He says I'm selfish

[Liveinthewoods80]

I didn't work for a long time because of health issues. Now I'm earning again, I want to travel while I still can.

I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to come on a long haul trip, and I would pay. (he'd taken me on a couple of hols when I was skint). He said No.

I said OK, booked my flight and went alone. He said I was selfish.

I asked him why. We don't live together or have kids, we have separate finances, I pay my way and have no debt.

He said "because there was no discussion. you just did what you wanted to do and cleared off." I disagree. I asked him if he wanted to come and I'd pay.

When we first met I told him I loved travelling and wanted to do more. I've never pretended otherwise.

AIBU?

So he thought that by telling you he didn't want to go, you would then not go and miss out on something you really wanted to do and he's calling YOU selfish!?

He loves being at home, he's really happy there, loves being in his kitchen cooking herbs and veg from his garden. And going on short trips his campervan. He loves living in the UK, just like my best RL friend, whereas I dream of sunshine, beautiful beaches and a cheaper cost of living. He's not wrong, of course, we're just different.

SHE DID!

Read the OPs initial post and you'll see that she asked him IF he wanted to come and he said NO so quite rightly she did it herself!

He sounds like a typical spoilt manbaby!