Wanting opinions AIBU
For transparency, I am an only child so want to ensure I am not being unfair really to DP.
We have been together a long time and looking to get married next year (already have 2 children). We live far away therefore inviting family means a commitment of a big trip.
We want something really small and budget friendly. We have looked at lovely little venues which can hold around 20 people for a meal. Perfect.
With separated parents and new husbands/wives, that's 8 people already.
Now DP has brought up his sibling...... I won't lie, she comes with a lot of drama. she doesn't get on with both step parents and it WILL be an atmosphere unfortunately. But with her , and her children plus her new partner and potentially his two children (I have never met him or his children!) it would take up over a quarter of the guests and mean we cannot have a few of our really close friends.
Friends are almost family to us being expats and we have christmases , birthdays together, watch each others children. I'd be upset to not have some there but also we don't have the budget to go larger (huge jumps in price for larger areas, seems places near us cater for 20 then 40, 60 etc).
DP also has TWO other siblings but they are very very unlikely come for other reasons. Therefore they wouldn't be the only not coming.
Would it be unreasonable to keep it parents only under the circumstances?
It will definitely reduce stress and any drama . Without sibling there we can likely do more with parents all together during the trip as sibling won't spend time with one parent / either of the step parents and means we will have to split ourselves more and deal with lots of juggling/politics.