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Pamper party for a 6 year old?!

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Worriemummy · 15/09/2025 23:27

My DD is turning 6 in a month and we asked her this weekend if she would like a party and if yes, what? In the past we’ve had bouncy castles or a tea party at home. The school parties so far have been magicians, bouncy castles, soft play etc. I was expecting something like that but no…she wanted a spa party.

apparently this is a thing now, she had the idea from a Disney programme called fancy Nancy (that she loves). A quick google showed that you hire a company to come to the house for an about 5-10 children and they give them glitter tattoos, paint nails etc. it can be for girls and boys.

im not sure how I feel about this. On one hand she very much wants it and it is very her, but she’s only 6?! I still thought we were in the magicians and pass the parcel period of life. Or am I being silly?

what do you think?

pamper party or not?

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Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 15/09/2025 23:30

I imagine a lot of the children would be bored stiff by this! I wonder if you could do some more fun stuff but introduce glitter tattoos, face painting and hair accessories for example as part of the bit at the beginning?
I wouldn't want proper nail varnish near 6yos.

Katflapkit · 15/09/2025 23:33

Not for me. Spa party at 6!

My kids (twins) had a swimming party at the local pool.

Dramatic · 15/09/2025 23:37

Yeah it's quite common round here at 5/6, the kids love it.

ThreePears · 15/09/2025 23:38

No. Just no. Most of the kids in her class (and at her party) will probably still be FIVE years old. They are little kids, and parties are for playing party games, not getting fake tattoos and have their nails done.

Think of something else this time.

Fatandfluffy · 15/09/2025 23:40

No, parties are for being children and playing not for trying to be mini adults. We’ve got to 10 and none of her class have had one. I’d judge it at 6, sorry

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Worriemummy · 15/09/2025 23:43

Thanks everyone, glad it wasn’t just me!

I’ll suggest a magician that we saw recently with face painting and soft play!

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Fatandfluffy · 15/09/2025 23:45

And just buy your own glitter tattoo set - they’re very easy to do and the kids love them at parties

WonderingWanda · 15/09/2025 23:47

You could do the magician but get some glitter tatoos to apply to the kids at the party as a but of a compromise.

VV12 · 15/09/2025 23:50

My daughters group of friends have been having ‘pamper parties’ since around this age, they’ve always loved them! The salons by me tend to give them a robe each, have nails and toe nails painted, some glitter, hair in plaits and then they play just dance or karaoke then some party food and cake 😊

Eenameenadeeka · 15/09/2025 23:53

I think I'd save the idea for when they're a little older, you only get a few years for magic/fairy/princess parties

TheLivelyViper · 15/09/2025 23:56

There's nothing wrong with a pamper party, if that's what she wants and yes it's fine for boys and girls, they are 6, they don't know gender norms unless they are coached into them. They could still play games but also do nails and hair, watch some films and then do presents. It sounds fun and it will be watered down for a 6 year old. If you change it, I'd have a good answer when she asks why not. It's not grown up unless they do the same one for older teens and young adults which they won't.

canonlydoblue · 16/09/2025 00:17

My daughters did this for a joint birthday party at 6 and 8 years. It was so sweet. They all got robes and slippers, there was a table of fancy mocktails and snacks and whilst some of the girls were having their nails, tattoos, hair done, the rest played games and did karaoke.

Futurept · 16/09/2025 00:27

I don't really see anything wrong with this if it's what she would love. Kids parties are often all the same, it'll be fun for them to have something a bit different.

Fatandfluffy · 16/09/2025 14:02

canonlydoblue · 16/09/2025 00:17

My daughters did this for a joint birthday party at 6 and 8 years. It was so sweet. They all got robes and slippers, there was a table of fancy mocktails and snacks and whilst some of the girls were having their nails, tattoos, hair done, the rest played games and did karaoke.

Start em young on the female looks obsession - well done!

Danioyellow · 16/09/2025 14:03

Fatandfluffy · 16/09/2025 14:02

Start em young on the female looks obsession - well done!

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Oh get a grip 😂

Overthewaytwice · 16/09/2025 14:05

My sons are nearly 5 and nearly 3 and both love a pamper! We tend to do a mini pamper session on a Sunday evening each week. The oldest especially would be thrilled if he got an invite to this kind of party.

Ojisfine · 16/09/2025 14:19

This sort of thing makes me so sad. The last 6 year old party my DD went to had a make up station. And they were all dressed like little teenagers.

Bouncy castles and princesses all the way for me!

hoohaal · 16/09/2025 14:22

Aw I think it’s a nice idea.
We went to one when my Daughter was 4 and they were definitely too young for it.

They had their nails, hair and lipstick done but they were bored after a little while.

6 might be a better age for it though! You could always have some party games going on for those waiting to have their ‘spa treatments’ etc

Blondeshavemorefun · 16/09/2025 22:14

Dd had one for her 8th but she /friends love make up etc

lady came and in robes and hair bands they did face masks, nails , glitter tattoos , hair . Dancing

if she wants it I don’t see the harm

def not swimming parties at 6 unless have lots of helpers. Parents don’t like getting wet

Bitzee · 16/09/2025 22:26

DD went to one when she was 7. Whatever the company they’d hired used crappy cheap products, she had an a horrible allergic reaction to god knows what in the face mask or facial glitter tattoo and then had to go to bed early woozy on antihistamines. So it’s a no from me unless you’re going to do it properly and source quality products yourself. I have no moral objection though!

Only other thing is that if she’s turning 6 and most of the class are still 5 then a lot of the kids won’t enjoy all the sitting around and it might descend into chaos quite quickly, especially if you’ll be inviting boys. Glitter tattoos and face paint at soft play is probably the best compromise.

edwinbear · 16/09/2025 22:43

DD had a party like this about that age. They made mocktails, glitter tattoos, nails (with kids nail varnish) and she brought a Photo Booth thing with a Polaroid camera, hats, daft sunglasses and scarves. I think they may have crimped their hair/put fancy plaits in but can’t quite remember. I’m fairly certain there were a couple of foot spa things. They had a great time, DD is 13 now and has very little interest in make up.

Blondeshavemorefun · 16/09/2025 23:03

Bitzee · 16/09/2025 22:26

DD went to one when she was 7. Whatever the company they’d hired used crappy cheap products, she had an a horrible allergic reaction to god knows what in the face mask or facial glitter tattoo and then had to go to bed early woozy on antihistamines. So it’s a no from me unless you’re going to do it properly and source quality products yourself. I have no moral objection though!

Only other thing is that if she’s turning 6 and most of the class are still 5 then a lot of the kids won’t enjoy all the sitting around and it might descend into chaos quite quickly, especially if you’ll be inviting boys. Glitter tattoos and face paint at soft play is probably the best compromise.

My lady asked if any allergies and we had forms to fill out

as have the 3 other pp dd has been to

Chinsupmeloves · 17/09/2025 18:32

Goodness, I agree with you, leave this type of stuff til an older age. Music, dancing, games are much more suitable.

Lilywc · 17/09/2025 18:39

Hi this is SO normal!
I’ve been facepainting & doing glitter tattoos for almost 15 years , I’ve done spa parties the kids love it , nail polish kids makeup,hair braids, making beaded jewellery
etc do it ! You’ll be able to join in! lol

AllFadestoBlack · 17/09/2025 18:47

I think some adults are making this into something it's not. It's little girls playing, my three year old likes to put face cream on me and do my make (which I'm not precious about as I let her do it!).

My six year old plays with make up at times and likes to paint her nails. She's certainly not older than her years, in fact she's quite young compared to some peers.

If your daughter wants a spa party let her have one though maybe have games or other entertainment planned as it might not be enough to fill two hours or however long the party will be.