To no longer care about men or the male gaze

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Having turned 45, it has dawned on me that my life is less and less centered on booked. Dh and I have t been doing all that great for years, don't share a room or have sex but actually not all that bothered. Clearly it's due to the change but I just don't care about their shit anymore. As a professional woman, I interact with plenty at work. However, much of my world is now pretty female centered and that's kind of ok. Never thought that would be the case but that's kind of where am at. I could easily have half a life to go and while so much is focused on male/female dynamics, am just not bothered. Is that what most people feel after the change or just me?

I wish I had the promised invisibility. However in my experience its more that they don't WANT to see us because we're no longer of interest. But they CAN see us and are most annoyed when we speak up or make our presence felt.

I don't relate to a lot of what people spout under the name of feminism. I am a feminist though as I believe in equality for women. I have no hate for men, I care about male issues such as the high rates of male suicide, I'm not anti-trans but I am a feminist.

I do not mind admitting I loved male attention, but from the men I wanted attention from I loved that I could wrap men around my little finger

doesn't make me less of a feminist

for me losing my looks or becoming invisible is not depressing I still put an effort on to look good but I am well aware my looks/attractiveness have faded, its just life . First time I really noticed this was when I was waiting to cross the road and no one stopped. Recently I realised I am now at an age where young men feel safe to practice their flirting techniques with me 😆I used to do the same though I believed older men were not interested 😏

I see young women having this power and I think good on you enjoy it (yes I am aware it is not always nice to be on the end of attention I didn't enjoy it all)