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5 days in the office - rant!!!

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DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:22

My company mandated 5 days in the office a couple of months ago, which in principle I have no issues with. However, my commute is just over an hour on motorways that have long term roadworks, so massively tedious and today I have no meetings so absolutely no reason to be here other than presenteeism. Could have got so much more done and also all my housework if I could've worked from home 😖Just needed to get that off my chest!!!!

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5128gap · 25/09/2025 13:46

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 13:29

It’s really bad if your company puts disability related absence into their sickness stats. That’s highly irregular and discriminatory.

I can’t think how your point relates if that isn’t what you’re suggesting.

It would be highly irregular and discriminatory if the sickness absence of people with disabilities that related to their disability was recorded and 'used against them', yes. However this doesn't mean to say that absences related to disability cannot form part of the picture when assessing a person's capability for the role, provided this has included consideration of reasonable adjustments.
Think about it. If you have an employee forced to work in a workplace who has a disability that meant they couldn't get in, so had to keep calling in sick, you think the employer could just ignore that they were hardly ever there, and retain them indefinitely? The employer would have to show they'd considered RA (like WFH) but if this was genuinely not an option, the disabled person could be dismissed.
WFH prevents this and helps disabled people stay in work.
I'm not sure why you keep picking at this with me. I know what I'm doing and it's working in my organisation.

SanctusInDistress · 25/09/2025 13:46

TheCurious0range · 25/09/2025 09:59

If you can do your housework while you're working you're not giving your job 100% of your attention while your employer is paying you to do so. This is why employers are moving away from remote working

I’m working from home. In my lunch hour I tidied up, made dinner, put washing away. This means that when children are home I can spend time with them. Everybody wins and I’m not looking for a new job. Everybody carries on winning.

SirBasil · 25/09/2025 13:47

We are in the office 5 days a week and have zero issues with recruitment. We pay staff extremely well and offer a lot of flexibility (paid time off for sports days, school events etc) plus occasional working from home (if the electricity company needs access for example).

Now reconfigure that to: we pay minimum wage and micromanage. Now you aren't recruiting people again. So you offer other benefits rather than WFH and it works for your company. My old company? not so much, they were pernickety micro-managing fuckers who expected 60 hours a week but only paid 40. When they offered WFH due to covid, people realised that it could work for them, but only under those conditions. When they tried to mandate 5 office days they very nearly lost all their bad staff.

So what companies have to realise is that they need to be attractive. Whether that is with flexibilitiy like yours, or a bit of WFH or a bit from column A and a bit from column B.

WitchesCauldron · 25/09/2025 13:53

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:52

But are you actually less productive because you can overhear people talking about Netflix? There is a difference between finding it annoying and your reduction genuinely reducing because of it.

It's a miracle anyone got anything done in the days before the internet. Can you imagine everyone working in an office !!!

CloudPop · 25/09/2025 13:55

CautiousLurker01 · 25/09/2025 11:17

Beneficial all round? If no-one is in the office, how do you mentor new/young employees? How do you share expertise and build relationships with younger staff? How do you, as a manager, keep an eye on, and support, staff who may be struggling with work/individual projects/personal issues that they feel uncomfortable discussing with team/management because they don’t actually have a relationship with anyone in the team. In many (perhaps most) jobs, the benefits have been proven by multiple studies to be in the favour of office based working. Just because YOU can do your job from home doesn’t mean it actually serves the majority of companies and industries.

I’ll leave it there as we’ll have to agree to disagree on this.

Exactly - well put. The younger generation of workers are being very short changed just so those at the other end can get their housework / dog walks / marathon training / childcare fitted into working hours

usedtobeaylis · 25/09/2025 13:56

CloudPop · 25/09/2025 13:55

Exactly - well put. The younger generation of workers are being very short changed just so those at the other end can get their housework / dog walks / marathon training / childcare fitted into working hours

The younger generation of workers also ultimately wants flexibility and to work from home.

wordler · 25/09/2025 13:59

An element to this discussion is that as we now have the technology that means people with office jobs can work from anywhere, companies don’t have to base their whole workforce in one location.

Which means they could create smaller satellite offices in less dense towns across the country. Or even the main office if they don’t need to actively be in a big town or city.

We don’t have to have everyone battling to get into central London etc.

Start putting offices in places that are cheaper to live, where people could walk or bike to the office within 30 mins.

It could regenerate so many areas, somewhere like Cornwall would give people the chance to live and work in a beautiful place and stop the death of communities from the second home / holiday rental crisis.

If businesses start to build real life balance for employees into their business plans I bet there would be many people who would see the advantages of being in the office.

HairsprayBabe · 25/09/2025 14:00

@CloudPop
I WFH in my 20s no issue, my younger siblings and cousins are all leaving/left uni and either went into or are looking for minimum 3 days WFH.

I don't know a single person under 30 who wants to be in the office full time - and I work in a young industry. I'm only 33 myself - so probably don't speak on what an entire generation wants when you are clearly out of touch.

meandmygirlstogether · 25/09/2025 14:00

SirBasil · 25/09/2025 13:47

We are in the office 5 days a week and have zero issues with recruitment. We pay staff extremely well and offer a lot of flexibility (paid time off for sports days, school events etc) plus occasional working from home (if the electricity company needs access for example).

Now reconfigure that to: we pay minimum wage and micromanage. Now you aren't recruiting people again. So you offer other benefits rather than WFH and it works for your company. My old company? not so much, they were pernickety micro-managing fuckers who expected 60 hours a week but only paid 40. When they offered WFH due to covid, people realised that it could work for them, but only under those conditions. When they tried to mandate 5 office days they very nearly lost all their bad staff.

So what companies have to realise is that they need to be attractive. Whether that is with flexibilitiy like yours, or a bit of WFH or a bit from column A and a bit from column B.

Agree. I do not think people can have a decent standard of living on minimum wage, we don’t pay anyone that, everyone gets significantly more, including trainees. Average pay rises this year were 10%. We cannot increase our sales prices, so that comes off my bottom line but I am only as good as my team so I am more than happy to do it.
The other side of that though is that, with rising unemployment and the increased reliance on AI, employees also need to be attractive. Flexibility works both ways.

soupyspoon · 25/09/2025 14:00

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:52

Do you never multi-task?

Yes one work task, multi tasked with another work task and so on.

You are obviously entitled to a lunch break and other breaks though.

Pinepeak2434 · 25/09/2025 14:01

Mentioning the housework isn’t going to help your case.

HairsprayBabe · 25/09/2025 14:02

@soupyspoon so is she not allowed to multi task on her lunchbreak - waiting for the toaster/microwave while popping the washing on etc.

My old office - back in 2015 - had a dishwasher, and I would often load/empty it of mugs while waiting for the coffee machine - there is no difference doing the same thing at home.

Beerpink · 25/09/2025 14:02

TwistedWonder · 25/09/2025 10:03

My company mandated back to 5 days in the office earlier this year and we are finding it impossible to recruit.
We have 4 roles we’ve been trying to fill for over 3 months now and as soon as the 5 days is mentioned, the candidates always pull out.

Yet our HO (which isn’t in the UK) won’t budge on it despite losing staff and being unable to recruit replacements.

Can you let me know which company via a private message. I’m willing to relocate for a decent job!

ilovepixie · 25/09/2025 14:03

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:22

My company mandated 5 days in the office a couple of months ago, which in principle I have no issues with. However, my commute is just over an hour on motorways that have long term roadworks, so massively tedious and today I have no meetings so absolutely no reason to be here other than presenteeism. Could have got so much more done and also all my housework if I could've worked from home 😖Just needed to get that off my chest!!!!

If you’re doing housework during work time that kind of explains why they want you in the office

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 14:03

5128gap · 25/09/2025 13:46

It would be highly irregular and discriminatory if the sickness absence of people with disabilities that related to their disability was recorded and 'used against them', yes. However this doesn't mean to say that absences related to disability cannot form part of the picture when assessing a person's capability for the role, provided this has included consideration of reasonable adjustments.
Think about it. If you have an employee forced to work in a workplace who has a disability that meant they couldn't get in, so had to keep calling in sick, you think the employer could just ignore that they were hardly ever there, and retain them indefinitely? The employer would have to show they'd considered RA (like WFH) but if this was genuinely not an option, the disabled person could be dismissed.
WFH prevents this and helps disabled people stay in work.
I'm not sure why you keep picking at this with me. I know what I'm doing and it's working in my organisation.

You’re missing the crux of the statement though- “our sickness absence reduced by 80% by working from home”.

People who are having time off to deal with their disability, or disability related sickness should not be in those stats. Those stats, by their use, reflect and improvement in short term sickness.

TennisLady · 25/09/2025 14:04

WitchesCauldron · 25/09/2025 13:53

It's a miracle anyone got anything done in the days before the internet. Can you imagine everyone working in an office !!!

I know, we were a lot less productive back then! During Covid our employer noted our increased productivity, so we stayed hybrid afterwards. We get a couple of days of in person collaborative working, and we know those days are less productive give, and then days at home to get on with work properly. It works very well compared to olden times.

spoonbillstretford · 25/09/2025 14:07

YANBU. I'd be looking for another job, the commute is such a waste of everyone's time.

coxesorangepippin · 25/09/2025 14:08

Just imagine us little plebs clawing back a bit of comfort by WFH. Imagine the audacity! It's only 40 years of hard graft, pull yourself together woman!!!

But oh no, Mr. Brownlow wants to see bums on seats so we have to trudge into the office, completely unnecessarily.

And some of the plebs agree with him!!!!! They think they might someday actually be like him!

😂

bendmeoverbackwards · 25/09/2025 14:09

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 25/09/2025 13:45

That post might have been phrased in an unhelpful way, but I do think the best thing to do would be to start looking.

The only way companies like this will change is if people vote with their feet.

Dont think employers will have the last laugh here. Plenty of people lined up who are happy to come into the office. My daughter is currently looking for a job, doing applications is a full time job in itself and she’s not whining about WFH.

HairsprayBabe · 25/09/2025 14:13

@ilovepixie

She isn't

She has a 3+hr total commute on days that she is in the office

She would be doing housework in the commute time - not during working hours.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 25/09/2025 14:14

CEOs calling people back to the office: "People who work from home don't get any work done."

WFH'rs: "Do you think they get any work done when they're in the office, then or...?"

FWIW I work from home and go into the office once a fortnight. My company has no office (the previous office was sold off in lockdown and we've been WFH ever since), but it rents out a co-working space. Fortunately the co-working space is a 30 minute walk from home for me and I get the bus if the weather is rubbish.

It really depends on your job, but I do agree a lot of it is about being present, if only so you can be pulled into a meeting so the middle management can say you met their collaboration quota for the month.

meandmygirlstogether · 25/09/2025 14:18

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 25/09/2025 14:14

CEOs calling people back to the office: "People who work from home don't get any work done."

WFH'rs: "Do you think they get any work done when they're in the office, then or...?"

FWIW I work from home and go into the office once a fortnight. My company has no office (the previous office was sold off in lockdown and we've been WFH ever since), but it rents out a co-working space. Fortunately the co-working space is a 30 minute walk from home for me and I get the bus if the weather is rubbish.

It really depends on your job, but I do agree a lot of it is about being present, if only so you can be pulled into a meeting so the middle management can say you met their collaboration quota for the month.

Do I even want to know what a “collaboration quota” is?

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 25/09/2025 14:19

People get soooo angry on here when people who wfh dare leave their desk!

I wfh and I've watched 2 episodes of MAFS today 😁 seethe away.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 25/09/2025 14:20

how is filling your own dishwasher or emptying it / putting a wash on a problem at home - when at work people often wash all the dishes in the sink or put things away / clean the kitchen area while waiting for the kettle to boil or heating my lunch up! In my workplace we are encouraged to stop for tea / coffee breaks and have it away from desk for breaks from the computer!

You can't literally sit at a computer for 7 hours and be doing work only the entire time.

Lispbon · 25/09/2025 14:20

PumpkinSparkleFairy · 25/09/2025 11:45

Why does it make me “look weak” that I find it distracting to have multiple people talking loudly on the phone or catching up about their weekend inches from my desk, while I try to concentrate on the latest payments legislation or whatever? That’s before you get into any type of ND (known weaklings huh 😂).

Open plan offices are just rubbish for most work IME - poor for concentration, unprofessional for clients to hear other conversations happening in the background, and awful for confidentiality. I had my own office for years (or shared with one other person) before moving to my current firm, and it was SO much better. You can have people round to your office for calls and meetings easily, and just shut the door so others aren’t disturbed. I assume open plan just saves a truckload of money for the firm.

Anyway sorry I digress - and very weak of me to expect a suitable working environment I know 😂

I’m relatively senior, been in the business years, a good listener and like a laugh. So when I’m in the office I tend to get a succession of people who all want to come for a chat, they know I’ll ask after their health, families etc. If that benefits them, great but I really don’t need it and it’s a distraction, though I’d never refuse them. Joining teams calls in the open plan office, can’t hear a thing so I take my laptop to a tiny booth and I’m now on 1 screen, not 3, so can’t screen share, view the attendees, make OneNotes at the same time. The work I do during my commute time before core hours commence isn’t imaginary. It is often done in my pyjamas, then I’ll shower.

After my last call is done on wfh day I can be in the kitchen getting dinner sorted, leaving me time to go for a quick drink with my partner, so quality of time for me and I’ve delivered for my employer.

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