Why does sex seem to be just a commodity these days?

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This is a subject which I genuinely find mystifying and it isn't criticism! Could people please tell me why so many find it acceptable to jump into bed with a man on their first date these days, or why sex seems to be so cheap now? From reading posts on here, It seems to me that it is considered quite OK to have a 'friend with benefits', Don't people want to get to know a prospective sexual partner and develop a relationship with them before indulging in sex any more? It all seems a bit sad and soulless to me!

Sex isn’t a commodity to be withheld or traded.

If I like someone and I want to shag them, I’m going to shag them. First date, or 21st date.

It’s really not that deep.

This.

I’m a MN cliche in that DP and I went home together on our first date. We’re still going strong, but even if we didn’t work out I have zero regrets r.e. our first date. It’s what we both felt like doing and it was fun. 🤷‍♀️

I love sex. It’s that simple. I also don’t want to waste my time if it’s not good.

I have slept with people on the first or second date and then gone on to have a relationship.

I fully accept I’m quite repressed and also damaged by church teachings in my youth, sadly, but I do think the casualisation of sex is damaging to women as a sex class; and is part of the reason conviction rates and also sentencing for the crime of rate is now completely abysmal.

Yes, I thought 'these days' was funny too.

Unless 'these days' starts from - well - the beginning of human history.

I’m not a fan but I get why people might feel it’s fine.

I could not ever get intimate with someone in a first date though, I barely know anything about them. It doesn’t make my morals any better than someone else’s though. It’s just my comfort and boundaries.

It depends how much you actually enjoy sex. I love sex and I have a high sex drive, so it's not a service I provide to a man, it's an activity I actively enjoy and when I was single, one I sought out. I didn't feel the need to put rules and barriers in place before I'd let a man shag me because I wanted the sex, not some other outcome I'd engineered by withholding it.

Can you say a bit more about why?

Women enjoying sex and more freely having sex isn't why rape convictions are bad

That sounds a lot like victim blaming tbh

Which is part of why rape convictions are so bad.mm