Why is he flipping the script ?

[Karlaken]

Hooked up with a guy that Ive been talking to off and on for the first time. We had . Anyways we had very passionate sex, several times that night. I ended up leaving the next day. He has sporadically texted me afterwards. He called me I didn’t answer so I called him back, he didn’t answer…. Decided to call me two days later after I texted him and asked him why he called me. Said he wanted to call and check up on me? Said he couldn’t remember why he called me and didn’t call me back? Said that it feels like he called me two weeks ago instead of two days ago….. I ended up telling him that I regretted the sëx, cause I normally don’t get down like that.

This man flipped the whole script… said that he was drunk, which he wasn’t. Said that he didn’t even think he was going to hook up with me, that he was surprised he even seen me due to him being busy. Y’all when I tell you this man was all over me and feening to see me. He has basically flipped the script acting like I was the one pressing to hookup with him… said he couldn’t remember certain conversations that we had that night? At this point I was just wondering why the hell he was calling me … I don’t live anywhere near you nor did I contact you or initiate anything after sëx…. All I’ve been doing was responding?

This man has been watching every story I post, commenting on my pictures… yet acting like I’m doing this to him? Reversing psychology. Why are you evening reaching out to someone you obviously want to play games wih me? I ended up removing him from my socials and now he’s going to my page still watching things…

He’s had sex with you and is now not that bothered for you. But he will be back when he wants a booty call, he playing games with you to keep you on the hook

This, block him.

I can't really see what he did wrong. You missed a call from him. He called you back later and for some reason you then told him you regretted having sex with him. I really have no idea why you said that. He obviously and understandably took offense, so to protect his own feelings he made out that you chased him.

It's all a fuss over nothing. It's over, move on.

Ffs 🤦‍♀️

It went wrong because you asked why he called you. He didn't know what to say and for some reason didn't call back for 2 days. It doesn't necessarily mean anything that he left it. Maybe he was shy or didn't know what to say

He called me at 9pm my time, I didn’t answer because I was in the middle of something. I called him back after a hour. He didn’t answer…. Two days go by and no follow up or call back from him? So that’s why sent a text asking him why he called if he wasn’t going to call back… he admittedly called me after that text

All sounds very messy to me. I’d just block and have nothing further to do with him.

Nah, tell him you're not into him. Dent his ego.

What a mess. Surely it was just a one night stand that neither of you want to take further so just leave it in the past.

I think this is why you have to know someone well before you sleep with them because it causes all this weird thing on how to act after

Idk why he’s acting weird … why even text me or communicate with me after…

Really? You'd been calling a guy, you hooked up, but you think it's weird that he contacted you after? How many threads are from women upset that they've been ghosted after having sex? And the men are always called pieces of shit for having sex and disappearing. Surely calling afterwards is a normal thing to do? Even a nice thing to do?

But don’t contact me if you don’t want to….. or feel obligated to in fear of hurting my feelings. He contacted the day after which I appreciate. Yet that could have just been it, why keep contact with me and play games, and watch my socials after I already removed you?

he knows that I liked him too, so I don’t know if he’s doing it to keep me on a hook or not? The sex was very intense passionate as well.

I think you should ask him why he called then didn't call you for two days after. It could be he felt awkward or else didn't think it mattered to play it casual. Either way you will have a clearer view of the situation

Nope. I’m confused too.

You hooked up. He texted you several times afterwards and called you. You didn’t answer but called him back. He didn’t answer so you texted. 2 days later he called you again.

So far this all sounds fine. You genuinely couldn’t take the call. He presumably couldn’t take your call. You texted and he called back. 2 days is really not long.

you then sort of interrogated him. Then you told him you regretted having sex.

so at this point he’s probably feeling shit as you’ve made it clear you don’t like him.

so now he’s trying to regain his dignity

I did, and that’s when he said that he’s been busy and hasn’t called anyone back?? Said it feels like he called me two weeks ago instead of two days ago …..

I think you’re looking for drama when there is none.
Move on instead of over-analysing the event - it’s in the past now.

He sounds like a knobtard

Does it matter? If you're not interested just move on. Why waste time analysing the actions of someone you're not interested in.

I am interested, I caught feelings after we were intimate. It was really intense almost like love making? He was kissing my feet, he would lay all over my body and kiss on me, this all lasted like 4 hours ??

If you 'caught feelings' you have a funny way of showing it - by your own account of the conversation you were pretty quick to attack when you two did finally get hold of each other on the phone.

As for 'watching your socials' - it doesn't really work that way does it? The socials feed stuff to you based on what you watched before.

Anyway, whatever potential this thing had has been extinguished now, time to block him and move on.

But you told him you regretted the sex???

I think this is too much drama for him. Yes he didn’t call you back straight away but it was 10 at night so I would not have called either. Then he didn’t call which I would see as him losing interest. Then the text dramas started.

Reflect on what you could have done differently if you wanted this to turn into something and accept that it is not going to go anywhere.

No one wants to be berated for not calling within a certain time frame by someone they have only had one night with

Oh it’s the foot-kissing love-making poster from a few days ago! I remember this thread. You were confused when he chatted to you normally afterwards and didn’t want to do a long intense analysis by text of how meaningful the sex was.

Hooked up with a guy that Ive been talking to off and on for the first time.

By your own admission it's a hook up.

He's not your boyfriend. You're not dating you've been talking on and off.

I'm not sure of the issue here. There's no script to flip. He doesn't owe you anything. He's not your boyfriend. He's not even dating you and you knew that.

If you have sex with someone youve been talking to on and off, don't be surprised if this happens.

It sounds like he's more sensitive than he's letting on. I think he does like you. I think he probably did go and do something else when he missed your call and thought sure I'll talk to her again. From the sound of it, he could have taken you saying that you regret the sex to mean that you regret the sex with him! And that's why he might have flipped it. He could have thought you weren't too invested in him so he pretended he was drunk and he didn't plan to be with you either. My opinion anyway. It sounds to me like he does like you but is getting his confidence up with you and isn't sure if you are on the same page