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Pamper party for a 6 year old?!

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Worriemummy · 15/09/2025 23:27

My DD is turning 6 in a month and we asked her this weekend if she would like a party and if yes, what? In the past we’ve had bouncy castles or a tea party at home. The school parties so far have been magicians, bouncy castles, soft play etc. I was expecting something like that but no…she wanted a spa party.

apparently this is a thing now, she had the idea from a Disney programme called fancy Nancy (that she loves). A quick google showed that you hire a company to come to the house for an about 5-10 children and they give them glitter tattoos, paint nails etc. it can be for girls and boys.

im not sure how I feel about this. On one hand she very much wants it and it is very her, but she’s only 6?! I still thought we were in the magicians and pass the parcel period of life. Or am I being silly?

what do you think?

pamper party or not?

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BoredZelda · 20/09/2025 10:51

CherryLaine · 19/09/2025 23:53

Why is it such a bad thing to be “into your looks” on here?!

I am “into my looks”. I like make up, getting my nails done, going to the spa. Getting all dressed up for a night out. I’m also a solicitor and i play hockey.

I mean it’s hardly held me back or made me feel like my only role in life is to sit and look pretty. One party isn’t going to do that. If your girls grow up to believe they are simply ornaments then that’s for far deeper reasons than a princess pamper party at age 6.

Are you 6?

Do you go into your office barefaced?

CherryLaine · 20/09/2025 11:07

BoredZelda · 20/09/2025 10:51

Are you 6?

Do you go into your office barefaced?

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Nope. I have terrible rosacea for one.

The point is, why is it a bad thing to grow up caring about how you look? It’s a bad thing if it’s your whole life and personality but for most people that’s just not the case.

JMSA · 20/09/2025 11:31

Katflapkit · 15/09/2025 23:33

Not for me. Spa party at 6!

My kids (twins) had a swimming party at the local pool.

Did parents have to get in? I would HATE this if so!

Cocktailsandcheese · 20/09/2025 12:32

Fatandfluffy · 19/09/2025 22:51

But thats just depressing no? As an adult I don’t think ‘the best time ever’ is to put my feet in warm water and have someone do my nails. It’s just what girls say when they’re being conditioned to be ‘little ladies’

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Nothing depressing about it. It's perfectly ok to enjoy these things! They all had a great time, including the boys, it's definitely not about conditioning anyone, it's just fun!

Fatandfluffy · 20/09/2025 15:50

AliceMcK · 19/09/2025 23:44

The same message I got watching my mother curl her hair and apply crazy blue eye shadow back in the 80s and the same message my mother got from her mum in the 50s with her big bouffant and eye winged eyeliner and so on and so on right back to the start of civilisation when people started applying cosmetics.

And before you start, it’s the same for men, teddie boys, quiffs, (1950s) gelled back and side partings (1920s), pudding bowl haircut (medieval times) the same with facial hair trends (Charlie Chaplin, Salvador’s Dali, Tom Selleck…)

So give it a rest on girls these days rubbish fgs!

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You don’t quite understand though - watching an adult doing their make-up is not the same as encouraging 4/5yr olds to spend their ‘party time’ having their make-up and nails done.

The latter is suggesting that adults believe that’s what little girls should be spending their free time thinking about. Looking pretty, rather than running around having riotous fun at a party.

I love make-up. My 11yr old has started to like it too. I am fine with that. But she has never equated that to thinking that an afternoon pamper party is what childhood fun is. Make-up etc is what you do to feel good before you go and have the actual fun

NewDogOwner · 20/09/2025 16:20

We used to hire a face painter for parties so they can still have fun and run around but be fancy and glittery - or a giraffe - if they want.

FancyQuoter · 20/09/2025 16:25

Worriemummy · 19/09/2025 23:14

Updated

I have booked the local village hall with a bouncy castle (and some soft play for younger siblings).

we've got a magician who does party games coming and a lady who does face painting and glitter tattoos!

hopefully she’ll love it! I am planning on making a Barbie themed cake with icing nail varnishes etc as a compromise! 😂😂

your DD is lucky, it sounds like the perfect party!

I hate "pamper parties" for little girls, most are bored shitless and it's such a waste of a party. They will outgrow kids parties soon enough, why not sticking with things age-related. Even "pamper parties" get old when you have them every year for a decade 😂

Glitter tattoos are perfect.

Itsnaptime · 20/09/2025 16:36

I don't see the problem..... She's probably bored of having the same parties every couple of weeks and wants hers to be remembered. The women are well trained and knows what products are safe for their young skin
Reminds me of when I was little and my mum would paint my nails etc. I think they'll enjoy it

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