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I took down some flags and DH wasn’t happy

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LittleChopper · 18/09/2025 23:13

On my commute today, I noticed someone had hung three large St George flags on a bridge coming out of our village. They have been popping up everywhere but this particular instance I thought “I’m not having that”. On the way home I pulled over and took them down.

when I got home and DH asked why I was binning three large flags I told him and he.. had some interesting opinions. He told me I shouldn’t be pissing off people in the village, that they have every right to hang an England flag in England, and that I’m being too political.

For a start, I would argue that I’ve always been quite strongly opinionated so he shouldn’t be surprised I did it.

Just as others have the right to their opinion I have mine. We have people in the village who are migrants… why should they have to look at that. It’s clear why they were hanging there given what’s going on at the moment and I’ve never see a flag hanging in the village in the decade we’ve been here so why else would they be there now.

I’m just so disappointed with it all. With the UK, with DH.

Next time maybe I’ll add to the collection instead. 🇬🇷🇮🇪🇮🇳🇦🇫🇧🇸🇵🇰🇪🇸🇸🇩🇿🇦🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

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Digdongdoo · 19/09/2025 08:03

Simone6178 · 19/09/2025 08:02

Talk about double downing on the point I was making!

The biggest issue many of those on the left have is the total inability to take an objective view on anything. It’s their way or no way.

The Sun Tzu quote comes to mind:

  • "If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle".

Says you pulling numbers out of thin air...

User37482 · 19/09/2025 08:03

I’m brown and tbh I actually feel quite sad that the English flag is regarded as being so toxic. I’ve live abroad and there are bloody flags everywhere. I actually think that it would be better if people reappropriated the flag and made it a symbol of united identity rather than something that should be out in the bin. People should be able to put up a flag of their country without having people tear it down. Yeah for me it’s definitely connected to the kind of person who would hate me on contact. But instead of chucking the flag away I think it should be adopted by more people, detoxify it.

Yamap · 19/09/2025 08:03

Why do you assume the (presumably legal) migrants in your village are in favour of illegal immigration? I don’t think you can assume this at all.

Ukkake · 19/09/2025 08:05

Fingers crossed, someone will replace the flags you decided to take down.
Personally the more up the better, I know I will continue putting them up wherever possible.

BeHappySloth · 19/09/2025 08:06

TeenagersAngst · 19/09/2025 07:57

Please read your post back slowly. Are you serious? ‘Evil people’? You’re saying 30% of the population (with a Reform voting intention) are evil and/or stupid?

I imagine you may well know some of them. They just haven’t told you who they would like to vote for.

Edited

No, I'm not saying that they are all evil. I have acknowledged that some of them are just stupid and easily manipulated. But some of them are undoubtedly evil.

And yes, I do know some of them. Quite a lot, actually. They are not bad people, just lacking in intelligence and critical thinking skills. I pity them, because they are the ones who will end up paying the highest price.

I save my anger for the ones who are deliberately manipulating them for their own gain.

DierdreDaphne · 19/09/2025 08:07

saraclara · 18/09/2025 23:40

Anyone who's been flying a flag for years - fine, whatever floats your boat.

Anyone who's suddenly bought flags in the last three weeks and is flying them/putting them up in the streets) painting them is, 99% likely to be doing so in response to the boat people thing, and unless they can convince me otherwise, I'll assume racism.

Exactly

All the faux hand wringing "why ever wouldn't you want to see your national flag blah blah blah". We see you. For shame. These flags are suddenly going up because Tommy Robinson and his ilk are calling for it. Don't pretend you don't know that.

IstillloveKingThistle · 19/09/2025 08:07

LittleChopper · 18/09/2025 23:44

I would argue that someone who has never put up a St George’s cross and is now inclined to decorate the town with them has succumbed to propaganda and social media manipulation.

Or more that they’re fed up and have had enough of all this leftist woke nonsense.

The tide is turning. People have had enough.

And you had no right to take down an English 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 flag when you are in England. Especially when you seem to think it is acceptable to raise all other flags in the world when in England.

AngelicKaty · 19/09/2025 08:07

Simone6178 · 19/09/2025 07:32

I’ve been to a lot of global sporting events with around 100,000 in attendance. If you genuinely believe Saturday’s protest was similar in size to one of those attendances then I’ve got a bridge to sell you.

No thanks, you'll have hung St. George flags from it. 🙄

IstillloveKingThistle · 19/09/2025 08:09

DierdreDaphne · 19/09/2025 08:07

Exactly

All the faux hand wringing "why ever wouldn't you want to see your national flag blah blah blah". We see you. For shame. These flags are suddenly going up because Tommy Robinson and his ilk are calling for it. Don't pretend you don't know that.

That’s nonsense. Sadly the leftist blame this far right man for this and he hasn’t helped at all. Reality is that most people who aren’t far right at all feel much the same.

They are sick of the leftist nonsense and narrative.

LovelyBitOfSquirrrel · 19/09/2025 08:09

100% you are unreasonable and I say this as a daughter of immigrant parents. I can’t imagine an Englishman coming to India telling my parents they can’t fly their Indian flag so I’m not sure why it’s ok the other way round here. Fly your flag with pride.

Jc2001 · 19/09/2025 08:10

LunaShadow · 18/09/2025 23:16

Why does an English flag in England offend you? I live in Cornwall and there’s plenty of Cornish and English flags around. I’m currently waiting for DH to put up our flagpole (purchased in April for his birthday).

If they hadn't started to appear at the same time as all the protests and disruption outside immigrant hotels then it would be different and you might have a point. We're not a country typically 'into' flag flying. Why after all these years have you suddenly decided to buy a flag pole just as the hostility around immigration is reaching boiling point?

You seem to be missing the context of all the flags and painted roundabouts. The people who talk about reclaiming the flag are the same people who are weaponising it.

PollyBell · 19/09/2025 08:10

LovelyBitOfSquirrrel · 19/09/2025 08:09

100% you are unreasonable and I say this as a daughter of immigrant parents. I can’t imagine an Englishman coming to India telling my parents they can’t fly their Indian flag so I’m not sure why it’s ok the other way round here. Fly your flag with pride.

Because the op says so it appears

Tyddento · 19/09/2025 08:10

DierdreDaphne · 19/09/2025 08:07

Exactly

All the faux hand wringing "why ever wouldn't you want to see your national flag blah blah blah". We see you. For shame. These flags are suddenly going up because Tommy Robinson and his ilk are calling for it. Don't pretend you don't know that.

So who called for all these flags to be put up over London telling Jewish people to F.O.?

Hamas?

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TeenagersAngst · 19/09/2025 08:12

BeHappySloth · 19/09/2025 08:06

No, I'm not saying that they are all evil. I have acknowledged that some of them are just stupid and easily manipulated. But some of them are undoubtedly evil.

And yes, I do know some of them. Quite a lot, actually. They are not bad people, just lacking in intelligence and critical thinking skills. I pity them, because they are the ones who will end up paying the highest price.

I save my anger for the ones who are deliberately manipulating them for their own gain.

Yes, of course, they're lacking in critical thinking skills. I'd forgotten that one. Haven't seen it on a post in a few days actually.

BeHappySloth · 19/09/2025 08:12

Simone6178 · 19/09/2025 08:02

Talk about double downing on the point I was making!

The biggest issue many of those on the left have is the total inability to take an objective view on anything. It’s their way or no way.

The Sun Tzu quote comes to mind:

  • "If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle".

Oh, we know the enemy, and we know ourselves too. And we accept that we may not be able to fight against this tide right now, but better to go down fighting than to be silent and complicit.

It is not the fault of good people when people choose to do bad things. You can choose to pursue whatever course you like, but you need to own your choices. "They made me do it" is not a defence.

Redpeach · 19/09/2025 08:12

TeenagersAngst · 19/09/2025 07:29

Or just realistic?

Why did we bother clapping for the nhs during the pandemic, if they're just being paid

Newname42 · 19/09/2025 08:13

LittleChopper · 18/09/2025 23:24

If they were up all the time as a sign of lovely ol’ Englande, fine. But they are popping up everywhere as a sign of “get out our country” by a load of willy waving racists.

People who have risked their lives don’t need that message.

People want to put them up on their own property for the love of Blighty ? Fine, you go for it. But not public places as a sign of hate. Not in my village.

👏

All this pretended innocence ‘oh but why would an England flag offend anyone’, we all know the message behind it.

Redpeach · 19/09/2025 08:14

JustTryingToBeMe · 19/09/2025 07:30

I want to be proud of my country, my flag; it should be a source of national pride just like the Cornish, Northumbrian and all others are but instead it is being hijacked by idiots. However, instead of taking them down why can’t we put more up and shout about the MANY reasons to be proud to be English or Welsh or Scottish or Northern Irish. Take the opportunity to educate your children (and others) to be proud of their heritage but also teach them about kindness to others, whoever’s they are.
However, remember that there are people out there who are frightened by change and whose only source of information is the newspaper or their next door neighbour or some other misguided fool.
Don’t take them down, celebrate them and change the rhetoric.

I don't particularly like the cornish flag either

BeHappySloth · 19/09/2025 08:14

TeenagersAngst · 19/09/2025 08:12

Yes, of course, they're lacking in critical thinking skills. I'd forgotten that one. Haven't seen it on a post in a few days actually.

Yeah, people don't always think to state the obvious because they think it is self evident.

SpencerGarciaGideon · 19/09/2025 08:14

They've popped up in my street. In a tiny village that nobody even sees as they pass by on the motorway. It's one person who's decided to take a stand. Thing is, we have no asylum seekers in this village but we do have people from all over the UK and we have some Asian people, polish, Hungarian and Jamaican people who have lived here a long time. It worries me that people are going to think I'm racist and lump me in with this one person's Vendetta against people who aren't from here. I swear this place is like Royston Vasey at times!

Simone6178 · 19/09/2025 08:15

Digdongdoo · 19/09/2025 08:03

Says you pulling numbers out of thin air...

Can you clarify which numbers are “pulled out of thin air”?

I’ve just checked the precise official numbers:

Saturday’s march - 24 arrests

Pro-Palestine march - 890 arrests

Notting Hill Carnival - 528 arrests

Lemonandorangecheescake · 19/09/2025 08:15

AngelicKaty · 19/09/2025 07:08

"There was probably a million in attendance ..." Probably? No, there wasn't, and you can't just make stuff up unless you want to lose all credibility. Official estimates put the figure at between 100,000 and 150,000 - nothing close to a million. The Met police reckon 110,000. And so what about people not being able to attend - that argument applies to the other side too.
Everywhere you read online may be supportive, but that's because of your sources of information and confirmation bias. You might want to think about that (but you probably won't).

If you believe the "official' estimates, then that shows your naivety. Do you really think the met police and the MSM have given true figures?

See for yourself and cast your eyes over the ariel views of the march and tell me that all those people could've fit into less than two Wembley stadiums, (Wembley holds 90,000 people) It would be impossible, so actually there's no need to answer. There was most definitely closer to a million people there, probably more.

As for reading online, just choose any social media platform for a starter, and you'll see just how much of a tiny minority there are with others who share the same views as yourself.

CloudPop · 19/09/2025 08:16

Fizbosshoes · 18/09/2025 23:21

The lampposts/bridges that folks hang the flags from are generally not their own private property. If they're not committing a crime hanging them up, then surely the reverse is true, that its not an offence to remove them?

DH and I drove through an area the other day where just about every lamppost for 2 or 3 miles on a non residential A road, had flags hanging from it. We were wondering how they attached them so high up

Edited

I’ve wondered the same thing, and haven’t come to a conclusion. How on earth do they get them up there ?

TeenagersAngst · 19/09/2025 08:16

Redpeach · 19/09/2025 08:12

Why did we bother clapping for the nhs during the pandemic, if they're just being paid

Because we like virtue signalling.

Turning the NHS into some sort of sacred vessel (hence the clapping) does nobody any good. It’s a failing organisation in desperate need of reform. Clapping isn’t going to save it.

PurpleThistle7 · 19/09/2025 08:16

BellissimoGecko · 19/09/2025 07:29

Some posters are being deliberately disingenuous.

There’s a huge difference between people always having had a flag up, and putting flags up in public spaces over the past couple of months as a show of aggression to immigrants.

If people really want to help their community and show how proud they are, they could be volunteering to help their town and make it better, by litter picking, applying to be a town councillor, volunteering in any capacity, helping at food bank, joining local organisations, etc. I wonder how many of these flag-waving idiots do that?

I am an immigrant and I do almost all those things. I work and pay taxes and spend 2 weeks of my holiday allowance every year volunteering at my children’s schools and the local food bank - I have a shift on Monday. I am glad to live in the Uk and glad to raise my children here and I think it’s my responsibility as part of any community to do what I can.

But there’s definitely a new tone in conversations lately and some quite unpleasant interactions with some of my friends who are more obviously ‘foreign’. It’s unsettling and I’m uneasy.

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