Parents said my maternity photos were “erotic”

[Ttcgirl89]

I had maternity photos taken on the beach when I was pregnant. I live in Australia and am from NZ and recently my parents came to visit us and meet our baby. I was looking through photos and my dad said that the maternity photos were “erotic” and my stepmum agreed. My brother asked what we were talking about and my Dad was like “you don’t wanna look at them, they’ll make you blush”.

I sent the photos to them after I had them done months ago and I thought they were so lovely and special. They were taken at “our beach” where my husband and I swim in summer I am wearing a dress in all of the photos and my bra is covered, with the buttons down the front undone to show the belly. My husband and I don’t see anything erotic about these photos at all and I was shocked that they thought that. I feel really awkward and embarrassed now that I sent them to them if that’s what they thought about them!

Is this a weird reaction to seeing your daughter’s maternity pictures?

Eyecatching for sure!
My wife wouldn't have wanted these, but each to their own of course.
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He seems to make a lot of money out it, depending how busy he is of course.

Call me a humourless misery. idgaf, but I’m so sick of men mocking women like this for every aspect of their lives.

@Notmyreality Precisely .

I suppose your dad doesn’t really wanted to be confronted with the fact that his baby girl is having sex. 🫣.
Yes I know you will soon have an actual baby but thats a new person to love.

He seriously needs to grow up then.
And yes, OP, I also find it a weird and disconcerting comment for him to make.

Yes, it seems really inappropriate.

Grim.

Are you Chad?
Very artistic.

I think it’s nice you had pictures done OP and have a lovely memento for a time in your life that was special for you.
I don’t see anything wrong with people wanting to celebrate their pregnancy and take pictures for themselves to look back on an happy time and you didn’t splash the pictures all over social media.

I can also see why some people aren’t comfortable with looking at baby bumps, they make me feel a bit squeamish - especially some of the pictures women have taken that are intended to be erotic and they are fully or partially naked. I am happy to celebrate someone’s pregnancy but don’t need to celebrate or think of the conception and it feels like that’s the image some of these pictures are trying to achieve 😂.

Not everyone enjoys being pregnant and for some people it’s not for them at all.

I think you have had some harsh replies and there are some mean spirited comments on here. I find it frustrating though that because some people have simply stated they don’t enjoy seeing pregnant bellies that others have commented that they must be bitter or jealous that the didn’t experience pregnancy or have passed that stage in life. It’s hypocritical that in some of these responses people are saying that it’s wrong to criticise others choices then use it as an insult that those who choose not to get pregnant must be bitter and resentful for missing out!

I really don’t understand why some people think that their own choices and experiences must be what everyone else would want. I just think we should accept people are different and not judge and if it’s not affecting you in any way then there is no need to give negative comments. It’s fine to have and share an opinion on things, that’s what makes a good discussion but there is no need to insult people who do things differently.

You’ve been a good sport despite some of the uncalled for responses and this thread has been amusing when you bypass the negativity.

In your view. Plenty of people here have said its icky (including myself) I can't bear them.

Op

I hope you are still giggling along

My next tip when you see a pic of your dad on holiday is to reply with a very arch ' ooh a bit erotic dad'

point will be made and everyone will lol

I don't like them
Always look painfully distended, like you need a massive fart

Agree with this.
OP says and I was proud of what my body was doing....

But bodies do so all the time, fine to be proud but not everyone wants to see it. They can be equally proud without seeing the photos.

I'm the same as PP who can't stand a pregnant belly, whether mine or a loved one's. Could never put my hand on someone else's voluntarily.

Having photos sent and shown to visitors is much. I'd just delete or make the right sounds.

Good that they spoke up, so no need to send future pregnancy ones is any.

Only if he's posing for a photoshoot with his shirt or trousers unbuttoned.

Don’t mind your parents
They’re just being old fashioned !!!!!

Congrats on your pregnancy 🎈. I hope everything goes really well for you .. ☺️

No def if he posts ANY PIC

that is the point

I know this is not the issue, but I’m struggling to get the point of a photo like that. Why does your belly have to be bare? Wouldn't the bump be visible through clothes, especially tight-fitting ones?

From a male perspective, yes. Something being erotic isn't really related to how naked someone is. For instance, underwear and bikini = just as much skin revealed, yet a woman in her underwear is far more erotic than bikini. Equally, a woman fully dressed yet revealing some skin that wouldn't usually be revealed could be considered more erotic than in a bikini.

For work last year, I had to spend more time than I'd like looking through something called the Amateur Voyeur Forum. Involved a lot of people scouring through photographers websites trying to find unpassworded boudoir galleries and the like. Maternity galleries seemed to be very very popular on there, so some people at least definitely find them erotic.

I'm in Australia, on the Gold Coast and I've never personally come across a maternity shoot on the beach. I'm sure that they do happen though.

I'm sorry, as this will probably sound offensive, but they do seem to be a certain demographic that has them, I'm thinking cashed up bogan. I'm prepared to be wrong about that though, as maybe everyone is getting them, but only the cashed up bogans are sharing them online.

My guess is that your mum and dad are from an era that just didn't do these things at all. Film was expensive, getting photos developed was more expensive and so this is a far more recent phenomenon. That said, when a friend has posted theirs or shared them with me, I've always made a nice comment. It's a shame that your parents weren't a little more tactful. It's possibly a bit like thinking about your own parents having sex. Nobody wants to think about that. For your parents, they're probably really looking forward to your child being born, but they don't want to think about how this happened.

Honestly, if you want some nice photos of you and your growing baby, then go ahead. They will be lovely memories, for you. They're really not for anyone who you're not close to though, and possibly not for the older generation.

My guess is that your mum and dad are from an era that just didn't do these things at all. Film was expensive, getting photos developed was more expensive and so this is a far more recent phenomenon.

😂 How old do you think OP's dad is, @ItsNotMeEither?

They sound a bit prudish like a lot of brits.. being pregnant can be a beautiful special time so enjoy it but keep your pics to yourself I wouldn't send my dad or brother pics of my tummy or anything though just keep them for yourselves and baby in the future it's a personal & private time too.

Could you not have found something to wear that showed off your uncovered belly, without making it look as if you were in the middle of getting undressed? I think that's the element that will have made your father feel uncomfortable?

I mean, about 20 years ago my brother and SIL gave my parents an actual printed photo of their baby crowning so yeah... A bump photoshoot is very mild in my family. (My parents were absolutely horrified.)

Have they ever seen you photographed as you were getting undressed, though? They could be excited by your growing bump without that.

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