Waking up late with baby

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Sunnylily · 18/09/2025 15:44

Our 3 month old baby usually falls asleep around 1–2 a.m, wakes once or twice to feed and then we both sleep again until about 11.

I’m exclusively breastfeeding and handle every night feed myself. My husband works from home and does the school run( for our 11 year-old who’s mostly independent) so I don’t ask him for help with baby at night. I handle the baby myself in the day as well except occasional help here and there as his work takes much of his time.

I pay for a cook who takes care of meals and cleaning (from my maternity pay and luckily it's affordable for us)

My husband hints that 11 a.m. “looks late,” but after nights like ours it feels like the only way to get enough rest as I don't nap. I am feeling guilty that I am not waking up earlier unlike other moms

AIBU to wake up at 11am ?

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Mulledjuice · 21/09/2025 17:45

GlitteryRainbow · 21/09/2025 16:02

I really wish my babies had read the manuals that everyone else seems to quote. My son slept half an hour at a time day or night. After about 6 months he’d go 2 hours over night if I was really lucky. He ‘d do longer in the day if driving or pushing the pushchair. There was no “putting him down earlier” if you tried that he’d take longer to get to sleep. No-one believed me how bad his sleeping was until we went on holiday with friends. All this sleep when the baby sleeps didn’t work. It would take me longer than he napped for to get to sleep.

My daughter slept better but like the OP’s baby she’d go to sleep around 5am. A woman at a baby group once asked if I’d considered putting her down earlier…of course that thought had never crossed my mind!! It was such fun staying up until 5am. She gradually shifted her sleep forwards. Now 11yo she is still a night owl not a morning person.

OP get your sleep when you can. Only you know if you are getting enough sleep. It’s a short span of time in the scheme of things that you just have to get through. One of the sayings when my kids were little was that you do what you need to do to get through. If that’s sleeping until 11am just do it.

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I wasn't very clear in my post but the only way you get them to be ready to go down earlier is by getting them up a bit earlier - just gradually each day. But it doesnt sound like OP wants to which is her shout.

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Sunnylily · 21/09/2025 21:40

Thanks for the supportive messages and constructive feedbacks.

I was feeling quite guilty feeling a bit better now 😊

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