceed.
Some people could brush that off, others couldn’t. But I wouldn’t expect her comms to change then what you’re seen already.

I’d get the child care sorted, message her to confirm I’m available. Pitch up for the 2 days, provide my bank details on day one, remind her it was agreed I’d be the paid for the trial and then see how it goes. You can always pack it in if she’s a nightmare to work with. Good luck with whatever you decide to do x

I don’t think there is a problem with that message, straight and to the point.

However when I run my messages through AI it always add pleasantries before and after. It just doesn’t cross my mind to use them.

Give it a go, you can always quit!

I think 4 days is a long time to accept a job tbh. She thinks you’re as flaky as the others who have let her down. If you can’t respond within a day you at least send a holding message.

Honest opinion

If it’s an immediate start job and you’ve done your trial shift and agreed that you want to come back then 4 days of radio silence from you I understand why they want to know if you want the job or not. Some people are blunt texters and she might of not meant it rudely like it came across. If you want the job you should of sorted childcare in a day or two if it was important for you.

Are you sure she said “yeah” in a mocking way. Sometimes when you are shy / have anxiety you overthink things and I’m wondering if you’ve done that here

So you admit you were rude then? She may have been too but you don’t sound much better really, you no she’s struggled to fill the roll and then you’ve left her waiting days because you are busy. Just let her no you don’t want the job.