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Angry my manager has taken away WFH perk?

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ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 01:09

Am I unreasonable to be angry that my manager has taken away my wfh perk whilst I’m on maternity?

I have put in a proposed flexible work plan.

I used to do Tuesday - Thursday on site and Friday morning at home.

I requested to do less hours so I can drop the kids off to school and pick them up and keep my wfh Friday morning hours.

He’s rejected it and basically cornered me into just doing Tuesday- Thursday on site but I don’t want to reduce my hours too much so I’ve had to add an hour in the morning which means rushing my kids to breakfast club and nursery.

I am annoyed because on my last maternity 6 years ago, I applied for another job in another department which guaranteed wfh and my manager promised me more flexibility and wfh when I able to to keep me in his team.

But I feel like he’s used this maternity as an excuse to take it away from me. It’s not in my contract, it was an agreement between me and him.

What would you do? I feel like emailing him to say I am disappointed in him. Not many of our team like him but I used to rate him quite highly on the surveys etc because he always let me be. But I am really disappointed. I should have gone to the other team.

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ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 14:58

DramaLlamacchiato · 15/09/2025 14:09

You don’t have to give a reason for your request. They have to give a reason for the refusal.

According to the template on the .gov website, I do.

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pinkdelight · 15/09/2025 14:59

lalalalalala2024 · 15/09/2025 14:51

@Rosscameasdoodyhe absolutely does need to give a statutory reason as to why she can no longer work from home on Fridays when she did that previously. There is only 8 reasons why he can decline this.

OP has gone into all this, about a recent inspection, detriment to the business, and all that side of things which HR has backed the manager up on. She's also said she doesn't know what this side-bar argument is about and has resolved the matter with the manager in a satisfactory way for them both, so I'm not sure why it's going on. Nor why I'm reading it tbh, but carry on it you're enjoying arguing the toss...

ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 15:13

pinkdelight · 15/09/2025 14:59

OP has gone into all this, about a recent inspection, detriment to the business, and all that side of things which HR has backed the manager up on. She's also said she doesn't know what this side-bar argument is about and has resolved the matter with the manager in a satisfactory way for them both, so I'm not sure why it's going on. Nor why I'm reading it tbh, but carry on it you're enjoying arguing the toss...

HR haven’t backed him up. They haven’t replied nor would they argue his point. They don’t really know how it would affect our team. Whatever he says goes.

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CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 15/09/2025 15:14

ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 11:18

He works for the HMRC. He’s a contractor for them…

Then he's not self-employed.

He's an employee of an umbrella company (likely PSR) as he will be deemed inside IR35 as per off-payroll hires.

Or he's an employee of a consultancy.

HMRC will not touch Schedule D contractors.

I think you don't understand employment contracts in detail or in spirit.

His, or yours.

pinkdelight · 15/09/2025 15:17

ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 15:13

HR haven’t backed him up. They haven’t replied nor would they argue his point. They don’t really know how it would affect our team. Whatever he says goes.

Oh sorry, you said they will not they already had - HR will side with him as he’s arguing it’s business needs - but I guess it amounts to the same thing.

missmollygreen · 15/09/2025 15:37

ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 01:41

He CC’ed HR into the emails replies from himself when I only approached him so they are aware and he’s covered his back.

I am the only person with this perk - rest of team don’t have this perk even when they have requested.

I am not sure what HR can do when it’s an agreement -between me and him and it’s not in my contract.

Edited

No wonder the rest of the team dislike him and you do/did.

He is probably worried they will think you are getting even more preferential treatment and it will cause him even more grief.

ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 16:10

missmollygreen · 15/09/2025 15:37

No wonder the rest of the team dislike him and you do/did.

He is probably worried they will think you are getting even more preferential treatment and it will cause him even more grief.

The rest of the team have on site roles with no wfh options… unless you take the equipment home (which you can’t). My role can be wfh as I check paperwork. If I applied elsewhere, the role would most likely hybrid. If they applied elsewhere, they would still be on site. Hence why no ones really questioned why I wfh… that I know of.

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ZaHaK · 15/09/2025 16:12

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 15/09/2025 15:14

Then he's not self-employed.

He's an employee of an umbrella company (likely PSR) as he will be deemed inside IR35 as per off-payroll hires.

Or he's an employee of a consultancy.

HMRC will not touch Schedule D contractors.

I think you don't understand employment contracts in detail or in spirit.

His, or yours.

He has a limited company so he’s employed by “his own company” and he’s outside IR35.
He’s a contractor for a lender who HMRC use.
He’s been there a while.

Mortgage lenders class him as self employed so 🤷🏽‍♀️.

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