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5 days in the office - rant!!!

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DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:22

My company mandated 5 days in the office a couple of months ago, which in principle I have no issues with. However, my commute is just over an hour on motorways that have long term roadworks, so massively tedious and today I have no meetings so absolutely no reason to be here other than presenteeism. Could have got so much more done and also all my housework if I could've worked from home 😖Just needed to get that off my chest!!!!

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Empress13 · 25/09/2025 17:18

Your comment re housework has backfired on you OP . Think you may have had different responses had you not mentioned it just saying

wordler · 25/09/2025 17:19

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 17:11

Not all jobs (or many Jobs) are, but many, many projects are resourced managed by timesheet which was the example given.

what you’re suggesting doesn’t mean you are idle for 20% of the week, as per the original post. You’re making up the idle time later, as most people who manage their own time do. You’re working 100% of the week, not 80%.

Sorry - I read the original poster as the in office day made that day 80% less productive but because she more than made up for that with her work product on the other four days her company was happy.

User21548967 · 25/09/2025 17:24

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 17:15

I think this is what people mean when they say their time is wasted in the office. That they attend non value add meetings and participate in conversations they don’t think they need to be in.

but if your employer views that as your work, it’s not wasted is it?
It’s not how you want to be spending your time but if the employer is happy, happy to pay you for meetings and happy to judge your performance including the meetings, then it’s not a waste of time in their view.

IMO many meetings are unnecessary. The directors and senior management committees are not the people requesting them. The meetings are being run by middle management who need to show their role has a place. They sell them to their teams by saying they are making sure everyone has a voice which is nothing more than a box ticking exercise. In reality they are simply to justify team leaders/supervisor type roles in corporate offices. Very little add value to the attendees. I have a daily meeting that is useful. I have a long weekly meeting that is absolutely pointless. At least at home, I can put it on speaker and do things around my house, scroll on my phone etc.

wordler · 25/09/2025 17:29

Daygloboo · 25/09/2025 17:08

Im.not sure, but I think I was responding to someone who suggested they could do their WHOLE job in less time than they were being paid for. I think that is slightly different from.what you are saying.

But many people are not being paid for their time but their skills and expertise.

Lots of us don’t have set specific hours - just deliverables.

wordler · 25/09/2025 17:34

Also that’s the mark of a good manager when you have hired someone because they have a lot of skills and expertise and deliver a brilliant work product, if they can do it in less time than it would take someone else, you don’t make them do busy work to make sure they do their ‘hours’.

You give them breathing room and time to get excited and ready for the next challenge or project.

Growlybear83 · 25/09/2025 17:42

TheCurious0range · 25/09/2025 09:59

If you can do your housework while you're working you're not giving your job 100% of your attention while your employer is paying you to do so. This is why employers are moving away from remote working

I agree completely. Millions of us managed to work full time in the office before the pandemic. I don’t think a journey of an hour each way is particularly long - I used to spend an hour and a half each way, and my daughter was commuting from south London to Birmingham when she was living here last year.

Cakeandusername · 25/09/2025 17:45

If it isn’t working for you apply elsewhere. I wouldn’t work in an office 5 days. I have been mainly home based for over 10 years.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 25/09/2025 17:45

Growlybear83 · 25/09/2025 17:42

I agree completely. Millions of us managed to work full time in the office before the pandemic. I don’t think a journey of an hour each way is particularly long - I used to spend an hour and a half each way, and my daughter was commuting from south London to Birmingham when she was living here last year.

This is true. However, you have to admit that once WFH became an option, a lot of people took to it like a duck to water. 1.5 hours commuting each way? That's 3 hours a day, 15 hours a week (assuming 5 days a week working) of commuting. That's a lot of time that could be much better spent elsewhere.

5128gap · 25/09/2025 18:00

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 16:30

There is no nice way to say this, but I don’t believe you 😂 I think you’re just making this up to fit in with a made up stat that’s been challenged. It doesn’t this makes sense.

The level of detail you have about reasons for employees sick leave then v now, the incredibly massive decline in sick leave, the fact that nothing else impacted it apart from wfh, the fact that you must have an very high number of disabled employees to have this impact.

Of course you 'don't believe me' You are curiously over invested in the idea other people shouldn't WFH. And I presented a list of positives which you have nitpicked over for the best part of an afternoon. When I answered each of your comments clearly and fully, you have nowhere else to go to 'win' but to accuse me of lying. If you really did disbelieve me, I'm sure you'd have said so straight away rather that pecking away for hours trying to find a hole.

Daygloboo · 25/09/2025 18:04

wordler · 25/09/2025 17:29

But many people are not being paid for their time but their skills and expertise.

Lots of us don’t have set specific hours - just deliverables.

Ok

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 18:07

The issue is that many of the more recent studies are showing reduced productivity when wfh. At the start it was the other way around.

Tww2674 · 25/09/2025 18:09

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 25/09/2025 09:49

"And all my housework"
Might just explain why they want you in the office

Do you not think they meant they could do the housework instead of the wasted 2 hour commute? Surely that’s obviously what they meant?

User21548967 · 25/09/2025 18:09

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 18:07

The issue is that many of the more recent studies are showing reduced productivity when wfh. At the start it was the other way around.

The thing with that is stats showing productivity tend to always sway in the favour of the outcome being sought.

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 18:14

User21548967 · 25/09/2025 18:09

The thing with that is stats showing productivity tend to always sway in the favour of the outcome being sought.

Funny how people weren't saying that when the stats showed increased productivity when wfh.

StinkyCheeseMoose · 25/09/2025 18:39

HairsprayBabe · 25/09/2025 11:44

@StinkyCheeseMoose they are all benefits we didn't used to have - they are now thankfully rights.

Why are you so against progress?

All the top companies and employers have a huge proportion of WFH because they know it attracts the best staff. Perhaps if your employer isn't offering it you are just crap at your job?

they are all benefits we didn't used to have - they are now thankfully rights.

Still nothing to do with working from home.

All the top companies and employers have a huge proportion of WFH because they know it attracts the best staff.

The best staff don't take the piss, so their employers are happy for them to work from home, if it's in the best interests of the business. No problem with that.

Staff who think doing the housework and laundry "while the kettle boils" shouldn't be surprised if the boss wants to keep a close eye on them. The simple lesson is, don't take the piss if you want to work from home.

Perhaps if your employer isn't offering it you are just crap at your job?

Indeed, if I was crap at my job, I wouldn't expect to be allowed to work from home. In fact I would expect to be sacked.

However, I am not crap and usually work from home unless there is reason why I need to be in the office. My employer knows they can trust me.

If I was doing laundry and housework in company time I wouldn't be surprised, or think it unreasonable if my employer wanted to monitor me. I fact, I would count myself lucky if I didn't get sacked. Company hours are for company business.

Housework and laundry are not your employer's concern.

If you see no good reason for your boss to insist you go into the office, it's probably because they know you take the piss or you are shit at your job (or, most likely both).

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 18:46

5128gap · 25/09/2025 18:00

Of course you 'don't believe me' You are curiously over invested in the idea other people shouldn't WFH. And I presented a list of positives which you have nitpicked over for the best part of an afternoon. When I answered each of your comments clearly and fully, you have nowhere else to go to 'win' but to accuse me of lying. If you really did disbelieve me, I'm sure you'd have said so straight away rather that pecking away for hours trying to find a hole.

I hybrid work and have (for 3 different companies) since I returned from Covid in 2022. I wouldn’t go into the office full time.

however. As I said, I don’t think it serves anyone to pretend there are advantages that don’t really exist. The “I don’t get any work done in the office because it’s too noisy” or “I more productive from home” or “I used to take a week off with a cold because I didn’t want to infect people” just don’t align with the reality of most workplaces. Talk about how much happier and healthier it makes you, that should be enough.

NatalieW1907 · 25/09/2025 19:07

I worked 47 years, up at 5 every morning to get train and bus both ways all year long. Wfh is a coo out like you say you needn't have been there could be house cleaning but still getting paid. If only in my day we had the choice, it was an idea through covid not forever. Now shoot me down and.tell me where to go lol

5128gap · 25/09/2025 19:07

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 18:46

I hybrid work and have (for 3 different companies) since I returned from Covid in 2022. I wouldn’t go into the office full time.

however. As I said, I don’t think it serves anyone to pretend there are advantages that don’t really exist. The “I don’t get any work done in the office because it’s too noisy” or “I more productive from home” or “I used to take a week off with a cold because I didn’t want to infect people” just don’t align with the reality of most workplaces. Talk about how much happier and healthier it makes you, that should be enough.

Sharing my experience of hybrid working here does no one a disservice or a service. It's a completely neutral act, given no one is going to be seeking out the views of strangers on MN to inform their own policies.
You have no idea what aligns with the 'majority of workplaces' and neither do I. However I do know my own and described my experience.
Funny you should allow people to claim 'happier and healthier' though. Two states not unconnected to how much time people take off sick.

HereAreYourOptions · 25/09/2025 19:10

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 18:46

I hybrid work and have (for 3 different companies) since I returned from Covid in 2022. I wouldn’t go into the office full time.

however. As I said, I don’t think it serves anyone to pretend there are advantages that don’t really exist. The “I don’t get any work done in the office because it’s too noisy” or “I more productive from home” or “I used to take a week off with a cold because I didn’t want to infect people” just don’t align with the reality of most workplaces. Talk about how much happier and healthier it makes you, that should be enough.

Not everyone is pretending. Just because you don’t see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t true for other people. I work hybrid - I get more work done on the days when I am at home than when I am in the office - that is a fact.

In the office people regularly come over and interrupt what I am doing, start having conversations that are nothing to do with work or there is noise in the background making it much harder to concentrate and I have to keep muting Teams calls. I actually quite like the non-work related conversations, but I’m not going to pretend they are anything other than a distraction. If I do a few chores at home while I take a break away from the screen - as you are supposed to do - then it’s still adds up to less non work related time.

This is my reality, whether you believe me or not.

HereAreYourOptions · 25/09/2025 19:13

So many bitter and jealous people around who simply cannot be happy for other people who might have some things better than them. Crabs in a bucket.

ResusciAnnie · 25/09/2025 19:17

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:52

Do you never multi-task?

Right exactly. DH spends all day on calls and the house is spotless when he’s WFH! Our lives work so much better with WFH 🤷‍♀️

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 19:19

I can't wfh in my job but don't begrudge those that do. However, office workers generally have short FT hours compared to other industries so it's hard at times not to roll your eyes at the commuting sob stories. I'm contracted to 50 hours a week onsite and it takes me an hour to get home in the rush hour (30 mins in the morn).

However, I have to stay until the engineers are done so it can sometimes drag on. Like last Friday was 4am-5pm onsite and it still took an hour to get home. It's the job I chose and I hate corporate nonsense so I suck it up.

sleepwouldbenice · 25/09/2025 19:20

TheCurious0range · 25/09/2025 09:59

If you can do your housework while you're working you're not giving your job 100% of your attention while your employer is paying you to do so. This is why employers are moving away from remote working

There is the time saved from the commute and lunch time. So dont be so ridiculous and jealous. In my office I have to leave at 6, at home I often work weekends or til later
So yes I can also take dog for walk, sort some washing, etc. Definitely do my hours

wordler · 25/09/2025 19:23

NatalieW1907 · 25/09/2025 19:07

I worked 47 years, up at 5 every morning to get train and bus both ways all year long. Wfh is a coo out like you say you needn't have been there could be house cleaning but still getting paid. If only in my day we had the choice, it was an idea through covid not forever. Now shoot me down and.tell me where to go lol

Did you have a job that being onsite was necessary? Or did you have a job working on a computer at a desk that could be done anywhere easily?

If the latter, why wouldn't you want to save all those hours commuting? Why does that make it a cop out?

SwingTheMonkey · 25/09/2025 19:29

StinkyCheeseMoose · 25/09/2025 18:39

they are all benefits we didn't used to have - they are now thankfully rights.

Still nothing to do with working from home.

All the top companies and employers have a huge proportion of WFH because they know it attracts the best staff.

The best staff don't take the piss, so their employers are happy for them to work from home, if it's in the best interests of the business. No problem with that.

Staff who think doing the housework and laundry "while the kettle boils" shouldn't be surprised if the boss wants to keep a close eye on them. The simple lesson is, don't take the piss if you want to work from home.

Perhaps if your employer isn't offering it you are just crap at your job?

Indeed, if I was crap at my job, I wouldn't expect to be allowed to work from home. In fact I would expect to be sacked.

However, I am not crap and usually work from home unless there is reason why I need to be in the office. My employer knows they can trust me.

If I was doing laundry and housework in company time I wouldn't be surprised, or think it unreasonable if my employer wanted to monitor me. I fact, I would count myself lucky if I didn't get sacked. Company hours are for company business.

Housework and laundry are not your employer's concern.

If you see no good reason for your boss to insist you go into the office, it's probably because they know you take the piss or you are shit at your job (or, most likely both).

Edited

You do realise that many companies don’t give a monkeys if an employee does a bit of housework during the day, if work is getting done?

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